FRIENDSHIP HEARTBREAKS AND HURDLES .

Friendships are amazing, adorable and beautiful.
Having that friend you can celebrate your wins together ,cry and shout together, Express your feelings and fears to.
That one person that you know won't judge or criticize you , but rather embrace you and tell you we will work things out together.
Having a good and loyal friend is an underrated blessing, if you are blessed with good friends, then you should be grateful.

But then when the coin flips , and you realized that the person doesn't really care, you realize you are being betrayed and hurt by that person you love and care about so much.
Friendship heartbreaks are really worse than a relationship/romantic heartbreaks.
Losing that favorite person you cry to , confide in, laugh with, share secrets with ,share meals together and take risk together can be really be disheartening.
Friendship Heartbreaks and hurdles can be really painful, but yet it's part of growth.

In this week prompt we are asked to share our friendship hurdles, alongside many other questions, that I would be responding to in this post.
The first question is if we have ended a friendship before and my answer is yes, I have ended a friendship and here is my story and reasons.

I have never been so big on friendship, until I met Ruth, the first person I bonded with in the university. We were so close, went for lectures together, stay in same hostel, cooked together, read together and many more .
We can never be 10steps away from each other, it was really cool and interesting.
Even when we go back home for holidays, we speak often and share our daily experiences with each other.
We were so close and shared everything together.
Went to each other's houses for short breaks.
We knew our flaws and accepted each other regardless .

Not until I heard my friend said something negative about a project I was planning to commence not just to me but to outsiders too, and she knows how important it was for me to win .
I ignored the negative statements at first, had to communicate to her that I would appreciate if she stays positive, because I hate being negative, or keeping negative people around.
But then I began to observe alot of toxicity , regular conflict with people around us, and even when I try correcting her it causes issues between us.
At some point she exhibited some character that felt like a betrayal to me and I couldn't trust her anyone and that was how I distanced myself gradually and ended the close friendship.

It was a painful one, because I don't keep so many friends, but then needed to prioritize my peace, because the friendship wasn't a healthy one to keep.
What hurts the most was the fact that I was participating in a position that needs public support, but my friend never stood by me, instead she spoke negativity about it in a public space.
That was a betrayal to me and it affected me too.
I felt heartbroken for a long time.

I distanced her, when I realized she was trying to come closer, I told her how I felt about the friendship and that I would appreciate if we just become normal friends, we greets each other, but we are not so close because of how I felt about her .

Whenever I look back I have zero regrets, I'm grateful I ended it because it opened the door for a better friendship that blossomed better.
What I did was right, it's very unhealthy to keep toxic and negative friends that don't care about your growth or interest.
The kind of friends you keep really helps in your grow as a person, your friends build you up, so it's important to be mindful and deliberate about the friends you keep.

Thanks for reading ♥️

Vanilla 💗