My Actifit Report Card: October 15 2026

To be human, one must possess a certain degree of self-interest. If we go through life constantly thinking of others and striving to do good for everyone, some people may fail to appreciate our kindness—mistaking it, instead, for weakness.

They begin to view the love, affection, and assistance we offer as their entitlement, and may even attempt to exert control over us. Therefore, while there is nothing wrong with doing good for others, it is essential to set boundaries for our kindness.

For instance, consider someone who notices a friend in distress. Even though the friend does not ask for help, this person—understanding the situation—provides whatever support they can, feeling a sense of responsibility to stand by their friend during a difficult time.

This happens not just once, but several times. However, rather than fostering gratitude, this consistent support leads the recipient to simply expect that such help will always be available. The person who was initially hesitant to ask begins to view their needs as a right, eventually demanding assistance as if it were owed to them—even when the other person is no longer in a position to provide it.

In this scenario, it is not the mindset of the person offering help that has shifted, but rather the perspective of the recipient. The person offering the help eventually realizes a crucial truth: some individuals do not perceive heartfelt acts of kindness as such; instead, they see them as something they are entitled to.

Ultimately, the person who had been providing the help makes it clear that they can no longer continue to do so. It is not feasible for someone to set aside their own life and personal needs solely to fulfill the needs of others.

In truth, any help we offer should be given out of our own genuine willingness. We should not provide assistance simply because someone asked, out of fear of being judged, or as a way to prove our own goodness. Furthermore, we should not take it upon ourselves to become permanently responsible for meeting someone’s needs just because we helped them once.

In this society, some may label us as selfish if we choose not to help, while others may come to expect even more from us if we do. There are also those who—failing to understand our circumstances or forgetting the help we have provided in the past—will criticize us the moment we are unable to assist them.

If we allow our lives to be guided by the opinions of such people, we are the ones who will ultimately lose our peace of mind. Therefore, considering one’s own needs is not selfishness, nor is it wrong to prioritize them. Our financial situation, our family, our future, and our own happiness are all equally important.

Before helping others, we must carefully consider the extent of our capacity; we should offer help only when it does not cause us undue hardship. If a situation threatens to harm us, we must learn to say "no" without hesitation.

Being kind is a noble trait, but losing oneself in an attempt to please everyone is not wise—for if we make ourselves constantly available to meet everyone’s demands, some may fail to recognize our true value.

However, it is only when we set our own boundaries that others come to understand the value of our time, our hard work, and our assistance. One final point to remember: being "selfish" does not mean harming others; it simply means ensuring that we do not neglect ourselves.

We should help others, but not to the extent of sacrificing our own lives. We should love others, but not to the point of forgetting ourselves. After all, if we do not make ourselves the top priority in our own lives, we cannot expect others to always understand our needs and stand up for us.

As for today, I was extremely busy with a heavy workload at the office. I managed to go for a walk this morning, which was a great start. It ended up being quite late by the time I finished, but I feel very good knowing that I did a great job at work today. Good night!

The content is originally written in my native language and converted into English on Google translate

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