My Worst Fears Are My Biggest Drive To Doing Better

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There's no one without fears even though our fears may differ from one another but I think there's always a connection to what causes our fears and one of them is what we see or have seen people go through when they are faced with situations they could have avoided but didn't or couldn't avoid.

We fear mostly the unknown but we can't deny that we don't also fear going through what others went through that aren't pleasant to us. Well, I can't say my fears are of the unknown as they turn out to be my biggest drive in how I live my life.

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No matter how hard I think about it, I can only remember four fears that my mind is always on while I go about my daily life. I'll share them and also how I try to overcome the thoughts in the most positive ways I could think of.

Financial instability

My family is on the average but there were definitely times lack of enough money was the reason for us missing some opportunities and making us hold back from doing what should have been done. I've also seen where money cost people lives as they couldn't find the amount needed to treat certain illnesses. It may look like it's everyone's fear but I won't say it's my fear if I don't add that it is my drive to putting in more efforts in how I will take myself into financial stability no matter how long it would take.

Losing a loved one and my life

We will all die someday but we always pray to live a long and happy life so I can't say I'm not afraid of the day death will come knocking but instead of letting that fear overcome me, I choose to love as much as I can and be happy as much as I can be. Spending time with loved ones when I get the chance, show appreciation when I can, love myself as much as possible... All that occupy my mind more than the fear of not being able to do any of them.

Getting Married to the wrong person

No matter how I seem to not show this side of me, I still feel scared of the possibility that the person whom I think is right for me might turn out to be the wrong person I shouldn't have find at all. It's all prayers and making myself the right person for whoever I would find. I can't help but feel scared when I see people who keep enduring their marriage with no single moment of enjoyment as marriage has been made to be. I am scared but I'm very positive to not let that fear overcome me.

Losing eternal life

At the end of life's journey, an eternal life with God Almighty who's my creator, is promised but only one thing can deny me of that promise and that is sin. I'm not a perfect human and sometimes I let my fears and weakness get the better part of me but I still have my eyes on that promise and I try my best to prepare in that direction. The heavenly race seem difficult but it is also easy for those who would go closer to God Almighty in prayers and studies, I keep overcoming my fears with these.

These are the four fears I keep fighting daily but they are driving me into doing better and becoming the person I want to be in the future and after life's journey.

What are your fears? How are you coping with them?

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I like the fact that these fears are your motivating factor.

We don't have to wait till our loves ones need us before checking on them. God will not make us be at the point where we won't be able to get money to take care of ourselves and our loved ones.

Na that heavenly race sure pass because what is the point of at the end we miss heaven ? As for the right man hmmm na God hand that one dey o.

#dreemerforlife

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Haha my dear, you've said it all o
May God help us in all these šŸ™Œ

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No matter how I seem to not show this side of me, I still feel scared of the possibility that the person whom I think is right for me might turn out to be the wrong person I shouldn't have find at all.

This is also one of my greatest fear. Because marrying wrong is one of the greatest mistakes one can make in life.
Thank you for sharing.

#dreemerforlife

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Indeed my dear, we keep praying to marry the right one šŸ™

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You see that getting married to the wrong person part, I fear it the most. My question sometimes is that how can I know the real one for me so that I don't end up taking what doesn't belong to me? But in another way, it is only God that can choose for us. But it still doesn't make me get scared of it because someday, I will marry. May God help us.
#dreemport

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You're right, God is in charge of that so I'm not that scared

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Hmm.. you fear the right things, It's like am even more scared of them than you are but instead of being scared of them we ought to find solutions to them. I believe all what you mentioned have solution except for death, well on that aspect I think the best way to resolve it, is for everyone to be prepared anytime, any day.

#dreemerforlife #dreemport

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You're right! We just have to prepare and fight our fears some how.
Thanks for stopping by

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You are welcome ma šŸ„°

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Going broke and not being able to afford the kind of life I want is one of my fears. Life has so much to offer and without money, I don't think you can experience the beauty of it. Sapa no be your friend oo
#dreemerforlife

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Lol my dear, nor be lie o šŸ˜…

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All the fear you have are reasonable. Financial in stability is a concerning one because situation is getting worse with time. The second one you can't ignore because it's inviteable.

Getting Married to the wrong person

Nothing to worry. I will find a good person to marry šŸ˜…. Just inform me when you want to get married šŸ¤£.

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Yeah, you're right about that
We just hope that it gets better somehow.

šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ I'm ready, where's the good person to marry?

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šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ I'm ready, where's the good person to marry?

Go to a nearby high tower and jump from the top of the tower. Then you will find the perfect person for you. If you didn't find then let me know about it( If you remain alivešŸ¤£šŸ¤£).

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You see that last fear of yours? Unless someone is not eternally conscious, that is the fear that keeps you awake. And financial instability? That SAPA can make someone depressed. I should know. Sometimes when someone looks at me and ask, ā€œare you depressed?ā€ I just laugh and say the truth.

ā€œNo. I just need moneyā€ šŸ˜…

#Dreemerforlife

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Lol I know right! If you just give me money, I will be alright šŸ˜‚

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You're very true to yourself, Merit for that last part especially. It's something that crowds our hearts and no matter what, it's the force that drives us to do better with our lives. There's a lot to learn from your writing and that financial stability part, let me just not go there.šŸ˜†

Came in from #dreemportšŸŒŗ

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Lol abi na, God will help us overcome our fears šŸ™Œ

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Losing a loved one and eternal. are some of my greatest fears.

#dreemport #dreemerforlife

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Same here šŸ„²

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We are all afraid of one thing or the other. And I can relate to the ones you listed.

Hello Dreemer, hope you are well today. It is Tuesday and I waltzed in from #dreemport for I am an amazing #dreemer. An awesomely made #dreemerforlife. Have fun and paint your smile everywhere!

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No doubt about that šŸ„“

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šŸ‘½šŸ‘½

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You see that getting married to the wrong person is the most important cause it cover most of it all
#dreemerforlife

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No argument there o šŸ„²

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