Don't Take More Than You Can Chew.

You might think you have experienced a great level of betrayal not until you hear someone else's story on betrayal, I randomly asked a friend of my is her likes and dislikes, so she said her number one dislike is betrayal and she hates betrayal with all passion, I was curious to ask why the much hate on betrayal that was when she told me several experiences she has had with people that call themselves her friends, how some have betrayed her in the most horrible way so that's she is bent on betrayal as a no signal for her.

Coming down to the issue of this couple, by only seeing the length of their marriage I feel so bad on their behalf hence the multiple questions ravaging my head, so you won't judge me if I start by asking "how it all started"? Yess how did it all started, did you marry the person knowing fully well that such person is very secretive and you thought you can manage the person and along the long run eventually change the person or was the person an open individual and along the long run they changed, did you see those little little changes in that person and you ignored it? How did it all started.

These definitely are rhetorical questions and I can't keep asking all day so my own take or would I say opinion on checking your partner's phone is that these situation means different things to different people, I can choose to not check your phone because we have been through phases where I totally trust you or I can decide to check your phone because you feel we should both be accountable to each other, for instance a situation where your man is chatting with someone and because he's conscious that his woman won't be comfortable with this vibe he wouldn't do it, well that's definitely for those who are open and accountable with their partners.

Me in person love accountability, I love the fact where I can be with your phone for hours and my heart wouldn't start beating when a message pop on the screen or a call comes in, I want a partner where I can pick your call as well as you can pick my call knowing fully well that I ought to be your representative when you aren't there because of course I should be your better half, so yess I want to be included in your finger print so I can access your phone anytime and not because I want to be always going through your phone but because I should be your partner.

I definitely am not among the fan of always checking your partner's message online and offline because that's a big flag of distrust and if you don't trust your partner to that extent why then be with the person because I strongly believe that being in a healthy relationship trust must be there, so you show your insecurity whenever you always check through those messages, I mean it isn't bad to check it once in awhile but please don't make it a habit because it definitely would be a bad habit.

Too much of everything is bad so don't take more than you can chew, I still remain your favorite host see you all next time 😘.

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