Love Quadrangle

During my undergraduate studies, I had a best friend who was also in a different school in a different region very far away from me. We had been friends for so long and as a clingy person, I was obviously the one who always wanted to see her. I remember how I could travel miles just to go see her. If I think about it now, I laugh because as a student whose parents thought I was in school studying, I also had a different agenda. I was busy chasing friendship.

Traveling about 10+ hours to see my best friend became a thing for me. She was the only one I trusted and eventually it was as if I needed her to survive at a point. I’m sure you’re probably saying “awww besties goals”. Sigh. Let me not even go further but just so you know, we are no more friends as at now. It happened that I was that friend “who was all over her” and she has her real best friend on her campus.

That was just common friendship but I was shown pepper in different colours and sizes. Now imagine if it was a romantic relationship. I don’t have trust issues and I believe that is the problem. Sometimes when you trust people, you give them the chance to do whatever they want to you. When they eventually do that “thing” to you, it hurts so bad because it mostly involves another person.

I could go on and on but the main point I’m trying to make is that, the whole issue with my ex best friend scarred me. I’m not a huge fan of long distance relationships and if I had a partner who was far away from me due to work, I don’t even know what I would do. The one thing I’m certain about is how I wouldn’t even be in such a relationship in the first place.

I don’t want to even talk about the cheating part because people are so quick to defend themselves anytime they are caught cheating. I remember a married man who was working away from home saying the reason why he forgot to tell his side chick he was married was because he was shy. I’m sure you said “ah” because that was exactly what I said after hearing it.

It’s funny how people could be so strong together and then just a little distance would destroy everything they had. I have seen a lot from being in a long distance bestieship and I believe that’s enough. I’ve had my fair and once bitten, I won’t do again. Even with common friendship, I almost lost my life so imagine being in a romantic relationship.

As I always say, long distance will work well if the four people in the relationship understand each other and that is likely to end in premium tears. Above everything else, Kwame Nkrumah didn’t lead Ghana to independence for me to go through all that so nothing about long distance relationship concerns me.