She is still helpful to me.

Hello Hive,

It's yet another inspirational topic that's closely related to each and every one of us. Honestly, nobody could say there's no such relationship around him or her at all. We only need some dimensions of wisdom, patience and logical strategies to handle them whenever such occurs.

In life, we create boundaries on someone or on some people to avoid some expensive dramatic stuff we may not be able to handle or didn't bargain for.

I strongly believe that our individual or collective peace is paramount to us, no matter what is trying to destroy our peace of mind and mental health.

My husband is the first son of a family of 4 ladies and 4 gentlemen, their mother is still alive but very elderly. Their last born is a lady of up to 40 plus by age but just got married recently. She has lived all these long years within her mother's kitchen or let me say, within her family circle. Every other one of her siblings live in the cities or abroad including my own family. Gradually everybody's absence at home made her believe she's totally in charge, but that's not true, because she's the last born of them all.

By her behavior, she makes me remember im not born and breaded by her mother and in her family. Which I already know. But she always flaunt it on my face, like to remind me that I'm coming from somewhere.

She's so harsh, brash, domineering, rude and talks tough to any person to some extent you feel like slapping her face right away. Yes, let me just be this raw for you guys to understand how annoying and infuriating her insults pose to anyone she is directing it to at any given moment.

No, i do not take it from her at all, i always re-act back to her simultaneously to make her know that i have my boundaries kept already. I won't take her rubbish method of humiliation by the way she talks and acts towards very simple and common issues.

I may not openly shout at her or confront her, no, but i have studied her to know what to do or how to arrest those her spilled over unacceptable toxic behaviors.

Both of us do not have open confrontations but we also know that we are not in absolute rapour, with each other, we know it. I don't care because if you succumb, she will rubish you the way she have always desired.

Tell me, how could someone come in to ask you to show her where to keep her bag because she was going straight to somewhere else at that moment, and doesn't need to go with her bag. You showed her, not too long ago. But came back almost immediately to say that she has decided to keep it in her cousin's house and went out with this bag.

Only to step out again immediately and begin calling her elder sisters on phone, telling them that you, their sister in-law has refused to give her their own house key??

Without her even asking for the key in the first place, she just formulated that insultive insensitive insinuation against the sister in-law for others to pick up quarrels with her sister in-law, may be for others to join her to hate their sister in-law and start taking her for granted because that's what makes her happy.

Everyone now started calling, asking, "what happened?, why have you refused to give her the house key. You could not believe your ears upon hearing this lies against your person. Creating deep avenues for arguments, explanations and hot exchange of words.

She sees everything around the family as her personal things despite that every other person has some shares and are older in age than her. No, she has just monopolized everything against everyone else. Using every loophole to make and create hatred and negativity in the large family. Mostly, against me.

SHE IS STILL HELPFUL;

1. She still helps me to do my laundry sometimes.
   2.She has been assisting me to bring grasses for the goats, i love this very much.
2. She helps me sweep and clean up goat's poo.

At the same time, she can be helpful domestically. On her own volition she can assist you to any level of help. she's strong and energetic. she can help you do some laundries, bring goat's grasses, sweep off their waste products, making their pen clean and habitable. She is a nice helper but whenever she remembers her rudeness, one will just wished she never helped out. Because that would get into your nerves, you will just forget all her helps you.

Her derogatory statements are not needed at all. Therefore, i protect myself as much as i can, by all means available.

In conclusion,
She suits this topic, being both hard working, helpful and at the same time antagonizing. I like the strength part of her but do not agree or accept her weaknesses, they're irritating.

This is my response to weekly prompt #29.

QUESTION;

Think of someone who you despise. Whatever the reasons are, can you highlight three things about this person that you admire regardless?.

Images are mine.

Thank you for reading, commenting and voting.
God bless y'all.

@ijebest.