The Delicate Art Of Making And Keeping Vows
Promises have been made right from the beginning of time, the kept ones and the broken ones. Whenever I think of promises, I think of important words said by an important person. Anything aside this is no promise but mere words taken too seriously. I mean, there are people we would take their promises to be a yes and Amen.
And there are those who would promise and we know at that point that they are just mere words. Sometimes, I think of who I am to people to around me in terms of making and keeping promises and I can only think of one thing, I'd prefer to keep things on a low or in secret until I've done it, no use making promises beforehand.
The Bible have taught us the significance of promises through the promises of God Almighty, they are vows that should not be given or said lightly at any given point in time and they should be kept by all means. I believe if everyone will accept the significance and be conscious of it, we would have less people breaking promises.
Making or keeping promises is a delicate issue that many have been involved in whether by impulse or assuredly. As much as everyone wants to keep their promises or want others to keep their promises to them, we still have broken promises and many wish they didn't make them in the first place. I have also had my own regrets.
I still remember a promise my uncle made to me when I was little because he broke it and never remembered to keep it, it's been almost two decades and it still comes to mind when I think of people who have promised me in the past. My uncle is someone I respect a lot because of how respectable he is and he's my dad's elder brother.
He's way older and even richer then so I had this strong belief that he would definitely keep his promise so I was all happy and excited for when that time will come. He promised I would go to one of the best schools as at then if I passed my coming exams, dad was still struggling so I was happy he'd be relieved from that but he failed.
I have also once made the promise to a friend that we would stay friends for a long time, we planned a lot of things we would do when we're done with school and always keep in touch if we had to go far from each other. Sadly, I didn't keep this promise and there were many factors that contributed to why this didn't work out though.
One thing I learned from both promises was that, the vow sayer didn't think of the factors that could cause the promise not to be kept even though they were so sure at the time of giving it. My uncle might have meant well when he made the promise but life happened and the same for my friend and I, we just didn't think it all through.
It is always a beautiful moment when promises are being made but it's more beautiful when they are kept, sadly many fail for both valid reasons and not valid ones. I think possible valid reasons for breaking a promise should be related to the person it was made to except on the ground that there are no way to contact the person.
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Wonderful write up @merit.ahama.
I might as well have a lot to say about promises being kept or broken.
I'll start with promises made to children. Just like how you won't forget the promises made to you when you were little. I had some like that too, I am the last child with my elder once by far older than me. One of my in-laws then would always(I mean every single time he comes visiting) promise to bring me a gift when next he visits but not once, never has he ever fulfilled it. The little mind of mine once hoped he would until eventually,his words made no meaning to me.
Children are optimistic, they believe and hold on to whatever they are told, they really don't know if you're capable or not, and most importantly they don't forget if you keep your promises or not. So if one knows that one won't go all out to make something happen, it's best not to promise a child.
Now generally, promises are in categories. Just as advised earlier and just like you mentioned, it's best not to promise, just do it.
The second ones are the promises one was made to promise. Things like "promise me that you will....". In that case, if you promise, you keep the person pleased but in the long run you break the person's heart if you eventually do not have the capacity to keep the promise. But if you say, "I am sorry, I can't promise that", you break the person's heart instantly but the damage would be minimal compared to, promising and not keeping it, so it's better.
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Well said, there are indeed promises made out of choice and the ones out of compulsion. It's best to do instead of promising.
It's nice reading from you
Indeed! At the point of making promises, it’s always as if there is nothing that can possibly go wrong but… life happens.
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And that's where we all get it wrong, thinking nothing can go wrong.
That’s right. Things go south.
it is important that people really understand the weight of promises and what it does to people when these promises are broken, i also was promised by my dad that if i was able to pass my exams and gain admission into the university that he was going to buy me a power bike, well i passed and till date i have not seen my power bike.,lol.
Lol your dad must have just wanted you to pass the exam by all means 😅
What really resonate with me is how you connected it all back to the promises of God.... the ones that never fail. That contrast between human limitation and divine consistency? It’s humbling. Maybe that’s the reminder we all need: to give grace, both to others and to ourselves, because not every broken promise comes from a bad heart. Thanks for sharing, I really enjoy reading it.
God's promises never fail indeed.
Humility plays a lot of role in life generally. Glad you stopped by.
I agree to you if we understand the significance of promise then world would be a better place to live but I can relate that sometimes life turned in such a way we can't continue to keep that promise
Yeah, life does happen to many promises that came from a good intentions.
It's always easy for people to make promises, but to fulfill the promises takes grace and putting it in mind. But I feel is better we don't even say whatever we have in mind to do for someone out, just incase you couldn't later get the opportunity to do it, so it won't be like you making promises and not fulfilling it
That's just it but then some people make these promises without even realizing they did.
Yeah! That's human being for you, some makes promises and even forget they make promise! Because the promise was made maybe bcoz they are too excited or out of pity. Which is very bad
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