Figuring Out Adulthood Even When It Overwhelms Us

Adulthood is a phase of life that keeps beating you but as it has always been, we all keep pretending to be okay until we are. Nobody learnt to be adult at once but experience, maturity and time teaches us over time to manage being an adult even in face of difficulties and reasons to wish we were kids. It's a phase we keep going on.

Adulthood is about figuring things out. When we think we are growing and able to get it right, something goes wrong and teach us yet another lesson. There was a song about "adulthood being a scam" from an artist and it was so relatable to those who have embraced their adulthood but can't help but think back to when they were kids.

Not everybody's childhood were the best part of their life but we all know there were so many things we didn't have to worry about back when we were kids that we are made to worry about now as adults. For this post, I'll be sharing real adulthood struggles that we pretend to be okay living with and that I have experiences with them.

It's in adulthood, salary enters and disappears so fast: Some adults don't even have salaries they expect and for the ones who do, it's almost a norm to have that salary disappear so fast into bills or debt payment. I don't wait for monthly salary but I know just how hard it feels to wait for one only for it to disappear so fast, yet we're fine.

In adulthood, every meal is a negotiation: I can't express enough the phases I have to go through when it's time to have a meal especially on days there's not much in the wallet. "Maybe I should sleep a little more", "I have no idea what to eat", "I should eat a little and have the rest for later" it's almost always a struggle but we're fine anyways.

In adulthood, we realize school didn't prepare us for the real deal: With all the things I've had to go through and relearning I had to do, school didn't prepare me for them. It was all study to pass exams, make new friends and try out new things as a student then as a graduate but no special guides on what life will throw at us but we're fine.

In adulthood, we budget money that hasn't even arrived yet: This has happened to me a lot until I learned to reduce my expectations and it's mainly because of the experiences I've had with it. Adulthood pushes one to budget on what's yet to come because there's so much we have to meet up with so we don't lose ourselves but we're fine.

Adulthood keeps teaching lessons we never asked to learn: Just when I thought I was wiser with how to handle my budget well, I fell for another money trap and learnt how to manage the money I try to save. There is always something to learn as an adult, it can be overwhelming sometimes but then, we're fine.

I'll say "Adulthood" is not for the weak so if you're an adult and still pushing regardless of those overwhelming moments, know you are strong and you've got to be fine even for what's to come. It's all part of growing up, getting hurt and healing until old age where we look back and be with less regrets and more lessons to share with others.