Sam’s Hangout #112 - “HONESTY OR HARMONY?”
Hello, my lovely Hive Naija people. It’s another beautiful weekend, and we’re excited to have you here once again. A new weekend simply means another chance to buzz the Hive blockchain, connect with one another, and simply have fun. You'll also agree with me that there’s something special about bringing everyone together to gist, share opinions, and enjoy good vibes. That is exactly the reason we will continue to meet every weekend.
OBJECTIVE
Sam's Hangout is focused on promoting the togetherness of the Nigerian brethren through active engagement on the blockchain. Beyond that, it is also centered towards the wellbeing of everyone who takes part in our weekend discussions and helps keep our discord running with their presence.
Note that this account was created to make the engagement more personal and official. You can check out the INTRODUCTION POST to learn more about our purpose and vision.
Please, do not forget to follow this account so you don’t miss out on future hangout posts and updates.
Our previous topic was ”INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES AND TOLERANCE"
The responses were super amazing and we had over 200+ comments filled with honest opinions, jokes, harmless banter, and fresh perspectives to learn from. The energy was truly contagious. Now, let’s see if we can beat our all-time high again this weekend, shall we? Please try to encourage responses by replying to one another. Remember, engagement is what makes this hangout special.
HOW OUR WEEKEND HANGOUT WORKS
A topic will be dropped every Friday on this account. Do well to share your thoughts, respond to someone else’s opinion, and feel free to interrogate or add more context on it respectfully. If you don’t have anything new to add, simply reply to another comment in agreement. We encourage you to tag your friends to join the discussion so we can have a fuller house.
All interactions should happen in the comment section, because that’s where the real gist goes down.
This week's hangout starts immediately this post goes live and ends on Sunday by 11:59 pm.
Remember to join our discord server to participate in our giveaways!
Prizes courtesy of: @sam.hangout
SPECIAL APPRECIATION
Thanks to our Main sponsors
HONESTY OR HARMONY
Now to our discussion for this weekend! We will be discussing "HONESTY OR HARMONY”.
In life, there are moments when we are faced with the decision to choose between truth and silence, and both have the power to change everything. Sometimes they bring clarity and freedom, while other times they can damage relationships and disrupt our peace. Because of this, many individuals find themselves torn between speaking honestly and remaining silent for the sake of harmony. But in trying to protect peace, are we preserving relationships or simply avoiding uncomfortable realities?
Here's the question!
If yes, how do you deal with the consequences that come with such truths?
If you have a topic you would like us to discuss in our future hangouts, please feel free to suggest it to us in the comment section and tag @sam.hangout to it.
Okay Let's Gist!!!
Don't you think we are forgetting somebody?... Well, I'm sure we are...
FRIDAY PLANS, OWANBE SATURDAY, AND SUNDAY REFLECTIONS
To make our hangout more interactive, we have decided to add two events to spice it up.
On Saturdays, we share our owanbe stories, party gists, and even pictures.
On Sundays, we reflect on the weekend and things we learnt so far, as well as share plans for the new week.
Don't forget to join us!!
There are no strict rules as regards this weekend hangout. Feel free to speak any Nigerian language you like, whether Igbo, Yoruba, pidgin, Efik, or others, as long as it can be understood.
With all that said, let the discussion begin...
