IT CAN STILL HAPPEN WITHOUT YOU
My parents have made it clear that anybody in our house should not dare get married or even date anyone from the south south part of Nigeria, you're allowed to get married to any other tribe preferably my tribe, but guess where my heart is carry me to ...... Your guess is as good as mine. In all of this the only person standing firm behind my parents that I know of is my elder sister (I have two elder sisters) the eldest is saying so far he treats me right and I'm sure I want to get married to him no problem, my eldest brother sad the same thing and my immediate elder brother just said "try to convince them and make sure they agree to your relationship with him". Parents do this a lot because they want to help their children avoid future mistakes and all that which is very understandable, but in my case, ethnicity is the problem.
My elder sister came up with this whole if you guys finally set up the wedding I'm not attending, you say what?! Like I care. Sincerely, if there were other issues tied to my parents rejection I could consider it but still would not say no because I literally will be the one staying with my spouse and we have been together and I know my left from my right although not totally not even up to 80% but I know this is the person I love. I'm not going to run away, I'm not going to convince my parents because I have been doing that and they are not listening but I think ignoring them would be just the perfect thing to do.
Yes! I would ignore them, even before this prompt came out it has already been decided by yours truly ME that I'm going to ignore them. My elder sister was making a fuss about this whole thing one day, she said I'm stubborn, a tribe that the whole world hates, this and that and I replied to her "people do get married and their family members knows nothing about it not even the date or venue" it's as simple as that, I have seen and heard people do that. Although I'm not going to do that but I might if I get pushed to the wall. In fact that's what I'm doing.
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Omo i actually admire your boldness. I don't even think i can think of doing this. I would definitely try to convince them but not inviting them to like the venue of the wedding is not something i can actually think of doing 🤣🤣
Actually if they can't beat me they join me but if they choose not to, I moveee
Nice one, interesting thoughts on 'It can still happen without you'. Appreciate the perspective shared.
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Smiles, quick one so how then do you intend to get their blessings ?
I know they will come around, trust me on that
Alright then if u say so
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I get it when parents try to give a reason why you shouldn't get married to someone, it might sound stupid to us but it's a solid reason to them.
I think in your case the best thing to do is to look for an uncle or aunt or just anyone that your parents actually respect and listen to and ask them to help you talk to your parents.
I had an issue with my dad before getting married and he was against my wedding but my uncle, his elder brother interfered on my behalf.
You need wisdom to go about such issues, no matter what you would be happier when you see your parents present at your most happiest day
My dad is he eldest son and our relationship with his family......
Same goes for my mum (although she's not the eldest)
Wow
The Lord is your strength
It's only a matter of time before all these cultural biases fade away.
Nice write up
My parents also have similar restrictions towards the men from the south, I grew up in the southern part of Nigeria and I have also seen reasons with them.
Love is worth fighting for, it's quite unfair to judge people based on their tribe, the individual might be different.
In most cases it's good to listen to their reasons.
I know I don't have to share the whole reason but lemme drop a snippet. It's basically because one of his hometown brothers got married to someone from that tribe and she did something really bad, claiming they are all bad.
How does that affect me 🤷