What School Didn't Teach: Emotional Intelligence...

Hello everyone, welcome to my blog, this topic from the hive Ghana’s table is one that I did have too many thoughts on. I kept thinking and thinking , not that it was difficult to write , nah. I was just on this bench of what is we were really taught some kind of things in school? Like it would have helped a great deal. Yeah…

So when I think back to all the years that I spent in school, from nursery to secondary and even now in higher institution , I just realise that there is one major thing school did not prepare me for and that is how to manage my emotions… yeah…

So school taught me maths, English, social studies, and even crammed biology definitions that I can barely remember now , but nobody ever sat me down to say, “This is how you will feel when life hits hard,” or “This is how to stay calm when everything around you is falling apart.” Asin nobody prepared me for the rollercoaster that emotions can be at all.

I didn’t know how to deal with anger properly , so if someone annoyed me, I would just bottle it up or explode, depending on how I was feeling for that day . I did not understand what it meant to be overwhelmed , I used to think crying was a sign of weakness you know ,I thought I had to always appear strong, always act like I had everything all together but real life? Life humbled me.

It was not until life started happening that I began to learn , I started understanding that being in control of your emotions does not mean not feeling anything it just means knowing how to feel everything and still handle yourself properly, you get?

Like that time I lost someone dear to me. ( ( My cousin) The pain was deep and unexpected , see nobody teaches you how to deal with grief in school at all, There was no subject called “Handling Life 101.” I had to figure it out myself , i cried, I broke down, I got quiet for weeks. But slowly, I learnt that it’s okay to not be okay, and that bottling things up does not make you strong.

Another example is when I had a misunderstanding with a close friend dome times last year , The old me would have cut the person off immediately, no explanation or anything just vibes. But something in me said, “Talk it out.” That was when I realised I was growing emotionally, I had to learn that communication is key, and that not every situation needs shouting or walking away from

So you see school does not teach you how to handle stress when money is not coming as expected , or how to deal with anxiety when you don’t even know what next to do in life , It was through facing situations head-on that I learnt to pause, breathe, and not let my emotions control my every move yeah…..

I honestly believe emotional intelligence should be something we learn in school if possible , just like we learn maths ,because knowing how to solve equations is nice, but knowing how to handle a broken heart, manage anger, or control fear is something one will need almost every day of ones life.

So yeah…. life taught me what school did not , and I am still learning, every single day , Some days I still mess up, I overreact or go quiet when I should speak. But at least now I am aware. And that awareness alone is a sign that I am actually growing.

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