Sam’s Hangout #95 - β€œONE HABIT”

"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude. - Colin Powellβ€œ


Hello everyone, my beautiful hive naija people, it's another beautiful weekend and we are so happy to have you here once again. It’s another weekend and also, a new year to buzz the hive blockchain even as we connect with ourselves. It just feels good to get everyone together every weekend to talk about random things and just have fun.

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OBJECTIVE

As we all know, Sam`s Hangout is focused on promoting the togetherness of the Nigeria brethren through engagement and it's also now concerned of the well being of each and everyone who is part of the engagement. This account was opened to make the engagement more personal and official. You can find the INTRODUCTION POST to read more about the purpose and aim of this account and also do well to follow the account so as to know when a post is made.


Weekend engagement every weekend on Hive was originally created by @ galenkp as he founded the Weekend-Engagement community and initiative. I thought it would be nice to have a weekend engagement too in a Nigerian way for everyone that cares to be a part of it.


Moving forward, Aside chatting and gisting here in the comment section, Feel free to post your weekend activities in the Weekend-Experiences Community.

Please do follow the rules of the community! And check the community for the recent topics



The last time, the topic was ”JAPA DREAMS"

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We had 200+ comments in our last hangout. Everyone came together and shared their interesting and honest opinions about the topic. There were jokes, harmless banter, and valuable lessons. It’s still getting exciting! Let’s see if we can still beat our all time high this weekend again, shall we? πŸ‘€. Please let’s try to make sure to encourage every response to the discussion by leaving a comment. It has always been so nice seeing people who dedicate their time to engaging and sharing their thoughts and ideas with us, I want to appreciate you all for the consistency, quality engagement and your efforts, let's keep them coming. Special thanks to everyone who makes this hangout possible.

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I will drop a topic every Friday (Today's topic is below), share your thoughts on the matter, reply to someone else opinion, and interrogate the opinion if you like. Keep the discussion on. If you don't have anything to say about the topic. Just reply to someone else's comment. And also tag your friends to join us.

Do all these in the comment section, as that is where it all goes down.

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ONE HABIT


Now to our discussion for this weekend! We will be discussing β€œONE HABIT”. It’s always best to recognize what’s important to us and if they are many, what comes first. Habits are as a result of things we feed our minds daily, both passively and actively.
Here’s the question!

”What is that one habit you have realized you need to outgrow?”

OR

”What’s your excuse for not accepting this change or have you started working on changing it?”

Our hangout is still in mind and plans are still forming to make it a reality. Check out our last post to stay updated.Here’s a link to the post. Thanks to everyone that has contributed and is contributing towards the success of this hangout. Keep supporting the plans as we are making good progress.

Remember, the aim of the hangout is to bring people together, particularly Nigerians. So make sure you have this in mind when responding to the questions. And feel free to add even more to it if you have more.

If you know you have a topic you would want us to discuss about, please feel free to suggest them to us. All you have to do is suggest the topic in the comment and tag @sam.hangout to it.


Okay Let's Gist!!!

Be as simple and sincere with the discussion, hehehe.

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Don't you think we are forgetting somebody?... Well, I'm sure we are...

FRIDAY PLANS, OWANBE SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY REFLECTIONS

On Friday, we talk about our goals for the weekend. Will you be indoor throughout or do you have a date to plan? Owanbe Saturday is a day to share interesting gists about parties. You can also share pictures. On Sunday, we reflect and share our plans for the new week. Let’s see how it goes!

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There are no further rules, please banter as you like, speak any Nigerian language (Igbo, Yoruba, pidgin, Efik), anything, as long as someone else can understand.

Pls note : However, please don't take it to the extreme.

With all that said, let the discussion begin...

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Let's get the hangout started

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Happy weekend, Dave πŸ€—

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Lol I'm back now.😊

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So early. Love it!πŸ˜‚ Happy weekend to you.

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One Habit I have come to realise I need to outgrow, is the habit of chewing my nails, wait seriously... It might be funny to you, but to me it's something I really do struggle with like crazy, one week, you see me with clean nice nails the next weeks I have eaten it, and it not that I chew it consciously, I have noticed that it is whenever I am either stressed, tensed, in a bad mood, or I'm being absent minded, before I realise , I have already eaten the nails .
It's a really bad habit.

