An Expensive Joke! - Be watchful of your words
I am an extrovert, I love social situations, I love getting along with people—good people anyway—and I love being happy always. I also love putting smiles on people's faces through jokes. If you know me in real life, you will discover that I love to laugh a lot, maybe to laugh away my worries. LOL! Whatever the case, to me, cracking jokes brings about laughter, and whenever I laugh, my nerves get relaxed, and I feel better and happier. No wonder I am always on the adventure of searching for things that make me happy whenever I am depressed.
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Most times, our friends may cross boundaries with jokes. They might come up with an offensive joke, which you can tolerate, but sometimes the joke goes too far. People take a lot of things for granted due to friendship. Sometimes they get carried away with words and end up hurting each other through the use of words, all in the name of jokes.
Join me as I share with you an expensive joke a friend made to me that was taken seriously.
I have a friend named Joy. I met her here in Lagos State, Nigeria, where I reside with my family. We started getting along so well. She could tell me so many things about her marriage, her parenting styles, and other things concerning her personal life. We weren't so close before she started sharing so much info with me. On my end, I was still studying her but didn't share much about my life yet with her. I needed to get to know her better first, but the only single piece of information I shared with her she joked with me about the next day, and I felt so bad about it.
I told her about my childbirth experience and how I have been giving birth through surgery due to complications. She felt for me on that day when I shared my story with her, but to my greatest chagrin, she joked with me about it the next day. Look at her words: "Nkem, you are not woman enough oo, it's only strong women like us that can push our babies in the labor room normally without experiencing a knife in the stomach like you." I turned my face towards her so could repeat what she said, and she said it was only a joke! She was kidding, like, seriously? Joking with me with such heavy words? Sincerely speaking, I am crying even while typing this post. This is a woman like me who is supposed to understand that when complications arise in pregnancy, what matters more is the life of the mother and her child, not necessarily the method used in giving birth. Well, I confronted her and warned her never to joke with me on such matters because I detest it. As much as we are friends and can joke with each other, there is a limit to everything. You don't just voice out words as they come into your mind without processing them. That was the most expensive joke I have come across in my life, and I don't wish to go that far with others, no!
In my own part, I have made jokes with people like calling some people "coconut heads"😉 and the likes—not a serious joke that got me into trouble anyway, but in everything, we get to guide our tongue, especially with some set of people in our lives—and joking into people's private lives because you know them much isn't healthy in my opinion.
Be watchful of your words! Words can hurt; they can cause depression in our fellow humans. Also remember that spoken words can never be retrieved!
This post is in response to the #hivelearners community contest on the topic Joke Too Far.
So so sorry 😔 about that.
She lacks understanding of birthing process and impact of her words.
Sometimes in Medicine, we opt for the fastest means of delivery especially when the lives of mother or/and child are at risk.
Even women that have delivered 3 times may still end up having a caesarian section.
Giving birth vaginally does not make one woman more woman than another. For the fact that she mentioned her statement the following date meant it was an intentional statement.
You will do well to exercise caution with her and such. We learn everyday
And coconut head? 😂
It's all to lighten up the atmosphere.
Thanks for sharing your post
Awwww 🥰
I guess you are a medical doctor? Am I right? Cos you spoke like one
I have taken caution with her...to avoid further blunder from her mouth
Good
Yeah, I am 😂
See eh, if there is anything I hate it is making a joke out of the pain that I have gone through. How the hell will that lady say she jokingly said that rubbish. Women who go through CS risks their lives even more that normal delivery because it is a complicated surgery and any little mistake, mother and child can even go. What is important is that you and your baby are alive and healthy.
That's why I tagged it an expensive joke, what a heck!.... some people will have grace and they will think it's by their own making.
Thanks for coming through my dear
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When I hear women trying to look down on a woman that gave birth to a child irrespective of the baby's mode of entrance I'm always enraged, because none is easier, why should a fellow woman even think of that kind of thing she called a joke to say, people sef 🤨
My dear, some people doesn't think before talking...it baffled me
That was quite an expensive joke, she should have respected the fact that going into the labor room regardless of the means of delivery is a though thing to do.
It's annoying when people take advantage of us just because of the things we have shared with them.
I blamed myself for opening up to her
If not, I wouldn't have received such a slap from her words
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Jokes are meant to be funny... That was definitely not the case in this situation.
I like that you confronted her about it. Leaving it be would probably have given her the opportunity to repeat it again.
The fact that you were able to go through the pain of bringing a child into the world is remarkable enough ❤️
I agree with you
..some jokes are meant to be funny otherwise you will end up hurting one another
Thank you so much for your nice contribution
I once heard a story like this some time ago. A woman making fun of another woman for giving birth through C.S
Like is the point of pregnancy not to have a baby? Should it matter how its done as long as both mother and child are okay?
No too reason am abeg, some people will always feel the need to take away the joy from any given moment.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
It's so surprising to receive such a joke from a fellow woman. It's now in the past anyway...I don't have to dwell on it anymore
Thanks for kind words 👍
Is obvious people derive joy in saying rubbish all in the name of jokes...if I noticed that immediately that friendship dies there, na only to greet. I hate nonsense infact is better u don't joke all out ...some people are just out of it with words...sorry about that dear.
Hahaha 😂🤣
UC Don vex too 😄😄
Y all of Una dey vex under the comment ...lol
It's annoying though, but that's by the way ...the friendship died there already
Better o
Woahh!! How dare her?
Did she really think that it was something that could be joked about? Well, I wouldn't blame her. She just would never understand because she had been lucky to have normal childbirth.
This is one reason why I don't tell lousy people certain things. Yes, I'd call her lousy because she chose to be insensitive about her choice of words. It's not even funny.
I don't even know why I am vexing on your behalf.
Let me just be going...
Hahaha 😂🤣🤣
My jay is vexing on my behalf.. lolz
Chill, it's now in the past... those uncultured and lousy set of people can be annoying really 😂
You know I was thinking about this and I concluded you can't know the good people right away.... Meaning, you get along with everyone first then do the sieving (make I find trouble small😂)
That was a harsh one from Joy but well, in all, the greatest thing you did was managing your emotions very well without exchanging words with her
Hahaha 😂🤣
I am seiving joy out already before she causes me depression..lol
I am glad to have managed my emotion
Thank you so much for coming through bro
You're always welcomed
So you dey talk like me bah! Hahaha 😄. We dey plenty oh! Just that sometimes e go choke. But all the same, is not every that will understand and once we notice such people we will know how to talk around them. Sis. I can't just stop being myself.
Thanks for sharing.
It's well my dear sister
You are welcome
Yay! 🤗
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That was mean from joy, if you hadn't caution her, she would have done alot more damage with her words, really sad.
Some people no longer know what's serious and what's not. And most times it's as a result of bad upbringing
Exactly...bad upbringing could be a contributing factor.... people behave and say anything they like out there when the foundation is faulty
Some have even developed a thick skin for mean words, and expect everyone to be like that.... Imagine
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For me I feel it is uncultured to joke with people over an information that was related to you out of trust and sincerity. that was just too expensive but it's now in the past and I guess we learn everyday.
Nice post, I couldn't stop reading.
you're a strong woman indeed @nkemakonam89 .
Awwwwww ❤️
Thank you so much for your nice words
I feel so much relived hearing your feedback
Thanks.
Some people will just open their mouth and talk anyhow 🥲. Those words are not a joke even if it's not said like one but God knows she meant every words that she said.
I know how hurtful her words will have being. Sorry ma🥲.
It's well my dear
I feel relieved sharing with u guys
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