Women and The "Grass is Greener in the Streets Syndrome"
There's something very interesting I've come to find with women in my time, and it is this thing you can call "The Grass is Greener in the Streets Syndrome". There's probably another term for it but this one captures it perfectly too.
This syndrome is not experienced by all women but a great majority of women, though. It can be explained thus: it is the belief that the grass is greener in the streets. Many women walk around with the belief that if they decide to stop being decent and go into the venture of making money off their bodies they would be better off than wherever they currently are now as decent ladies.
This is something at the back of the mind of most women. They could be married, in good relationships, with kids, with good jobs, etc. but somewhere in the back of their minds they think about it sometimes, "if I quit all these stuff I'm doing and just be all about making money off my body I'll very likely do so well, make so much money and be living a higher standard of life".
I said this is at the back of their minds, but it's at the front of the minds of some women. The position this thought is in varies from woman to woman. Some women are actually greatly tempted by this thought, while some only just think about it once in a while and never feel the push to do anything about it.
Some women even give in for short periods and try it out but probably can't sustain it because a more decent life comes more naturally to them.
Obviously I'm only talking about women who are not already living the life of being focused on making money off their bodies. A lot of women think about money and how rich a man is before getting married or getting into a relationship with him, but that doesn't mean they are really about the making money off their bodies lifestyle.
The true making money off your body lifestyle only has money in consideration and nothing else. A woman who has decided to live that lifestyle would not consider looks, talent, personality, temperament, love, or anything else. Just money! She can date or marry someone she can't stand for the life of her just to get that money.
She wouldn't mind any dishonourable arrangement like flat out prostitution, being a side chick to a married man, etc. She'll throw away all consideration of honour or society's accepted morality standards.
That is a woman who has decided to live that lifestyle. And this lifestyle right here is what a great majority of women in different walks of life think about sometimes and feel like they'll probably be better off if they had toed that path.
As the economy gets worse everywhere in the world and people struggle, female friends of mine have chipped this in to the conversation. Some say it jokingly and you know they'll never attempt it, while some say it like they're actually seriously considering it. I've even had to advise a female friend who told me she was going to break up with her boyfriend and only do anything with men for money from here on our and I had so much to say.
I told her about how I cannot really say to a person what path they should take, and that this path that has to do with only doing things with men for money can be objectively immoral but it can also be OKAY.
If you meet only men that aren't looking for love but just a good time (which is most men), then it would be okay to only be with them for the money. But if you meet men that want love and something serious while you're just gold digging then that is just a downright dirty thing to do.
Then I began to explain this syndrome, though, and that there's usually some delusions involved in the belief that doing only for the money would usually make you better off. I said it's not as easy as women usually think it is.
I know a girl who had a good relationship that has been going on for years, then one day her friend told her about a rich man who was in town and wanted to have a night with them. The man was going to pay a good amount of money. The girl's boyfriend found out about this discussion and warned her not to go, but she went anyways. Clearly choosing the money over what they had.
She did it, got the money and lost her relationship. But after this one time she and her friend couldn't get more deals. The rich man left town after he was done with what he was doing, and the girls tried to keep in touch but he was not interested. As a rich man into the lifestyle he could have a new girl everyday ready to have one night for good pay, so why keep in touch with them?
The girl had thought after the deal there would be more with the same man and she'll become rich, but that was over just after that night. They tried to get other deals but they never got big deals anymore. Rich men are in short supply and they have a lot of options, so it could be difficult for your turn to come 😂.
The girls were only getting small offers, some of them very laughable offers from street boys and other regular guys. This was not the life they came for. After about a year she went back to her boyfriend begging, and crazy enough he accepted her back. I guess that's how much he loves her.
She told him the things I've just told you, but it's possible she left some things out, some things that I know are part of the dangers, disappointments and difficulties of relating with men only for the money.
Apart from the fact that rich men are in short supply and have a lot of options, and that you'll mostly get small laughable offers from other men, other negatives can be that you can get robbed, harmed, etc.
You can also be deceived into thinking a man is rich only for you to waste your time, efforts and everything without getting anything from him. He could also defraud you.
He could be rich but go broke when you're in a precarious situation like pregnant or now with a child or more.