Now what's my solution, I result to fixing presson artificial nails, why? Because it helps me avoid chewing on my nails , but then , going to the nail tech requires money , every two - three weeks , it's actually not easy to do this.

I try to now listen to how I react to things and I avoid allowing anything that's not worth it stress me. Cos this is the best I can do for me for now.

@henryjnrr the hangout has started today and ends on Sunday night.

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This is funny,πŸ˜‚ but I also realize how it has grown into a problem for you, one that needs to looked into in order for change to happen. I think the press on nails are a good solution, as it's a difficult habit to outgrow especially as an adult.

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😭 I'm fighting with myself badly in this
@cohlson can you relate.

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For real i can relate but thank God i can control it now.
You have to try too.

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Ohh, you used to do that?

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You have outgrown it. I haven't been able to outgrow mine and it's really difficult

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This is kind of funny but relatable because I know a few people who do that. Funny enough, they still do that even while grown, and it's mostly an unconscious effort.

I was meaning to say how do you manage to cope with your artificial nails that you might fix as a lady. Not knowing it was your initial way of addressing the habit.

I remember some people said they put pepper in the fingers of children to stop them from chewing the nails. I'm not saying you should try it oo.πŸ˜… But it's good to see you're trying to fight the habit.

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Lol ya wicked, I have jumped all the other things and concerntratednon the pepper part . Chaiiii see me na.
I no blame you

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I can bet that the artificial nails hasn't solved anything.. you still chew it. 😫😫

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😭🀦 God of mercy, really. I can't bite plastic na.
But it's like this, when I unconsciously go for my nails like that and I have my press on , that's Wen I know I'm already allowing whatever is wrong take over.

I can chew on the press on , I can only bite it

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πŸ˜‚ I won't lie I laughed

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I know you people will laugh this my serious matter

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I've had a habit of biting my nails for a while and I'm really eager to stop. I know it can be tough to break a habit like this, but I'm willing to try sha.

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I have been trying o. But it takes one bag feeling to make the discipline go aeay

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Chai..babe
Oya do and outgrow it oo

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I will try to o. But it's not easy

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There was a time I do that too. But then, you can find your way around it, on my own end, I've stopped it, and also kept it. My nails now look like I fixed, kind of long 😁. And I've grown to love it, even though it's not comfortable at first.

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I want my nails to grow back ,but it has been difficult, it seems the nails sef knows I used to chew them, they refused to grow. Until I fix the press on.

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You are just like my younger sister, the last born. That girl has a specialty in eating her nails and would be smooth πŸ˜†πŸ˜† even me using blades or cutter sef no do pass her own. But seriously, I hate that thing. Well, I used to do that in the past until I stopped.

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Lol. God dey. I don't know how to stop self ,God will help me

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When I saw your solution I was like ,maybe I should do that but then I was like money for nail tech nko? And then my work won't allow me

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You can do presson sha and then on the work part , you can fix a shorter one. I do that.

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Happy weekend, everyone.πŸ₯³

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Happy weekend Yechee!πŸ˜ƒ

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Happy weekend to you too, Dave. Hope it's going well for you

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It's the weekend again.

Happy weekend people of this hangout.

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Happy weekend person of this hangout

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Thank you Kenny of this hangout.
How have you been, and how's your weekend going?

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Invite me over Mama

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Same here boss...
What's popping

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Nothing oo bro.
We just dey here.

How's that place?

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All of una don first me. Happy new week everyone.❣️😁

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Lol defeat accepted

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Aswear my notification was not on my side today

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Except me 😞

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Na so o

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Ehhh hmmmm this topic is like writing my name on a billboard that Afriken o na you we dey talk to.
Actually, one habit I want to outgrown is assuming. Assuming on behalf of people to defend them of an act either positively or negatively. Negatively in the sense that maybe for instance, someone of which we are so close before tends to create a distance so as soon as I see that and it's not changing, I get to assume that he/she is probably fed up of the whole talks and wants their space. I don't think thats good enough from my end as I get to end up knowing about few having some stuffs going on that allowed that.

So I'm currently working on changing this habit either for positive assumption or negative assumptions. I'll want to allow them spill it out themselves and not me making the assumptions on their behalf.

