The True Powerlessness Of Money
This post's title is a bit of a hyperbole, but......... 2014 was one of the toughest years of my life, it was so because 80% of the problems I had could have been with the right financial capacity. Sometimes money problems make us think the world will end until we have money and remain helpless against our problems. It's tough to be handicapped.
No one deserves to be handicapped when facing life demons. This is because it puts you in a psychological position of helplessness and rewires your mentality.
However, If I had my wish in life, I'd wish never to be in a better financial position and still be helpless against my problems. When people are broke, it can act as the right justification to cope with a lack of capacity.
For example, a person who couldn't buy Bitcoin when it was 15k last year might say "Oh I didn't have money". It's better than saying "I had the money, but I made the mistake of not choosing to buy it"
There's justification in feeling naturally powerless against a formidable enemy
.....but when you feel equipped and still lose irrespective of your capacity, it creates this mindset of disability, no matter how mentally-abled you might think you are. I miss having only money problems in my life. Nowadays I have both money problems and problems money cannot solve.
It's a dark place to be in.
I saw people in the hospital yesterday, helpless and unable to help their situations some of them looked like their money wouldn't be able to save them, and it's a terrible place to be in.
Recently I realized that I probably never had a lot of people who "truly" cared about me. See the emphasis on "TRULY". it's a pastoral representation. Sometimes the attention people give to money is not worth it, and this is because someday they might be in positions when the attention they paid to making money won't be able to save them.
It's the same.
I've paid solid attention to some people in the past, and in the past few months I've expected them to do the say for me, but they just didn't. It hurt a lot. Then I realized it was my fault. Nothing is ever truly yours, except the undying and unconditional love you show to yourself.
You have to understand that people will never truly treat you the way you want them to, never coming to terms with this and accepting it can break a person in their trying times.
For example, I've pretty much lost all of my nuclear family, inasmuch as it was a dysfunctional family, the was this sense of security that came with having them. Now you truly begin to understand that the concept of true love is a charade.
To be very honest, you live your life, and you need to start reducing the dependability on even that person that gives you a sense of security. Most of us are not truly as secure as we think. It only takes a big problem in your life to truly understand.
There's no harm in knowing you're not truly secure.
Along the line, you'll make your peace. For me, I want to live a life with less emphasis on emotional attachments. I've lived it for a while, and it's probably why I still feel hurt. I must begin to detach myself and begin to live in my nomenclature. I don't think deeper connections to things that might fail you are recommendable. However, a lot of people want to do that, because it makes life enjoyable.
2023 has probably superseded 2014 because this year was full of things I could virtually do nothing to solve. It's a powerless situation and it has dented my confidence a lot. Like the illustration I made, I preferred 2014 because a lot of the failures I had were things I could have resolved if I had the money. The lessons I learned bettered my life.
However, the pain I've had recently battered me, rather than bettered me. It's life, and I think people eventually go through their fair of disappointment.
Life isn't sentimental, it dishes pain, laughter, triumph, wealth, depression, money, gains, sadness, and all that. It doesn't listen to our pleas, life just happens, and that's it. We're left to begin to deal with it.
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Thank you
I totally agree with you about life
The Title is a Reality check, Money is Very Powerful in Reality but it Is powerless in Reality too,
Money can Buy Happiness partially, It can even buy Love : but not true love, It can Sustain Life to an Extent but can Never buy Life, I really empathise with you on most of the occurrence that happened lately, it's Just Life that is what it is, very not promising with its surprises. That is why Every Minute you spend Living, Be happy and do things that keeps you happy. Spread your happiness to people that is just the Essence of Good Living.
Well done boss
Well, I won't say it's a reality check. A lot of people might disagree. The only way to truly understand the other side of money is to probably experience so many aspects of life.
Thank you for your kind words.
I also recently had this back and forth debate with myself, I looked at life at a glance and I concluded that the only thing I can advise myself now and anyone else is
Just Live your life like make every moment of each day count,
I can easily fall into depression cause of the way I am and was raised like a housekeeper with abusive words and I can't really make friends like a free person, always timid and shy, I never had that touch and feel of a family cause I lost them both when I was young, yah mine too is a dysfunctional kind of family
But one fact is I'm determined to makke the most of me while I still can, I might look like a fool trying but I know my future is certain and there's no compromising...
Talking about money, I know this from day one there are things money can't buy, it's irrelevant, well that's why I try as much as possible to maintain close relationship with those up not really my circle or equals but those way higher, older, wiser than me, and I pray each day brings me luck ...
Losing mine as a adult is probability the hardest thing to do. It feels unreal. The memory is still alive in my head. I can relate to your situation. I stayed with one of my uncles as a 14 year old. It felt like living as an outsider. It's the nature of my family, that is why I even had to stay with relatives in the first place, one thing I think future parents should never do.
I'm not even certain of anything anymore, I just want to live my life and take it one day after another and I know it'll eventually get better.
Thank you always for your kind words.
You're always welcome 🤗
Some week's ago, I was having this discussion with a friend, it was something that seemed more like an argument, where he affirmed that money couldn't buy happiness, although I was on the opposing side trying my best to convince him that money could, I was doing that to keep the conversation going, but even within me I knew money couldn't. Money is not everything in Life and the painful part is that you only come to that realization if you've gone through a pain that money could not help you with, like I can say in your experience.
I can say your points are valid and I've gotten very valuable lessons here.
Some truth are very unpleasant when we come to the awareness, but truth will remain truth.
I could say a lot but I would stop here and I really appreciate you for sharing. I hope you're getting better now, and your visit to the doctor is yielding positive results ? God's grace Bro 👍
You have nailed this. Truth is, people doesn't really care about you, especially if you don't have money. The issue of money is making so many think that life is all about money but life is beyond just having money,and most people only gets to realise this when life happens to them.
Exactly, the issue with money is that it makes people think there's nothing else beyond money. Some lessons only happens in life when some specific experiences begins to unveil in the life of a person, and believe me, most people learn even better when the experience is a painful one.
Finding people who care for you may be very hard. I think one person who truly cares for others is a mother and not all mother care.
At the same time, there may be other people who care but may be rare. At the end of the day, you are all by yourself so always make sure that you are good
Life just happens. That hits deeply because it is the plain truth. Being powerless in a situation you have the needed element to fix is one of the... phew, it is a feeling that can not be said in just one word to me.
It is sad, though, when we hope people will truly do things for us. I have met with disappointments in life to fully scrap this off. People will always be people. They can be there and not there.
Well, like you said life happens. I've had endless bouts of slips into depression, Saturday was the worst mental breakdown I've had in over 3 months. It came from the feeling of helplessness and being alone. It's truly a terrible place to be in.
It truly is, and I am so sad and angry you had to go through that alone. I am so sorry. I just hope you'll continue hanging there for us all.
Life is riding highs, reaching lows, picking up and going again. Trust in your own gut feelings more often than not they are right.
I hope to have my moment of "picking up" some things hit and you're not sure if you'll ever pick up. Tragedy differs in degree.
Loss through tragedy takes a long time to rectify (if ever). Being knocked down financially a different approach needed.
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It's definitely tough when money is an essential part of our life. It helps out with some issues but it won't solve everything. Having money though does remove one of the barriers to life though. I hope you are able to overcome both issues soon.
In the same way, within a year of life, there will surely come a time when there is trouble from all sides and neither a person has money nor a person's mind is working properly, then that time is too much. It is difficult, only one thing can make a person successful again, that is patience. At this time, a person should only be patient and work hard.