Tradition: The Idoma Culture In Nigeria
A tradition is a system of beliefs or behaviors (folk custom) passed down within a group of people or society.
While some traditions are worth emulating, some practices are toxic. One of these toxic traditions is practiced by the Idoma Culture in Nigeria. This part of the tradition must have been done by a group of men who wanted to satisfy their greed by imposing a rule that affects only the women but spared men of the same crime. At first I didn't believe it existed , until a friend who was actually from that culture confirmed it.
In Idoma Culture, a woman who cheats dies but a man is free to cheat with no consequences. I wondered why such a burden is put on only the women and the men walk freely with no guilt of their actions. This culture makes some Idoma men sleep around with confidence, knowing their Idoma wives would remain faithful no matter what they do.
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I find this tradition to be unfair and wicked to the female gender, making them seem like objects whose emotions can be toiled with no consequences. Marriage is designed to be a union where two become one in faithfulness and love, but some group of persons had twisted it into a system to satisfy their greed.
This tradition may help curtail unfaithfulness in marriage especially with the women but it gives room to certain men who desire other women but expect loyalty over their infidelity. Some may not see it that way, but to me, it's wickedness and unfair to the women who may expect loyalty too from their male partner.
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Bueno es verdad. Hay una larga lista de sociedades donde se la ha pedido fidelidad, devoción, e incluso la virginidad a las mujeres, pero no se le exige lo mismo al hombre. Eso no es exclusivo de las sociedades africanas, ha existido a nivel mundial en casi todas las sociedades, incluso en las occidentales. No obstante, lo triste de esa lógica, es que no solo pide que sea fiel sino también se le pide aguante a alguien que no la respeta ni como esposa ni como ser humano. E incluso pueden ser asesinadas por causa de un rumor, ni siquiera tiene haber una infidelidad real. Lo que implica que los niños van a crecer criados por un asesino, sin principios, repitiendo ese mismo patrón cuando sean adultos.
Me agrada que alguien se tome el tiempo de reflexionar sobre que tradiciones son injustas, que deberían haberse extinguido.
It's a very cruel tradition, I don't like it at all, it should be abolished, that's my opinion
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