I don't even know if I'm making any sense right now

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you're really funny .... ofcourse you're making sense πŸ˜†....

I assume a lot i think we kinda like in the same shoes

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We're plenty in the shoes. Thank God πŸ˜‚

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Yeah you're making sense. Let me see if i get you right. For instance at a working place your friend misplaced an important file and your strict boss asked her where she kept it. she lied about it and asked the boss to confirm from you. And you on the other hand you know nothing about the situation but at that moment you helped your friend out of it by assuming she must have a reason to lie.

It may be different just trying to see if I can relate.

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Yeaaah you're on track cos there are times some bad acts were done against me and I had to assume the person had a reason to do that most especially if it's a close person though I would await the right time to ask why

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I stopped assuming, when I lost a course mate , I had her number, we communicated, especially during our service year, we shared jokes about life and other things, at some point I didn't hear from her , I just felt she was busy with work and life, like everyone of us.
The day I saw a picture of her dead on Facebook 🀦😭, I was weak.

I kept saying, I would have reached out, just a call. I felt the guilt for weeks.
Even if we weren't so close in school, I felt I failed her.
I no longer assume, I reach out to friends and collegues monthly .

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Omo something similar happened, a childhood friend of mine too, she wasn't communicating and I just assumed she was a big girl and until I was stalking her Facebook and saw she died ago two years . I was so pained . The way I shouted ehn

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Wow that's so sad but at least it made you quit assumptions and I hope I won't be quiting with a guilt so I'm really working on it

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Huhm, that's a good one Mama.
And believe me, ya making real sense. I can very well relate to it.

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Thanks Millie. I'm glad I am

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This assumption thing is what I'm currently dealing with too, assuming something or someone is doing something when they are not talking to me. Actually in a way it makes relationships drift apart

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EXACTLY πŸ’― EXACTLY
That last part is very very true cos in the cases where my assumptions are wrong, the person feels disappointed and that's what I hate the most, making people feel wronged or disappointed in me thinking that way

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Assumptions ehn. I used to assume too but I am learning to stop that. Sometimes, assumptions might be wrong, so, it's better to let them speak out before we conclude.

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Yeah mostly wrong o and I'm also trying to stop too. I'm glad I'm not the only one in this shoes 😁 so on the #OperationStopAssuming

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Hello everyone!
One habit I think I need to outgrow is overthinking. It makes me feel weak, feel crazy. I can talk to myself the whole day in my head. All of the quality that classify an overthinker that's me. I think faster ahead of problems that might not even happen.
It exhaust me alot, that my mind is never at rest. I think before anything happens, while it's happening or even an incident that is long gone.

I do have mixed feelings I feel sad, anxious, and happy. All this feeling mixed up together and make me.πŸ˜…πŸ˜…
It's worst when there is silence. My thoughts becomes louder especially at night. Old memories starts flooding in even embarrassing moments too.

When situations gets out of hands even if I'm not at fault I will blame myself for it.
My habit gets worse when I'm being misunderstood. For instance at a gathering or a community group that contains alot of people. I will feel so scared to talk because i don't want to be misunderstood.

I don't have any plan or working on changes yet. But I will appreciate opinions from anyone who understands or can relate. I will stop here for now.

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They say overthinking is for the introverts...hahaha. But seriously, thinking too much can lead to something else.
My dear, whether you speak or not, people will talk. That's normal. Everyone talks but the important thing is not to be bothered by their opinions.

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I think I need to outgrow eating outside.
But for now I can't , because these mama put people have been saving life oo

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Lolz πŸ˜…
I'm opposite, I don't know how to eat outside, I can only eat few things outside, like Abacha and bole

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Seriously?
Well, I find it very hard to eat out. Maybe Cos cooking is my hobby sha, but the likes of pie and snacks, I buy them out.

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right now I feel like I've been caught red handed πŸ˜† 🀣 πŸ˜‚ 😹 πŸ˜†....

was just holding my sachet of our so called pure water in my left hand and scrolling through this post and the moment I saw that one Habit we need to stop I'm like wait a minute. .

right there I was with that nylon in my mouth πŸ˜†...

