How I Played the Blame Game

I had resented my Dad for a long time in the past until a few years later, when I became aware of the truth about life. I read @abenad's post a while ago, and it hit me again because I have been there. I played the blame game. I blamed my parents for everything we went through. The lives we never wished for, the luxury I saw other kids enjoying and how I have watched wealthy parents leave fortunes for their children. I was always envious of their lives, and I thought they were better off than I was.

"If only our Dad had properties, if only he had finished school and working in a big company", I said one day to my siblings. They too felt unhappy about that. The blame game went on for years, and it stuck with me to the extent that I wished to return to the world through different parents who were wealthy.

Many of us, like me, have been there before. We blamed people, the government, friends and everyone for our misfortunes. When things are going badly for us, it is easy to blame the next person in our lives. We feel it's because of their presence that our lives have turned upside down. We feel that if only they had done the right thing, we wouldn't be where we are today. It left so much pain in my heart that it became a part of me not to feel grateful for where I am.

Many years later, after learning a profound thing that talks about being grateful in every situation. This is also found in the Holy Bible. Giving my life completely to Christ changed me totally. Life has made me realise that no one is coming to save us and that we owe no one what goes on with our lives.

If my parents couldn't give me the life I wanted or wished for, I could give myself. If they don't leave any inheritance behind, I can work myself up the ladder and do more in Christ Jesus.

I realised that our parents are also human beings, and no matter their choice in the past, which has brought them here, it doesn't mean life would be shattered for us. We just have to change the narrative, and of course, it's in our hands and particularly, God's hands.

I stopped blaming even the government, like most people do. The truth is that being involved in the blame game will never bring results; action does. You won't progress if you still sit there waiting for manna to drop down from heaven. The Bible says no food for a lazy man.

Nobody owes you anything even your parents. Our parents would always pray one prayer that we will move forward than them, and if we truly want this to happen, we've got to take action and stop blaming anyone.

Everyone who comes into our lives comes for a purpose, some to stop you, some to cause you pain and others to push you forward. But one thing is sure, we must take lessons from each happening to keep us going.

I learnt not to blame anyone for whatever happens to me, I take full responsibility. I am the one in my boat, and I drive myself. People will only bring advice, suggestions, etc, it is left for us to weigh the good ones while sifting the bad ones.

In the end, we would still have to make the decision when we get to that stage where we don't have to depend on anyone except God. The truth? Depending on God and not leaning on our understanding is the key to a successful life.

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