Ladies of Hive Community Contest #235: Memories Beyond the Shadows
QUESTION:
How do you recover from emotional pain or grief?
ANSWER:
One of the hardest things to do in life is to find your way after getting lost... not in the literal sense, though in one way or another, that could be hard too.
When we fail at something... when we lose someone we love... when things don't go the way we want them to be, the feeling of being lost and not knowing what to do emerges.
These situations are inevitable, and we all experience them at some point in life, not just once, but multiple times. Do we simply just get used to it? I don't think so.
It's never easy to find our way... It's not easy to recover from losing someone we hold dear... success is never easy, either. There will always be risks to take and sacrifices to make.
I can't speak for everyone, and we all have our own ways of coping, but one thing is for certain... everything is temporary, and what you're experiencing at the moment will pass.
When I learned the concept of the stages of grief, things became much clearer. I know it's not always the case, and the process for each individual may be different, but eventually, we'll get to the final stage, which is acceptance.
In my case, I just try to remember this concept. I allow myself to experience every stage... I give myself time to deny what's happening... to get angry at the situation... to bargain and wish that everything would go back the way it was... I allow myself to be depressed... and acknowledge that what I'm experiencing is real until I arrive at the point of acceptance.
Even grief is a journey!
Before I end this post, allow me to share a poem I made a while ago.
Memories Beyond the Shadows
In unseen depths, quiet sadness lies
Unbearable pain and heartache are inevitable
Gushes of negative emotions, at times, unstoppable
But when there's darkness, there will be light
Let's not give in without putting up a fight
It won't be easy, not in any way nice
Success won't be achieved without a sacrifice
Denying reality and escaping are temporary
Unsolicited anger; normal, but is it necessary?
Longing for days as they used to exist
Don't you think it's the present that you'll miss?
Sure, we may find comfort in the shadows
But listen as your heart’s echoed scream grows
Gradually, we’ll rise and learn to accept
Carrying the past, with hearts newly swept
@tegoshei
This is my entry for Ladies of Hive Community Contest 235. Thanks for reading and see you around! (^^,)/
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Such a beautiful and honest post! Grief is such a personal journey, and I love how you break it down into the stages we all go through. Your poem, Memories Beyond the Shadows, really resonates with me, especially the lines about rising from the darkness and accepting the past.
Thank you! :)
Grief and its extent differ from person to person, so we can't really tell others how to feel, nor completely feel what they're going through... I'm glad to know that it resonates with you. :) It's a difficult thing to achieve, but eventually, in time and with the right support, we'd get there.
Well done and much needed as grief has found me in this spring ... thank you
Thank you so much...
Sending you a big hug!
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Thank you for this and your poem. And you are right, we all experience grief at some point in our lives, and deal with it differently. We are navigating such a journey after losing my mom earlier this month. It's a tough time for sure...
You're welcome... I'm sorry for your loss. It's difficult to imagine how hard it must have been. hugs
It's not easy, but like you said, it will pass. Thank you💗
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The way you described the stages of grief was so relatable. It’s hard to accept that it’s okay to feel all those emotions, but I love how you emphasized that everything is temporary. The poem was such a beautiful touch too!
Thank you... We all go through all these stages, so it's important to have someone to support us. 💙✨
Couldn’t agree more! Healing is easier with the right people around us.
Nothing stays forever and so is grief. Sometimes it takes time but we will be okay in the end 🙂.
Yes... that's true. :)
This is a beautiful and wise post, @tegoshei. I agree with you that everyone deals with emotional pain in their own way, and that the feeling of being disoriented and lost is very common when we experience painful experiences. A beautiful poem too. Have a great week! Best regards.
Thank you so much. I'm happy you like it. :)
This post really resonated with me.
You’ve beautifully captured how it feels to be lost, especially when life doesn’t go the way we expect. Whether it's failure, loss, or disappointment, those moments of feeling lost can be so overwhelming. I loved how you described it . it’s not just about being physically lost but emotionally too, when things don’t seem to make sense anymore.
What you said about grief really hit home. It’s true grief isn’t just something we go through once; it comes in waves, and each time we face it, it feels different. But knowing that everything is temporary and that we will eventually reach a place of acceptance brings a lot of hope. It’s comforting to realize that the painful emotions don’t last forever, even if they seem like they will in the moment.
I really appreciate how you allow yourself to go through each stage of grief without rushing it. That’s something I’ve struggled with in the past, but your words remind me that it's okay to feel each emotion fully and take my time in the process. It’s part of healing.
Also, I’m curious to read your poem! I can already tell it will be meaningful, based on the thoughtful way you’ve shared your experience here.
Thank you for this insight and for reminding us that grief is a journey.
It's not easy to go through these stages. I believe when we are at that point, we tend to forget and fail to understand what we're feeling. So, it's also important to have a strong support system to help us go through these changes. Have a good one! :D
Very aptly put @tegoshei. I would say losing someone isn't something that ever goes away entirely. You can still be hit years after, with any stage of grief all over again, but it does get easier. Oftentimes, when it's been a long time and you fall back into one of those stages, there's really something else that has happened to remind you of it and it's the current situation that needs to be addressed.
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It's my pleasure... thanks for your comment, too. And I agree that we sometimes circle back to some of these stages, especially when we're reminded of that something and/or someone. :)
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You got me in tears, this is not fair there should be a warning about it. I love how beautifully you have written about it. I admire your thoughts. 🌷
Aww... thank you so much.
I guess it's because the topic is very relatable to everyone.
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Yes, that's true 😭.
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Your poem is beautiful and heartfelt. I also agree that we must experience each stage of grief. Hugs!
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Thank you so much... :)
It's inevitable, so let's take our time and not rush things in order to heal. ^^
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My pleasure. :D
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It's always hard for one to accept life the way it is in difficult times, I love the part that says everything is temporary, which means the face itself shall pass...
I pray we all learn to tackle difficulties and also to accept things with faith, cause everything surely has an end
Thanks for sharing this with us
That's so true... :) Thanks for dropping by and it's a pleasure sharing my thoughts with you. :D