From ‘Me’ to ‘We’: The Secret to a Happy Marriage
In Nigeria, Many See Marriage the Wrong Way
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In my country, Nigeria, many young people—especially women—see marriage as a way to escape poverty. Some believe if the man has no money, then there is no love. They think once they marry a rich guy, all their problems are solved.
But that is not always true.
Marriage is not an escape route. It is not “flee-go” from hunger or hardship. If you marry someone just because of money, what happens when the money finishes or when hard times come?
Real marriage is about love, understanding, hard work, and partnership. It’s about two people coming together to support each other, grow together, and build a life filled with peace and joy.
From Me to We – What It Truly Means
When you are single, you think mostly about yourself—your plans, your needs, your dreams. But the moment you enter marriage, it’s no longer about “me.” It becomes “we.” Everything you do now must include your partner. Your plans, your spending, your decisions—all must be shared.
This change is not always easy. That’s why every single man and woman needs to do the following before entering marriage:
1. Know Yourself First
Before you become “we,” make sure you understand who you are. What do you want in life? What are your values, dreams, and fears? When you know yourself, it becomes easier to love someone else.
2. Pray About Your Partner
Marriage is a spiritual journey. You can’t just choose anyone because they look fine or have money. You need God’s guidance. Pray for direction. Pray for peace in your heart. And pray for the kind of partner that will help you grow.
3. Be Ready to Sacrifice
Marriage means giving up some things for the good of both of you. Sometimes you will say “no” to yourself so that your partner can be happy. That’s love. That’s maturity.
4. Learn to Communicate
Good communication is the bedrock of a happy marriage. Talk often. Listen well. Say how you feel. Don’t bottle up pain. Don’t keep secrets. Open your heart.
5. Don’t Marry Just for Money
Money is good, but it’s not everything. Marry someone who values you, respects you, and wants to build a future with you. Money can come and go, but love and teamwork will help you stand strong in any season.
6. Start Thinking as a Team
From the moment you say “I do,” you must start thinking like a team. No more “my way” or “your way.” It’s now “our way.” Learn to plan together, solve problems together, and win together.
Final Thoughts: Let Love Lead
Moving from “me” to “we” is a beautiful thing when done the right way. It’s not about losing yourself. It’s about becoming something greater together. It’s about friendship, prayer, respect, and love.
Dear single brother, dear single sister, don’t rush into marriage. Take your time. Learn. Grow. Prepare.
Marriage is not just for show. It’s for purpose. It’s a lifetime partnership. And when you do it with wisdom, with love, and with God, it becomes one of the sweetest journeys ever.
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Not marrying for money is very important because what if the money finishes? Will the marriage still be there or it’ll have to come to an end?
You are very correct 💯💯
You are very right, my sister.
Some women still don’t understand that money is not the main thing in marriage.
That’s why they make mistakes.
Some women think money is everything.
But the real currency of marriage is change.
Why? Because change always happens in marriage —
Sometimes things are good, sometimes they are hard.
Money can come and go.
But change is always there.
That’s why I call change the currency of life.
It is not always the same — it goes up and down.
What makes a relationship last long is the ability to endure —
To stay strong, even when things are not easy