Liberation in Solitude: My Pursuit of Happiness
Happiness is relative. What makes you happy might not make me happy. It doesn't necessarily have to be money, but if money is involved then that would be all the more juicy. What would make me happy has always been having my space all to myself.
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I'm not a loner but you could mistake me for one because I mostly spend time alone. Being alone helps me wrap up my creativity and inspiration flows more easily than when I am not sharing my space with anyone.
The truth is my body is always shy when there's another presence around me. I find it difficult to tap into my creative spirit in other people's presence. This means the typical workplace teamwork scenario might be something I would have struggled with if I ever had the opportunity to go through with it. I mostly work alone and it would take a lot of courage to trust other people with my work.
Being happy for me would be meeting people who understand that I value and crave my personal space more than anything in the world that they let me have it. If I meet someone who constantly invades my personal space, I'll try to always come up with excuses to shut them out. But if you meet me and understand how much the things I love are to me and hand them over to me, there's every tendency that I'll be craving your presence more than anyone else in the world.
Yes, I have the singular opportunity of always being alone and doing the things I love around the clock and if you ask me if I am happy, the answer would be a big yes. I get to wake up when I want, dive straight into my writing schedules, engage in Hive, in city interaction, see a movie, read a book, prepare the meals I crave at a given time, etc. You could say every day is a perfect day for me except days when I am too stressed to follow through with some of these schedules. Days of this nature don't take my happiness away because I have the chance to lay still, rest, and re-strategize.
My happiness comes first, gone are the days I used to sacrifice my happiness for something not worthy of my attention. For a while now, I make sure I weigh the things I do on the scale of how happy they would make me before I do them. Some of them might go off course, but a large percentage of those decisions were good ones and I didn't regret any of them.
The cost of choosing my happiness over anything else is the well-acclaimed solitude. Yes, I have fewer friends and buddies. And choosing to always be alone costs me people. But I don't know if I need too many people in my life or if I just need quality ones and leave the rest to find other people they can connect with. However, I am never lonely because by the time I realized I have fewer friends, it's always late in the night when I am trying to snuggle into bed all tired and craving a big rest. Once I wake up in the morning, the thoughts drown in my sleep and I am back to ticking my schedules off the to-do list.
And I could say your true happiness has a lot to do with peace of mind as well. I can't imagine how restless or annoyed you'd be when someone or people try to invade your alone time.
I hope you keep finding your happiness as you continue to live in this busy world 🙂
Hah! So on point. Peace of mind. That's one thing I wouldn't trade for anything in the world. Thank you for visiting, dear..
Yeah, same here
You're welcome
Having quality friends that you connect with is better than too many unconnected friends.
And it's best to place your happiness above all things that way you can give out the best you.
Thank you for your support @ginika. Quality friends beats a series of unconnected ones.
And I'll always place my happiness above anything else. Thank you visiting 🥰
You are welcome.
If you find happiness in your personal space, by all means, stay true to yourself and don't let anyone try to take that from you.
Hah! Thank you @glorydee. I won't allow anyone take my peace of mind from me. Thank you so much for your support 🥰
Life has taught us so many things as they day goes by. This is one big lesson you have learnt and realized, I am sure that several others are confused out there in search of a genuine happiness they will never find unless they look within.
Sis, looking within is the only way we can truly honour who we are. Thank you so much for visiting.
Our happiness will always be our first priority. I also like to be alone when I have something creative and I have to take decision for it. You are shy oh my ghost! You sung songs magically good. I appreciate your way of happiness.
Lol. Thank you for the compliment.
I'm glad you also crave your space when need be.
We may be similar in that regard. Because I also tend to cherish my personal space despite what it may look like. I am very introverted and quite extroverted when need be but most times, I just can't deal. Just like you, feeling alone and sad happens mostly at night for me. During the day, I'm a whirlwind with no time at all...
Hah! I can't deal too ooo... Even though there are times when our extroverted nature wants to come out... Lol
I'm glad you can relate @deraaa. How have you been?
😅I have a colleague who is not a respecter of one's personal space. I appreciate the part you mentioned loving your happiness and never ready to trade it for something that wouldn't bring equal or even more happiness. It is really good to find what works for you. I learnt something here. Weldone
Lol. I did have a friend like that too. We quarrelled multiple times but no headway 😂
Thank you for the appreciation, @adoore-eu. I'm glad you learned something.
I sure did. Weldone.
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Dear my lady @iskawrites !
I agree with you!
Everyone wants a private space where they can enjoy their own absolute freedom.
To have that space, we must pay a price.
I believe that money provides a pathway to happiness, even if it is not happiness!
Absolute freedom is something that we crave. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.
Truthfully, a price must be paid if I truly want my space all to myself.
Thank you for visiting, @goldgrifin007. I appreciate you 😍
I felt that you are definitely a woman with a different disposition from Asian, European, and American women! 😄
They say all women have a lot of secrets, I wonder what secrets you're hiding!😉
Hahaha 😂😂😂
Good gracious! 😆😆
Yes, I have lots of secrets but if you consistently read my blog, I'll share them for as long as the blockchain remains and you will discover them all. I know, it will no longer be a secret but this is me, my blog is everything me.
An East Asian proverb says that a woman's greatest secret is her man!
Who is your man?😄
Hahaha........ You are!!! 😂
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Why is he laughing 😂
I laughed because I was happy!