I don't know how I developed this habit but I cannot drink pure water without biting off the tip of the nyon and play with it in my mouth till the whole thing turn something else πŸ˜† 🀣 πŸ˜‚ 😹

like unknowingly I will just bite off the nylon and play with it

how can I stop this yeye habit....

I really have to stop ooo before it gets out of hand πŸ˜†

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Lolz πŸ˜…πŸ˜…
It feels like meat right πŸ™ƒπŸ˜…πŸ˜…

That's a funny one πŸ˜…

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crazy πŸ˜†

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Agbalagba 😁😁😁
Eating pure water nylon, don't pass this on to kids o 😁😁😁😁

I get that sha, we all have one or two if such habits that are a little bit hard. Maybe you should switch to bottled water. You can't afford to start eating bottles naw 😁, just joking though.

Find a way around it, maybe you throw it away immediately you're done, or you drink with consciousness of the fact that you're in a public gathering and can't afford to eat be eating nylon in public.

I have mine too o, mine is sweet stick. 😁😁😁. I love licking sweet, but that's not the odd part, I refuse to throw away the stick after eating. But you know that, it won't be so obvious that I'm done licking, I know my way around it 😁😁😁

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See them again πŸ˜‚
@yechee

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I love chewing the stick from sweets too.🀣

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I know many people like you that do this thing, like , I know someone that even eats the cap of the soft drink the had πŸ˜‚ , like seriously you people wil not kill me. Be like my own is better. @henryjnrr @yechee abi I lie? Mine habit is better than nylon and plastic chewing people ehn?
πŸ€·πŸ˜‚

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Eating covers of soft drinks, keh? People have crazy habits o.πŸ˜‚ My dear, yours isn't better because your nails haboyrs germs o and that chewing can cause you sickness. This was exactly what led me to drop that habit as a teenager.

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πŸ˜† 🀣 πŸ˜‚ 😹

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Happy weekend everyone πŸ’žπŸ’–πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰

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Mama

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One habit I need to outgrow for real is chewing dry garri everyday 🀦

If u like,give a bowl of fried turkey, after devouring it..I will still go and chew garri🀦

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Lolz πŸ˜…πŸ˜…
This is a funny habit πŸ˜…πŸ˜…
Each time I do this I feel I'm chewing sand , it's so dry πŸ˜…

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Tooor . Garii na rich people food o

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Grandmama, what is this 😁

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Then you need deliverance πŸ˜‚

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πŸ˜‚ this woman have carry us to another level o lol, like seriously?

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only good vibes around

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Yes oooo. Good vibes

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Happy weekend to y'all πŸ˜„
Somebody's son/daughter should invite me over o 😭

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Dave πŸ€—

Is that fine lady going to the market this weekend for you πŸ˜πŸ™ƒ

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Eiii🧐, warrisdis 🫣.
No ma'am, I went to the market myself yesterday after work 😎

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Oh he has fine lady? Omo God whennn

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After heading to the market yesterday?????

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Did you know maybe I went to feed my eyes πŸ‘€, did I say I bought anything 😁

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Stay in your house .

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Where, everywhere is dry naw.
Help my life

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Happy weekend, everyone πŸ€—
One habit I need to deal with is being so glued to my phone🀦πŸ₯Ή

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Lol, that's like a profitable addiction πŸ˜‚

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Ahbi πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

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Glued to phone is not bad. When it's bad is when you can function without it

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I think I can't function without it πŸ˜­πŸ˜…

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W in the chat guys πŸ˜‚

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Happy weekend guys 😊

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Happy weekend everyone here

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Happy weekend to you

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Thank you very much.

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For me, one habit I need to totally outgrow from is worrying. I guess this is something many of us go through. We worry about many things. We worry about the future. But worrying doesn’t change anything, even when I know this, I still find myself worrying. And it’s not as if I could stop anything from happening. I have been learning not to worry much until I would no longer have to worry about anything but to trust God.

I would say I did better last year because I had to work on my mind, read out loud thr Word of God and focus more on gratitude and these tips have been effective so far.

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Sincerely, the one habit I need to outgrow is giving grace to undeserving people. Yes, I consider it a bad habit, and I think what's stopping me from effecting this change is the fact that I've once loved these people and built a friendship with them.

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I'm late guys

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