! Mention list: @deraaa @b0s @merit.ahama @peaq @monioluwa @brightdavid @stevenson7 @obrisgold1 @jaydr @mayorkeys @wolfofnostreet @young-boss-karin @tukem1 @k-banti @iskafan @chosenfingers @onwugbenuvictor @monica-ene @heskay @etiboy56 @doziekash @chincoculbert @funshee @omosefe @ozohu @attentionneeded @popmanj @estherscott @vickoly @gloriaolar @pianokills @hepziba @tblings-art @anissignature @ijohnsen @manuel6 @khaleesii @kenechukwu97 @abidemiademok21 @otshotz @blezyn @uzuka @mrenglish @bbjmed @uddydan @reineesmay @b0s @prechidi @joydukeson @benii @henryce @nkemakonam89 @zestimony @surgeoncaspar @kingobonnaya @royalpeek @sekani @olawalium @drstrings @ajumaa @blackavalon @jachy @samostically @treasuree @dimmablogs @glorydee @quduus1 @obaro @temibot @hivedeb @stefanovah @adaezeinchrist @kierydearie @khingstan @emreal @moremoney28 @justfavour @herbae @temmylade @princessbusayo @geelocks @actordontee @cescajove @adeife2 @etorobong @jannaforyou @amiegeoffrey @schola.kosy @busk1999 @redna @etiboy56 @jmis101 @queenstarr @yinks @empressjay @marajah @ovey10 @anthony57 @mercytosh @cleevesh @sharonia02 @balikis95 @ibbtammy @afrikens @bruno-kema @desire-pen @ellizy @emlynx @goldenproject @ozd @rukkie @suqueen @patienceakpan @zali.bee @wealthgrammy @coderaikiri @bhetea01 @obifavvy @ruhlar @kingdomzy @johnmitchel @amma1 @emlynx @princessglow @hiventhusiast @kultinvictor @nursecommy @afrikens @daeze-winnie @suisver @ernec @onyinye-chi @benswaag1 @samuel20 @van.illa @iquo @beautyme @mathewdaddywah @amma1 @lecia89 @mayor-001 @goldenproject @ellizy @terjix @toluwanih @daverick @uniquezee @sperosamuel15 @chefqueen @kilvnrex @coderaikiri @justola1 @deborahofweb3 @kentonia @psalmmy264 @emreal @ozibaby @kachy2022 @neysco @faithwellington @abdul-qudus @soma18 @trojan1 @nsigo1 @therichking @abdul-qudus @agneskigighaso21 @vickky23 @zusi78 @marsdave @mega13 @tessyy @sarahbaby @comigold2
If you do not want to be tagged, kindly inform us in the comment section and if you would like to be added to the tag list so you don’t miss future hangouts, let us know as well.
Hello Everyone 👋
Everybody wants to hear the truth and the truth is very bitter but essential. The way in which the truth is being conveyed matters the most; the truth should be delivered with wisdom and not carelessly.
It's very essential to be honest and truthful , even when it causes some changes in your relationships . It might be uneasy and difficult to speak the truth, but like the holy Bible says" The Truth Will Set You Free".
The truth heals, some protect those we love and care about from being deceived. Truth could expose alot of things you know? things like abuse, betrayal, corruption, or manipulation, and considering the fact that it could cause damage and scars, that is why it should be told. Withholding the truth can be like a burden most times.
I encourage the truth, regardless of the consequences, and the truth should be told at the perfect time, not in a manner that will hurt another and with compassion.
Definitely, saying the truth comes with consequences, but if that's the price to feel free and less guilty, then it should be paid.
It could lead to the relationships ending, trust may be broken , but what matters is the peace that comes with being truthful.
Not every truth comes with a consequence. Some truth strengthens the relationship and builds trust. It might be difficult dealing with the consequences that come with being truthful, but if I would rather face the consequences than build a relationship on deception,
When it comes with dealing with the consequences that come with being truthful, the first thing to do is accept that you can't control or determine how others react , it's impossible to do that, so be at peace with any reaction you get. Take full responsibility of your actions and move on freely without regrets, that's if you have to let go of the relationship.
This is my response to:
Vanilla 💗
@cohlson
@marsdave
@chefqueen
@afrikens
It's hangout time 🥳
This topics kind of look like last week own o
@marsdave pls confirm. Am I wrong or something?
It's same as last week's
I was thinking of if I was the one confusing myself before
View more
Yeah ..
It is.
Guess it was a mistake, since the topic/title is different.
@yechee
Yeah. Maybe an omission
You are right...
Correction has been effected @afrikens @tessyy @marsdave. Happy weekend!
