The Qualities and Core Values I Look For In Friendship

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When it come to making friends, I always see myself as the odd one, I do view it as a big deal and stress kind of stuff when it come to making friend or maybe I love the lonely part or just like staying hidden, when it come to making friends, there are lot of things behind it. All my life, I have few friends and 90% of them are guys because I do find it more easier to connect to them than connecting with ladies (most of the time I walkaway or drop the friendship within a week without any reason). The funniest part was I wasn't like that before but when life through you lemon, you make your own lemonade

When it come to guys majorly we connect easily and most of the time I'm always free to say my mind but when it come to picking who to be friend with, there are some qualities I always consider and the first is Trust and Honesty. Any friendship that isn't build on trust and honesty is just nonsense and will crash in time, there is no way you will call someone your buddy without having trust in such person, like they use to say, it is the bedrock of any relationship. Well I trust people easily and always have their best interest at heart but is it vice versa, if I need you will you be there, can you be a shoulder to rest on, this are the frequent question I do ask myself when I decide to call someone my friend, also being honest means you have to be genuine with me, you don't need to fake things or become who you are not just to please me. People do make this mistake especially when they are friends with someone they view isn't on their level and they always go all out just to meet the standard and at the end it always blow back at their face.

One important quality guys do look for in friendship is Loyalty, this is the reason why bro code still stand till today and you will see most guys stand by each other even during bad times, we want that loyalty and if broken, it can never be repaired and there are high possibility that other mutual friend will ditch the one that isn't loyal immediately, I have seen and heard of cases where sworn brothers (friend) turn enemies because one of them backbite and harm the other. This few qualities is enough for me to decide if we can be true friend or not, without all this it is best to greet each other from far distance.