Friendship, A Nomenclature Of Bias Or Genuineness

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For this prompt, we invite you to tell us, have your friend changed towards you after achieving a certain position? Did you try to reach out to know why? What excuses did he gave? How did the situation made you feel? How did you navigate through this hard time?

Friendship can come in different forms. Some friendships are formed because of the benefits they derive from such a relationship, while others are genuine and provide a strong support system for their friends. Others are just spectators in their friend's life. They are neither here nor there. They are friends when the journey is good and spectators in bad times. A nomenclature characterises such friendship because it shifts between genuineness and bias.

A genuine friend supports and stands firm with her friend through thick and thin. Does not hesitate or falter when it comes to speaking up for a friend. At the same time, a biased friend turns against a friend in times of need.

Growing up, I had childhood friends who were formed because of neighbourhood, family ties, and worshipping together. However, I met this particular friend, and we grew up together, sharing dreams and passions, and visiting each other frequently. Our parents knew that we were friends, but fate had it that he got admitted to the university before me, and as a result, graduated before me. They said, “out of sight is out of mind”

However, I also got admission, but to a different university. We struggled to maintain our friendship. Before I got admission, he was always forming busy and would ignore my calls. He would allow the phone to ring several times without picking up, and when he did, he would start telling me about his lecture class, babbling on and on. I tried to manage the situation, but he was giving me the cold shoulder. I was hurting inside until I sat down and advised myself.

Within that time, I realised he was using the admission he secured before me as a weapon. While I was trying to manage the situation, he graduated with a first-class degree, whereas I achieved a second-class upper division. This was the last straw that broke the camel's back; he felt like a king and made himself unreachable. His friends and family were relishing the moment, so they didn't care to ask about me, as usual. Anyway, mine asked and I narrated my experience. I was advised to move on, and sincerely, I took that advice to heart and moved on.

Although our paths crossed again later in life, he has become a big name in his profession, while I would say that I am not doing badly in my career and profession. I also found a new circle of friends that filled the void he left.

Have you ever changed your friends or other people after getting a position or a certain amount of money? What prompted the change? It may be due to a busy schedule or they no longer think in the same direction as you. All the same, share with us.

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For me, I only had a reason to change when one of my friends was not thinking or acting right. She needed some funds to launch a business, and we, as her friends, contributed and supported her. Getting to another friend's turn, she refused to assist with funds to support a friend within our circle. I reached out to her, but she remained adamant about changing. I started ignoring her calls. I purposely did that to reposition her mindset, and I am happy that the goal was achieved. She retraced her steps, did what she was advised to do and rekindled the fire of a true friendship as it was before.

Today, that single act has not only rekindled our friendship but also made me her confidant.

Thank you for reading. I am looking forward to reading your feedback in the comments section.

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