I think I just got caught! Hoho. When I saw the #kiss for this week, I became grateful once again for being a part of this community and here’s why. First, I have never really taken my time to think about how I let other’s anxieties get to me but now that I think about it, I’m part of the worst persons that do not letting something like that affect them. Once those around me are in any state at all, I struggle to be fine without letting it affect me.

I was part of those that had thoughts like, why can’t everyone just be okay and happy. Little did I know that was a fallacy. In as much as it would be nice if everyone was okay and happy all the time, that will make life lose its charm, hehe. But, yeah? I struggle with not letting others anxieties affect me and my productivity. It has been that way for years and I didn’t even notice there was anything wrong with it until now. So, in this post, I’m just going to be mentioning some things that I think might help me henceforth.

Looking at my facial expressions, you can never know how much the anxiety of others are affecting me, because I try to stay afloat but then, I know how much I struggle within myself. Most times, I try to feign ignorance which is sometimes helpful but that is only a temporary solution. I try to run away from knowing what the next person is going through because I fear that I might not be able to handle it the right way. And that is because, sometimes I feel that when people tell me about their problems they would be happy if I could help them and not just tell me because they want to talk or something.

But henceforth, I will just try my best to keep some level of boundaries. I won’t push any conversation more than the other party wants it to be. I’ll avoid asking too many personal questions and let the person choose to share on their own or not. If they really want to share, it may take a long time but they will definitely come around. I feel that is way better than me asking and when I end up knowing, I start feeling entangled in something that doesn’t even concern me.

Also, I will try to prioritize my well being more because the truth is, if I’m not sound mentally, no one will care about telling me anything so I just have to know I need to keep myself in good condition too. I have things to do, I will try my best to do them first before worrying about something else. This one is going to be really hard for me but I’ll try to be intentional about it and see how it goes.

And finally, I’ll surround myself with people that I can talk to when I need to talk to someone. Sometimes, it gets hard because I’m trying to figure everything out all on my own and that alone can break me down. We most times try to be the superhero in our lives and in others lives too but we should also learn to give others the chance to take some credits for us and not try to do it alone all the time. I know it’s hard to trust people but then, what if you get lucky? Hehe.

Like I said, I have never really thought about this question before because it felt so normal that way but now that I saw this question, it is actually not bad to be more mindful about how other’s anxieties can affect us, so we can still be productive.

Thanks for reading through. ❤️