That Forbidden Friendship
If I were asked this question some years ago, I would have told you straightforward that I do not mind seeing my partner with a best friend. Hmm but now! What exactly is that best friend bestering for my partner that I cannot not bestify for him myself. It might sound funny but I’m so serious.
When I was in level 200, I had this male colleague who had a girlfriend and a best friend. Anytime he had issues with his girlfriend, he would just go to his best friend’s place. As a person whose mouth is non-judgemental yet facial expression says otherwise, I used my face to communicate to him that her best friend was his back up plan anytime he had issues with girlfriend.
Honestly, I felt there was more to it than just what I was seeing on the outside but it wasn’t really my business to interfere, after all, they were two adults who knew exactly what they were doing. If you disagree with me then explain to me why instead of solving his problems with his girlfriend, he would rather run to his “best friend”. For what?! Tell me.
Anyway, prepare for the shock of your life. Right after school, I heard he was now with his best friend but I thought they were just rumors until I saw their baby naming ceremony flyer. I was so surprised and sad. I felt sorry for the campus girlfriend because I saw her sacrifice a lot for the guy. All the cooking and washing for the guy and his 10 friends went into thin air. All the campus wife duties went nowhere.
The most painful part was the “reason” why the guy broke up with her. According to her, the guy said his pastor at home called him to inform him to break up with the lady he was dating now. Why? She wasn’t the lady he was going to marry in future.
The moment I heard this, I laughed and asked myself, how can you tell me this story bruh!
Well, she is doing good for herself now and most importantly, she’s really happy now with a new person. She is over everything but even me as a bystander can’t shake everything that happened off. Knowing what this lady went through, I try my best to give my male friends space the moment I find out they are in a romantic relationship. I know they hate it but then, I am a lady too and it would hurt me to see my partner unnecessarily so close to another lady and to even call her best friend.
I allowed these things to happen some years ago because I was naive but now that I have a gun, I won’t let bygones just go by. As I said earlier, it won’t work oh! Ei! There’s nothing that best friend is bestering for my man that I can’t bestify for him. He can’t have a best friend, for what? Charley Charley!
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I can see both sides - there are always those cheating stories that are no good of course. But if the relationship is committed and healthy, it's healthy to have friends outside of the relationship too. One person can't do everything for another, in either direction. And we aren't meant to; humans are social animals and we're supposed to have a whole tribe of people to support each other and help with things.
That being said, there are some friendships that are not healthy and you can guess, as you did, that there is more to it than what is being said.
I think it's a matter of discernment, everyone needs friends and no one should be blanket jealous but if something seems suspicious, that's different.
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Yeah, I totally agree with you.
There’s nothing wrong with having “healthy” friendship
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The pastor called😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh Lord 😭😂😂😂
And campus wife gree?😭😂😂😂😂😂
Chim😭😂😂
This guy 🤣
Rendering wife duties on campus often doesn't lead to the alter, I've seen a lot of them scatter but the truth is that the guy doesn't love his girlfriend, maybe his best friend is related to the pastor🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️ who knows.
😂😂😂😂 well, it’s up to them
Yeah
I would never let a pastor or imam or any prophet ruin my relationship, I believe what I see not what I hear, so if the pastor tells me my partner is wrong and All I see is peace of mind and good, I would ride it till the end...
The guy just gave that flimsy excuse to break up with the girl.
As for bestie, I also would not tolerate my partner having a bestie, I don't like sharing and with all this bestie gist I have been reading, no way my partner going to have one and if she insist, she has to choose between me and the bestie....
Exactly!!! I totally agree with you
If your best friend isn't your partner, then that makes them second best friend or so. Then, why are you even with them? It's a big NO for me, and I totally call BS on that. And, yes, it includes "bestie" and any other variations of it. Who is playing games here, Charley?? :happy_face:
You know right, people just brand it under different variations
Yeahhhh, Charley!!!!🤣
I believe what is yours is yours, that guy wasn't her's to keep and am sure she saw the red flags and ignored it. I don't have any problem with my guy having a best female friend but I believe there is a limit to what they both should discuss or do. A cheat is a cheat best friend or none
Yeah, that’s the whole point, there should be a limit
This is the real shocker!😂😂😂
I've heard wack excuses, but this one takes the wackest medal. Wtf😂😂
We'll washout for you, lady with a gun😂😂
I've heard stories like this too, and in my case, it's normally the lady that has this bestfriend and later leaves the guy she's with, to be mysteriously found dating the supposed bestfriend. It's interesting to see that it happens with boys guys and girls.
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I’m not playing anymore🤣
You know what? You are extremely funny🤣🤣
All the campus wife duties gone into a thin air, hmm🤔 at times we need to be wise especially in relationships.
People are not to be trusted but trust me with your man, 100% assurance 👌
😦😦😦😦let me run away from youuuu🤣
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After you use the gun please pass to me, there is somebody I want to have a brief meeting with.
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Ose now I have a gun.😂😂
This guy err, all I can say is God will catch him. It’s okay to have friends in a relationship but one you’re sure about your partner and what you two have going, sometimes you need to set boundaries between you and your friends. If your friends are sensible, they will understand.
God will catch him indeed🤣
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You see the issue with my boyfriend having a bestie of the opposite sex, I won't take that. Why get the opposite gender as a bestie when I am there for you?
Also, the issue with my pastor said I should not marry this or that.. I don't believe it because I believe in your choice and also going to God to pray about it yourself. This is because I have heard of cases of people saying my pastor said he or she is my partner but when they finally get married, you then see the beast in them show out. Wetin concern pastor there? 🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣this made me laugh so much
Ahhh maybe pastor didn’t really see it well🤣
I support your position. I see no reason why a guy would have a girl as a bestie. As a man, I don't expect my wife to have a man as bestie. Heaven would come down that day. Reciprocally, I don't have a female friend not to talk of a bestie. My wife is enough. Kudos for the beautiful piece.
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The bestie thing sucks.
My girlfriend can never be somehow's bestie. But I'm allowed to be someone's bestie 😅
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