Extended family members are very important

Uncles should be a very good connection that we should not joke with because no one just came down from heaven without a family. We need to recognize those extended family members because before we came into the picture they were there already.

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UNCLES AND AUNTS
Do you have a good relationship with your uncles and aunts?

Unfortunately for someone like me i never got the chance to get closer to my father's relative because I left the village when I was still small. I know I had a little closeness with them when I was small but growing up i had lost a good number of them before could even have the opportunity to get closer to them.

For many, they have no relationship with their extended family,

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That statement is meant for someone like me who had to grow without them in my life.
The only person that I know very well is the same person I lived with for more than 12 years of my life. She is the younger sister to my dad so when my dad died she took me with her and she never gave me that treatment of a family. She was always reminding me that my poor mother can't feed me well and that is why she carried. So i was always sad around her because of the way and manner she talks down on me. For the rest of others I don't know much about them until they all died.

My mother had only one sister and I know her not too much because of the distance, but whenever I travel home I will always go to her place I my elder sister to see her. She also passed away few years ago which made me not to have an aunt or uncle from both sides.

Is this something you want for your kids as well, or will you prefer them to have good relationships with extended family?

I don't really feel happy whenever I remember that I don't have a good relationship with my aunts and uncles from both my father and mother side. I really love to make a change for my own children. It has become a tradition for us to go home every year to meet the extended family and it has really helped my children to get closer to their uncles and aunts. I don't want history to repeat itself in the life of my children because of that they can't go through what I went through when I was growing up.

Another thing I want to improve for them is to connect them with my own family. The distance has also affected that relationship and it as made my children not to know my own people but at least they know everyone in their fathers family. So we have already made an arrangement with my own brothers and sisters that I am bringing my children home this year ending so that I can properly introduce them to my family. I really want for them to know and get closer to them.