✅✅✅
"Better late than never" is the theme for this weekend hangout
Don't mention 😜
😂 me yaf mentioned already o. You dinor tell me on time
View more
We are here again 😋
We are here again 🙏
Continue the song @afrikens
Father we're here again
Holyghost come and take control
Good 👍👍👍
Amen... 🙏😅
Good evening, Fams ❤️
Happy Weekend, Guys 🥰
Prettiest 😍
Very deep and thoughtful topics to treat. And honestly, I can't wait to read our different opinions about it.
So, now about telling the truth even when it hurts, I believe some truths must be told. The truth even though it hurts at times as proven to save people from some deep pains they could have fallen into if they were left unsaid. I knew something about a young lady some few years ago, and I couldn't just bring myself to tell her husband about it, they were newly married and I cant be the one to destroy the home. Even though I kept quiet about it till now, something inside of me Keeps telling me i should have just let the man know, my way of approach should just be very calm and matured, just that I don't know how he will take it on his end too. The man really deserves to know, such a caring and lovely guy he is, but then I couldn't bring myself to talk.
While in school, there's this woman that sells provision and stuffs, her husband works in another state, so he's rarely around. But each time the man comes, he do get things for us, we joke, play whit and ludo and the likes, he's a free person, not the type that you know... At times we sit the whole day with her wife in shop and he's less concerned, that's the level of trust he has in her, but we knew this woman is cheating. Most of us knew. I never talked to her about it though, and nobody said anything to her husband, even if nothing happens to the marriage, with how much the man loves his wife, he might develop heart attack or something on that spot if he knows.
In short, this woman herself later ended things with the guy, they didn't fight, but she just thought about it and she knew her man does not deserve that which she's doing. I'm not saying silence will always bring peace, and if it does it won't last, the best thing a person can do is to change from their wrong ways. If you say the truth about something, apologize for it, if you're forgiven, then don't go back into that thing again.
@afrikens
@chefqueen
@goldenproject
@van.illa
@betheloji12
@amara24
We go again ✌️
Take 🎙️ 🎤 🎙️
💤 😴
Good evening
Honesty or Harmony: It Depends on What You’re Protecting
I don’t think “always tell the truth” or “always stay silent” works as a rule. The better question is: what is the truth for, and what is the silence protecting?
There are truths that should be said even if they damage a relationship. If someone is being hurt, deceived, or set up to fail, silence isn’t preserving harmony. It’s preserving a lie. In those cases, telling the truth is the only way to make a real relationship possible later. A relationship built on avoidance isn’t a relationship. It’s mutual performance. It collapses the moment reality intrudes. I’ve seen friendships end after a hard conversation, and both people later say it was the first honest thing they’d done in years. The short-term damage was real, but the alternative was a slow decay of trust.
But not every truth needs to be said, and not every moment needs to be the moment. Some facts are about my preferences, old grudges, or judgments about someone’s character that won’t change anything except their mood. Saying those out loud often creates resentment without creating clarity. That’s not harmony. That’s just avoiding conflict by creating new conflict.
When I do tell a truth that I know will hurt, I try to handle the consequences in three ways. First, I separate the fact from my judgment of the person. “You missed the deadline” is different from “You’re unreliable.” Second, I take responsibility for my part and state what I need going forward, not just what went wrong. Third, I accept that the other person gets to react badly. Truth doesn’t guarantee a good reception. If I speak to control their reaction, I’m not being honest. I’m negotiating.
When I choose silence, I check my motive. Am I quiet to protect them, or to protect myself from discomfort? If it’s the second, I’m usually avoiding something I should face. Lasting peace doesn’t come from avoidance. It comes from trust that hard things can be said and survived.
So my stance is: tell the truth when it prevents harm or when the relationship can’t survive without it. Stay silent when the truth is just noise. The skill is knowing the difference, and that only comes from being willing to face the fallout either way.
@sarahbaby
@zusi78
@goldenproject
@daverick
Oya make una put mouth for the matter, take mic 🎤.