The Quiet Cost of Doing Everything Alone

I am the type of person who does not like asking anyone for help, even when I know I clearly need the help. A lot of people say it's pride, but to me, it is not. Is it just an in-built attribute that I have developed over time, and I am so used to it now that I don't even notice it at some point?

While growing up, I usually hear a saying that if you want to go fast, go alone. So I have attributed that saying to asking for help too. So I have learned to get things done by myself, which I see that a lot of people respect. Even though they might not tell it directly to my face, I usually see how they treat me. From what I know and from my deep opinion, I usually believe that that person who is in need of help always might become someone that people might later be running away from or avoiding when things get tight. And I do not want my case to be like that. And that is why I have mastered the act of always doing it and solving the problem by myself, even if it is going to take a lot of my time.

I could remember a time like that; I require money so badly. Everything around me was so confusing, and things looked very different. I know the people I could call to help me out so easily, but at that moment, I never messaged or called anyone. I stayed up on my toes and was trying a lot of things just to get out of the mess. Later on, I was able to figure one or two out of the mess, and that made me stronger. Though I could have easily called someone, I didn't just want to become a burden on someone.

Do not get me wrong, I usually call for help. But that is during desperate moments, not when I know that I can get out of it myself if I push further. And doing that has shaped a lot of things about me. It has equipped me in a lot of ways, like always thinking outside the box. Exercise more patience in everything I do. And to always trust myself and my ability to push through. Like I said, no one can say I am a burden to them, not to brag. But that is a plus on my side. I always love to get my things done by myself, and that even protects my dignity more than I can ever imagine.

My sister once told me, like, one time like that I hardly asked for help. I smiled at what she said. But seeing this prompt made me think very deeply because me not asking for help has also come at a cost for me. In a way that I don't want to look weak in front of people or get judged or talked about later on. And some people can be so desperate that if they help me, to them I am owing them something, which I am trying to avoid. Though I am trying to come out of that recently because I also reach my limits sometimes, and asking for help is the solution. I have gotten to realize that it's good to ask for help so as not to break myself down completely, and it is not a sign of failure. But when I ask for help, it's from someone I trust completely.

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