Reflection... The mirror I saw myself from.

Good day everyone, such a lovely Friday hope you all are doing okay. Well it is yet another day and I have gone through alot of people's entry on this contest which is so lovely and today I would be discussing on the topic contest: In the past five years, we all evolve. Think back, what is one belief or mindset you held firmly that you no longer agree with today? What changed your perspective, and why? Share your story and inspire others through your personal journey of growth and change.

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I would be basing my own experience on the relationships I have had in the past few years and it affected me, anyone who knows me would definitely agree that I am big on relationship in aspect of keeping friends, sharing bonds, having some one you can carry on, gist with, some one that actually understands is what I actually envy and want in my relationship with people I call friends which are mostly females by the way.

So while growing up my cling of friends barely changes for me because for them they had other friends from school or what ever but for me it was all the same right from childhood I had two of my neighbors children who were my friends, I had two from the church and they all know themselves so we were more like a gang of friends, we attended the same primary school and eventually during secondary not all of us were in the same school but we bonded even up on that and then we grew.

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We grew into fine, pretty, charming damsels even though I never thought I was that pretty enough like my friends 😁 if there is even any word like that, I was obviously the one with the smallest body among my peers because they all looked bigger than me even with the same age rank so most a times people tend to think they senior me, so much for having a small body. Back to we growing up I never had that boldness in myself in aspect of my body structure some times I even body shame myself on my own, that was the mentality I grew up with.

I always walk around with one of my friend her name is rosemary, we were mostly found together In some places and at some point people seem to notice her more than they actually did to me I always thought she is the spot light always and I was not even that important because of the attention given to her, also in our general meeting I mostly was not myself, I feel little a times, I do not feel like am that worth and I think that was why I mostly run errands for my friends those days, I was not treated the way they treated each other.

They had beautiful skins, always made fine hair styles, appear very shabbily and beautiful, had most of this girly stuff that I did not have at the moment so I found my self always comparing me with them and that always led me to think I am not enough, I am not pretty, and many more things so things changed we no longer meet as usual because we grew and started having responsibilities to attend to which made us scarcely see each but we still find time to meet that was when my personal change began.

I started travelling to places and meeting different people from different background, got to learn one or two from them, my dress sense started changing I was no longer blending colours in my body I was dressing with Sense of purpose, some thing even happened at one of those occasions I travelled to visit a relative and I got to stay for awhile with her children which were girls and are like my elder sisters, I occasionally went out with them on different occasions and some times they point out one or two on my body that is not appealing to the eyes and with love they help me correct it, just with that visit I stayed around mindsets that were far different from mine and because they were ever willing to correct me I had opened my heart up for change.

I had to adjust in the way I talked some times which helped even my reasoning and the perspective or way I saw things, I totally changed in those my funny funny dressing because according to my sister's I have to dress to their satisfaction before following them out, at some occasions one of them would tell me you are a fine girl oooh and that would actually stick to my memory even when it was funny at the moment, she would even tell me never to let anybody look down on me because of what they have.

The eldest among them even said to me that she was once doing a statistics and was looking at those who do not even have legs yet they survive, some do not have hands yet they live in fulfilment, you would see them happy and moving proudly around like they have no problem so why should she that has a complete body worry that they are not beautiful. Those experiences changed my mindset towards been body shamed, having low self-esteem, it made me bold in some occasions that one day some one told me I had big leg like a man own and I did not take it offensive I only told him that I did not create my self and that I am beautifully and wonderfully made by God, the old me would have even have withdrawen or even shy away but it was different.

And to everyone out there that is still having the mindset I had before I want to tell you today that you are enough, you are a special and you are loved. It was so wonderful recalling this experience and I hope it triggered something positive in you.

To all my commenters, my viewers, my voters am grateful, thank you for supporting this girl do have a lovely weekend.