Parents are the bedrock of their children's behaviour

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Just as the family remains the bedrock of the society, so are parents the bedrock of whatever behaviour their children displays most times (although not applicable in all cases.)

Growing up, children are stucked with their parents most of the times and children are one of the smartest creatures out there especially during their formative stages.
That's why parents will always be wary of the type of behaviours anyone exhibits around their children because they will surely pick it up.
Since we are with our parents, we keep learning from what they do consciously and subconsciously even without their knowledge.

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In that same way, it wasn't any different from my end, I learnt a lot from my parents, some of them which I modified as I grew older and some which are very perfect just the way they are.

From my mum, I learnt very important virtues:

Working Hard:

My mum is a seamstress and someone I'll describe as one of the most hardworking women out there.
Ideally in most families, mothers stay as housewives not contributing to the growth of the family in anyway and always keep demanding for this or that but I grew up with a mum who looks forward to fulfilling one project or another at the end of every year.

At the beginning of every year, she will look for a project she will fulfill and work towards achieving it and when you work hard with a plan in your head, it makes life easier because if you don't end up achieving that, you'll be very close to achieving it which in my books serves as a win-win situation.

Praying:

Well, I won't say my mum is a prayer warrior but then, she's a devoted Christian and a prayerful one.
Lest not for her, I won't have said even a single "Our Father" at home growing up because that's not what my father is after,lol.

Actually, over here, it just seems like mums pray more than dads so I wasn't surprised my dad joined the queue, lol.
Just like my mum, I've learnt to commit whatever thing I want to achieve into the hands of God.

Checking up on us:

My mum wins the award in doing this.
I could vividly remember when my elder brother went for his NYSC, a compulsory government service after University graduation at Jos, because my mum was scared of the insecurities linked up with the Northern part of Nigeria, she will always call my elder brother twice everyday till he finished... I mean for 365days straight, lol (can never be me though)

Even now at school, she calls us almost everyday and subconsciously, I've learnt this even though it's not as frequent as hers but atleast I've learnt to check up on my siblings and relatives atleast once a month.

From My Dad;

Drinking control:

My dad loves drinking alcohol but one thing I give him credit for is that he has never gotten home drunk nor have I ever heard he behaved in an questionable mannerism where he was drinking as a result of alcohol intoxication and this is because he knows when to stop, he knows his limit and once he has gotten to it, regardless of whatever free bottles that are there, he won't take any further.

When my dad hasn't been alcohol intoxicated before, why should I?


Habits are the core deciders of our behaviour with one another and this is to say that once you're of good behaviour, ideally, you will live your life trying to encompass everyone without constantly having troubles with whomever comes your way.
Learning all those good habits from my parents have continued to shape me to the best.

Anything good is good irrespective of where you learnt them from and should be preserved, so these good habits of my parents I learnt are indeed worth passing to the next generation and I will make sure my kids learns it from me not by me telling them about it but by them seeing me exhibit them in my daily life to life activities.


Thanks for reading and have a nice day



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We all have just fewer things to say about our father's trait. Lol

I think it is because they are not always home for us to observe such traits.

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Honestly 😂
I just kept on thinking and it seems everything was from my mum

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Same here

I was like hope they won't complain then I remembered mentioning that I was a mummy's boy. So it's all good 😁😁😁

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Hmmm what an adorable virtues you have learnt from both of them and I'm happy you have it in mind to pass it to your children

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I'll certainly do because they're good
Thanks for coming around

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That's one thing I like a lot about some men I know that drink, drink but don't drink to the point where you start misbehaving.

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It takes a huge self-control to get to that level honestly especially when the drink is free

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My mother worked very hard to guide me and give me an education so that I would be a useful man, just like yours, that example has stayed with me and I consider that it is a very important value that has taught you to be persistent and achieve your goals. Religion is very important and above all it guides us in the face of hopelessness, it is always good for everyone to give God a place in our hearts. As a wise mother she is passing on to you her children the need to always be concerned about their needs and still takes care of them. God bless her.

Your father is a person who knows his limits and is giving you an example in which he is showing you that the image you show to others is important and that he respects his wife and children above all things.

It is good that you have assimilated these traits and behaviors of your parents. I really liked your publication, Regards.

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That was a very quick great summary...
Thanks for the compliments and I appreciate you coming around
Thanks

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Our mothers are always hardworking especially African moms. If you’re lazy you’ll just feel your mom doesn’t like you because she’s always on you to work.

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Yes, they truly are and that's why they find it easy to adapt even against all odds even things don't go so well

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Growing up I felt the constant calling to check up on someone was unnecessary but I have come to realise that your love for someone cannot be complete if you don't try to at least make sure they are ok. It must not be in the same manner as our parents (call) it could be using any of the numerous options available to use these days.
As a man, it's important to not get drunk, the embarrassment that comes with it is not something a responsible man should bring to his family.

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