Prioritise Your Health: Understanding Medical Compatibility in Relationships

I was way past teenagehood when I fully understood what genotype was and how important it is for partners to be compatible health-wise before embarking on a journey that means forever, of course till death parts them. I have seen cases of children who suffer from sickle cell disease as a result of their parents' inability to take action at the right time. We all know love is sweet and important but it shouldn't make one ignore the crucial aspect of life and health.

Children go through lots of pain when they are SS patients and this is always a tough battle for the parents to fight through. I pity those in such situations as they are as a result of their parents' negligence during their dating and courting journey because they were clouded in love to understand how important it is to be medically compatible, and in most cases ignore such thinking and believe all will be well. Of course, there is nothing prayer cannot do and we all believe God is a miracle wonder but sometimes, doing the needful at the early stage is crucial to prevent any future occurrences.

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There is nothing bad going ahead with a relationship that is already ordained by God, especially for those who have prayed for the right partner and for cases where both aren't medically compatible but with God's hand in it, they can believe everything will work just fine. That's not where I want to channel my post to.

It is important for new partners who are just starting their relationship to define their love life at the earliest stage by knowing their medical compatibility, i.e, genotypes before going too far in it. There is a need for both partners to be open, honest and transparent about their medical histories, conditions and concerns for each other. When discussions like this happen, it helps both of them to know what to do on time and things to embark on if they truly love themselves because this is just a matter of the future and not the present. Going for medical detection by checking themselves early to find out any health risks should be their utmost priority.

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I read a post some months ago where the user narrated how her friend's relationship stopped because of genotype issues after many years. Both of them had gone too far and were already on their way to planning their wedding when they discovered both could not continue because they were both AS. Though it was painful and heartbreaking, they did the right thing to separate themselves to prevent any challenges which might affect their marriage later.

To prevent this from happening, both should be clear right on time with each other before going deep into it. At least it wouldn't hurt so much when they are just starting and discover they aren't compatible than to be far gone into it and coming out would be difficult and that could be more painful to the extent that one of them might commit suicide because, maybe along the way, they have made the promise never to leave themselves: it is you or no one else.

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Well, in a case both of them find it difficult to separate because they cannot watch their relationship of years go down just like that especially one they have invested in so much, seeking a healthcare professional in this regard would be the best option. The professional would guide them and help them understand the risk involved and how to go about it in case some ugly situations occur later. But to me, I would say prevention is better than cure because marriage is a lifetime thing where no one would want to keep nursing health challenges which eventually may result in the death of children.

Going for a test early enough is necessary to know where your fate lies and whether you both are good to go or not. Remember good health is something required to live a good and peaceful life. Shalom!

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