It is possible to make it on this path, but you need to know the dangers of the path too, and how it's by no means just a straight road. I just think that when women think about how they'll probably be better off if they took this path they usually don't consider all these dangers, disappointments and difficulties.
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Honestly, I have mixed feelings about this sha 😂. I agree that people sometimes get carried away by the idea of a better life without considering the risks. But I feel like there's a difference between chasing money and simply being tired of struggling and wanting a more comfortable life. Wanting financial security doesn't automatically mean someone is greedy or looking for shortcuts. Sometimes, people keep looking at what they could gain elsewhere and forget to appreciate what they already have. But then again, what looks like dissatisfaction could simply be someone realising they want something different. It depends on the situation sha.
But I'm curious, do you think women are necessarily chasing greener grass, or could some of them just be tired of struggling and looking for a better life? Because I feel like those are two different things.
Well, everybody is chasing greener grass and those struggling are usually tired of struggling. I'm not saying it is greed either, I'm just talking about the phenomenon on the basis of how interesting I consider it and because I want to show these ways in which the grass is not always necessarily as greener as it may seem.
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Nevies 😂 we literally JUST had an argument where you took the behaviour of one woman and somehow arrived at the massive unfounded generalisation that "at least 80% of females who claim to be feminists misunderstand feminism".
And here you are again, generalising.
But you've gone from some women I know have said this to this is something at the back of the mind of most women!!! Lmao at your 'logic' which is just imaginative leaps. You can't know what's secretly going on in most women's heads based on your own social circle lmao.
I'm noticing a pattern here 😂 - I think that's why I think it's bizarre you run a sex blog (so you say) - sometimes a woman doing something stupid is just an individual woman doing something stupid, not an insight into Women™ - I don't actually think you have many insights at all, just ridiculous, sweeping stereotypess and generalisations you pass off as authority.
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Hmm.
Well, my latest reply on my other post explains that I don't arrive at my conclusions based on one woman or the women in my circle. But based on my observation of society, the women in my circle, social media posts, etc.
These conclusions were not reached through scientific research, though, that had to do with me giving out questionnaires, interviewing large cross sections of women and all that. So they can't be passed off as facts, I agree. But they are opinions I stand by.
There are a lot of things we agree on as regards human behaviour that were not arrived at through the Scientific process. It goes without saying that they don't carry the same force facts would carry but they are opinions.
And because that goes without saying, when someone gives an opinion like that you should only attack it's merits if it is just downright ridiculous and there's just clearly no truth in it, or it is something that in all honesty you can't say "hmm, this guy is probably up to something here".
You can disagree with an opinion but first be sure you're not biased, then remember it can be true even though you don't agree with it.
For millenniums women have mostly had to depend on men for provision, women only started getting the freedom to fend for themselves recently as civil freedoms expanded, so there's no way you can say it is farfetched to say that a lot of women would still have it in the back of their minds that focusing on only getting provision from men via their bodies is not at least something they think about sometimes even though, like I said many of them are dignified enough to only think about it but never go into it.
Women who are struggling think about this at least once in a while. If you aren't biased you can say I'm probably wrong by saying this applies to most women, but you can't say it is ridiculous for me to say it is common.
When I say most women, all I need to be correct is for it to apply to at least 50% plus of women, if you say that is far fetched then all I can do is just shrug.
Also the other stuff about 80% of feminists, 80% is not a generalization. It is clearly leaving out a whooping 20%.
Lmao, your generalisations and vagaries are killing me - I can see why you post in comedy club 😂😂😂
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Prostitution has a lot of gray areas. I'd appreciate it if you mentioned those, too, and not just the anecdotal stories you have. But well, that's your opinion. By the way, what's this 'back and front of the mind' thing? I don't get it.. do you mean the frontal lobe?
You're right, there are other areas I should have mentioned.
Lol. The back and front of the mind means some people think about it more than others. Front is for those who think about it mlre often while back is for those who hardly do.
Ah, the conscious and subconscious mind, right, I got it. Thanks for clarifying that! And one of the gray areas of prostitution is human trafficking. You know, sometimes it’s not voluntary. And then there's male prostitution. Maybe you can listen to this song so you can get a broader perspective? I’m not invalidating your point of view, but yeah... this topic is actually pretty sad to be used as a piece of comedy.
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