What advice would you give yourself if you could travel back to your childhood self?
Stop pleasing everyone, learn to say NO politely.
Our generation is pretty well equipped to run the marathon of life, given that we have gone through lot of hardship without much expectation. Back then life was simple, there was no stress because we did not ran after anything, and pretty much did what our parents expected us to do. We were taught by our Parents to have kindness for everyone, without even thinking about the consequences. Help was always in our blood and in that process, I tried to please everyone, never said NO to anyone. Slowly that seemed so obvious that I could barely say NO even to outsiders, people would often come with their problems and ask for financial assistance and I would easily give them what they need, without even thinking the pros and cons. During Covid times, an auto driver whom we used to hire at times, came and asked for financial help saying his family is starving and he will repay back once his financial conditions improve. Couple of years passed and when things came back to normalcy, I asked him politely to repay the money and that is when there was significant change in his behavior - he started behaving like he would do a mercy on me by repaying. Later I heard he was into illicit drug business and even ended up behind bars for some time - so I decided to quit all communication with him. And that was not just one occurrence, I helped many people with financial assistance and none of them honored their commitment and those relationships have almost ended in conflicts.
So over time I have realized that pleasing everyone by showing kindness is the worst thing to do in life because the outside world is not as simple as us - people come with malafide intentions, and we being simple, easily trust them and help but then in reality, that harms the relationship. So the best thing is to learn to say NO at the first place. The moment you say NO, the entire scene changes and people may even try to bend you emotionally but if you consistently decide to choose NO, they will accept that as normal and not ask you back again. And the best part of that is that, the relationship stays normal - it's the money that creates conflicts in relationships.
The world is not the same as it used to be four decades back - so we have to learn these things and more importantly teach our kids to be careful and learn to say NO. This post is in response to the The Silverbloggers Chronicles - Prompt #9
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Saying no respectively is actually a skill. It is sometimes very difficult to do. I lost friends by lending them money, it is amazing how people start avoiding you when you ask them to give money back.
Okay! now let me think through this; It's sometimes very difficult to say no to some people even when the play isn't in our favour. Of course there are people who have had a huge influence in our lives, and one day they come up with a little favour from you, and their demands aren't really to your favour, you will definitely find difficulty in saying "No".
But to the vast majority of people, it is very necessary to say "No" politely.
Saying NO is certainly a skill. It's not easy to say NO, but we need to say NO in many circumstances
Join Hive sooner. Buy more Hive.Never stop believing in yourself. If you want to do something do it without delaying it for a long time- the more you delay the harder it will get.Even though I am not very old, I can still realize that our childhood was completely different from the childhood of the current generation. We had a normal life where there was no stress, even the way we respected our elders and said yes to things, and the current generation seems to be completely different.
It's true I grew up too trying to please everyone it leads me only suffering and soffocating my true self ❤️ it's take me years to learn to say no without feeling guilty 🤎🤎
Saying no is such an important thing to learn to do. People usually take advantage without realizing it and learning to set boundaries early can save a lot of stress and preserve relationships in the long run. But not to go off topic, if I could travel back in time I won't advice myself alone, I'll force my hand to press buy 10BTC for 10 dollars
The thing is that no matter how good you try to be with people you can never please everyone, we have good people ooo but the bad and ingrates are just too much and the good ones are few
Saying no is an art that needs to be learnt, it isn't a bad thing. Sometimes we also need to put ourselves first,
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What a cute / handsome little guy!
If I could tell my younger self.. easy.. buy as much btc as I can. :P
Just one piece of advice would be the following: "Be strong, even though it won't be easy, you will achieve what you set out to do."
If you constantly do people favors and do everything they say, they'll take advantage of it. We shouldn't trust just anyone with our money; we should only maintain financial relationships with those we trust deeply.
Very good advice. I think I will also take it because I have had some uncomfortable situations where I made the decision to say "NO" at the right time.
The word "no" has become a common saying these days because the person asking for help takes it very lightly and has no obligation to repay. There are plenty of examples of this. As humans, we should help others in need and build interpersonal relationships, but in today's society, it is not appropriate to be too compassionate. Therefore, we need to explain this to our children in a more appropriate way.
That's simple, I would suggest him not go to the. Colinpur picnic, and buy stocks like ITC, HUL, BEL, SBI. And there is something called BTC nobody knows how it works but buy it also as soon as you turn adult. 😂😂😂
On a serious note I would ask him to spend as much time as possible with family. ♥️☮️
It's difficult to give myself a little life lesson to improve and move forward, but I have it clear:
"Never feel less than anyone else for not having enough money."
The other is:
"There is an incredible opportunity, take advantage of it and buy all the Bitcoin you can, even if the mediocre people call you crazy, trust me."
When we were in school, we were very free to pursue our education, and there was no compulsion to pass final exams or to achieve big goals. We played sports with our peers while studying. It was truly a free mentality. Although simplicity existed in our childhood, it is clear that today's society is a chaotic world without simplicity.
Kiss a few frogs before you meet your princess.
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That's the pain when you lend others' money, the borrower even tries to avoid you.