Is Love Really Worth It
There's a popular saying that goes, "Love is blind, but marriage will open your eyes." That is literally true: whatsoever you ignore while in courtship because of love, you will face the consequences a hundredfold during marriage. I have been in and out of the hospital this year more than ever, and I have seen how people, including kids, are rushed into the hospital.
Some get well and go back home healthy; some go back home with their sickness because there isn't hope, not because they don't have the finances to foot their bills, while for some, it's their dead body that's being taken back.
Most of the time I have spent in the hospital this year has been in the pediatric ward. I have seen how a lot of sickle cell patients were rushed in, and most didn't survive it.
There was a boy of about 10 to 11 years old; he is a sickle patient. He was rushed into the hospital on one of the days that I was there. The boy was in so much pain from the way he kept talking and crying. Within the period of two hours that he was rushed in, his condition became so critical that they had to give him a blood transfusion.
But he later gave up the ghost that same day, and he isn't the only sickle cell patient that has died while I was there; some went home and came back after a few days. From the way they groan, you can tell that they are in so much pain; even the cannula in their hand is paining them, and it makes me wonder why in this twenty-first century people still play ignorant and bring in kids into this world to suffer all in the name of love.
So the prompt asked that a day to you saying yes to the love of your life, and you find out that both you and your partner are sickle cell carriers. Will you go ahead with the wedding or not?
I would have said it can't be me because I won't make such a stupid mistake because of love and not do a genotype test before the relationship becomesserious, but for the sake of the prompt, let me answer accordingly.
My answer is a capital NO. I know breaking up would really shatter me, but for the sake of my children's well-being and mine, I would end the relationship.
Too many mothers are suffering because of this; for some, their husbands abandoned them and ran away because they could no longer continue with the bills; for some, the husbands handle the bills, but they are leaving their lives while the woman is tied down looking after a sick child almost every other day.
The constant hospital visits and hospital bills sometimes get to strain the love they were protecting in the first, and at the end it really wasn't worth it.
In conclusion no amount of love is worth bringing a child with sickle cell disease into this world.
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When it comes to health related issues, this love must open its eyes wide o. Just like you, I won't even start up a relationship without first knowing the genotype and probably, blood group of my partner to be. The love dey craze ni?
The love must even use telescope 🔠to see 😂
When it's health related, it's better to part ways
Exactly
You are very correct. Alot of people are regretting why they fail in love at the first place because of the outcome at the end. We need to open our eyes to every detail before allowing love to blind the eye.
Thanks for sharing
Most people rush into marriage, only to find out about their genotype and then things turn sour for them. Except in cases where God purposely match two people together with such sickness and only by miracle would they overcome, I don't advise people to just continue in such relationship when they just find out they are sickle cell carriers.
Even at that it would be better for them to put their faith and make sure it changes before marriage because the stress that comes with marriage can sometimes test/mare ones faith. I won't really advise anyone to get married when their genotype hasn't changed even if they have faith
Two of my cousins were both and met guys that were as, they prayed and trusted God for a miracle, their genotypes changed from as to ss before they got married.
I think there should be a law, fully enforced, stopping people from getting married if they are SS or AS. It's simply an act of unkindness to knowingly bring a sick child into this world.
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It would have been really nice if such a law existed. Because it's pure wickedness to bring a child into the world just to suffer them