The Twisted Friendship.

Managing and Regulating friendship is what I have been reflecting on this past few days. This system has saved so many good individuals that wants the best for other people.

I was having a nice discussion with two of my good friends not at the exact time but simultaneously though. It was about the said topic "friendship", all about it, was it just something I can feel secured and express oneness? It is something trust can be built over time?.

I over time got some unexplained illuminating realization or discovery (epiphany) about keeping friendship generally. There are the type for businesses, the type for intimacy and the type for families. I can't say if I felt better or knowledgeable enough. I was really struggling with having to define what a friend is to me, I never knew why but in those discussions I was enlightened.

Bitter truth I found out and you all need to know is that not every one who showed up at your birthday parties, follows you on all social media platforms or move along with you are really and truly your friend. I do not intend to spread hate rather awareness and caution. I never knew earlier till I was betrayed and backstabbed by my very acclaimed "closest friends".

Before my sad experience I was usually called "everybody's Friend" sometimes I felt a little bit disappointed because that seems like a mockery of some sort or when some people steals from me they would say am I not the "everybody type "? Where as they were even planning similar betrayal tactics since I was vulnerable.

I never ever had a thought of making enemies at least not on purpose, neither did I know for a fact that in a world like ours nobody is without an enemy, not a single person even if you're so kind and humble. Everything around me starts feeling abnormal, fake and untrustworthy.

The things is I don't look at people the way they present themselves or so quick in judging anyone, because I tuck with the mindset of nobody is a saint or is perfect. I totally forgot I had to protect myself.

What I do instead was to learn about superficiality and it's many aspect and likeness, the more I try to look beyond it. That's by seeing every individual from different perspectives. So in essence I don't just rush to say this person is good or evil just from a ten seconds talk. I only wished I earlier began protecting myself, my managing and regulating most friendship I had, that would have made me filter the entitled ones and envious type.

I treat everyone with respect even when I don't get it reciprocated maybe out of pure envy and arrogance , I really don't care, I just let their character fall back to them by distancing myself real quick.

I heard of a popular saying that goes (if you want to know the true loyalty of any man, involve money). Using my experience as an eye opener to others, my first heart break betrayal was as a result of money. The truth is that its so hard again to get trustworthy people to call or create friendship. I just wish the world would not get any worse than it is already. Like the saying goes "keep helping others but never leave yourself behind". To me this is fair and fact.

Thanks for reading through my write up.

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