SHE WAS JUST TOO UNFAIR
Happiness is a gift that only you can give to yourself but then it's sad that most people think it's a gift that we will receive from someone else or something. Life is not fair to everyone yes, but that should be a reason why we should learn to be happy in whatever situation we find ourselves. As hard as it can be, rejoicing with others when they are rejoicing just pays better.
We all have a time when things and people just seem to be against us and that is the major reason why we think life is unfair or bad to us. Most times it gets to us so well that we start letting those things determine our happiness. At some point in my life I had an experience that made me feel so maltreated and oppressed and it hurt me really badly but then that pushed me to where I am today.
Due to how my background was, I was someone who never stayed in one place, I lived with literally all my relatives because I had no option. My dad was not doing so well at some point in life so we had to go live with any relative that was ready to accommodate us. There was a time when we went to live with my grandma (my mum's mother) and some of my other cousins where living with her too and also my aunts.
She lives in the village so going to the farm was a norm. During school days, we normally don't go to the farm but on weekends, it's a must we go to the farmland which is very far away from the house. We attended school there and since it was a village school we also had every Friday for working in the school farmland. It was not easy for us at all but we had to adjust somehow.
There was this particular Friday which was agreed was for games which was supposed to be for labor due to an upcoming interhouse sport. I was really excited about it because at least this time we weren't going to be laboring but having fun. That Friday we closed early from school and we were given the opportunity to go home to eat and come back. At first I knew going back home and coming back won't be easy but then we needed to eat.
After much deliberation, we had to go home and unfortunately for us, my Aunt was at home. We already told my grandma that day was our game day and she agreed we could go but when my aunt heard about it, she disagreed. We pleaded with her to let us go and after much pleading, she agreed with a condition and that is for us to do some unnecessary tasks before going.
Well we quickly got to it and in no time we were done and we got ready to leave but somehow she said we shouldn't go. I was so sad and I felt really oppressed. My sister was already giving up but as the stubborn girl I was, I took the courage to ask my aunt why she was so against us going but then she took it really offensive and punished us severely that day.
I cried for as long as I could and in the end we missed that game. She gave us really good flogging that I can never forget. That made her the least aunty to me. She was just so unfair and never reasons with us. Well I didn't blame her much because it wasn't her fault we couldn't get the chance to live with our parents. Since that day, I was so bent on leaving that place for good and that made me pester my dad even more to come and get us.
When the one and only opportunity came, I grabbed it so well. It was holiday and we told my grandma we wanted to go and see my dad. We packed almost everything we had in the house and that made my grandma curious. She was curious because we told her we were going to come back but deep down, I knew that was never going to happen, I was literally running away. We had to reduce the things we planned taking with us just so she could believe we would come back.
We finally left the village and that was the last time we ever went there to live. We only went there for holiday once and that was it. I was so glad we left that space because that was the only way we got to see a better way to make life better for ourselves. Thanks to how my aunt maltreated us I just couldn't bare to cope with such a life anymore. She practically saw us like rags she could trample on (that was how I felt) but I wasn't someone that enjoys being oppressed.
This is my little response to the Hivelearners topic on "IT WAS JUST UNFAIR".
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Thank you Menati 😊
I have never been maltreated this way. Although I cannot relate to the awful experiences you faced, I can totally understand how you and your sister felt. I think it’d be kind of disrespectful for me to say awful things about your aunt. So, how about I put it this way; there are a lot of people out there; people who maltreat others just because they are inferior or at their mercy.
Hope, I'm really sorry about all you and your sister faced. It made you guys stronger. Yu are no longer that HOPE. Merit is no longer that MERIT. She made you stronger women.
You are right Fave, she is part of the many reasons that made us who we are today and I'm still grateful for how it all happened.
If only you had come for me earlier she wouldn't have dared 🌝. Thank you so much for your thoughtful and encouraging comment my darling 😊.
It was good decision you left your aunt house who was oppressing you people. On Friday, when games were announced, she should hear you because you have done her tasks. Anyway it is life we are not people 's rags. We have to move for better place. I appreciate your courage after all these unfair things in your life you survived better and better.
I guess she just wanted to show that she has some sort of control over us but God thing she did we were able to leave that place for good
Thank you so much for your input Aslam 😊
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Smiles, happiness is truly something we make for ourselves, no one out there will make us happy, it's all left for us, if we go for it, we will have it.
I don't want to say your aunt was mean but seriously, she was, she should have just told you that you were not going for the games trick you to work for her and then still deny you your rights based on what was agreed.
But it's life, I believe those terrible experiences are part of what made you the strong woman you are today. She thought she was taking advantage of you because of your condition not knowing she was building you.
I love the smile on your face mom, it gives me reasons to smile too. I have never seen any of your pictures that you weren't smiling. It's a big message on its own.
Okay now I'm smiling too 🤭. I totally agree with everything you've said my dear, that my aunty only made my thoughts clearer but she thought she was having her way.
Thank you so much for your amazing comment as always, I'm honored to have you stop by ❣️
Last minute cancellation followed with punishment! That's too disheartening to read.
I was so sad that day and I thought of literally everything I could do to just leave that house until I told myself to be patient and I'm glad I was 🙂.
Thank you so much for stopping by friend.
Your patience shows how positively you tackled the situation. Great!
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People find it interesting to treat other's children unfairly, I find it irritating cause some things you can't do to your child why do it to others, it's terrible. You went through a lot growing up though, glad your dad came to pick you girls up.
Well my aunty was sweet to my other cousins, she just didn't like us then or maybe she just wanted to pay us evil for no reason.
I went through some tough time Sha but I'm grateful to God because those though times brought me here 😊.
Thank you so much for your beautiful contribution my darling 🥰
Some people are really without conscience. I am sorry you got treated that way. Life happens
She was but I guess she has changed or Maybe it's just that we are older now, hehe.
Thank you for your comment love 😚
If there isn't your parents with you, there is no one to protect you. It may sound harsh but it's the reality. I have seen some situation which is almost similar to you and so I can understand a little bit about it. I think you have taken the right decision to escape away from there.
It's not good that you could relate to my story but I guess that proves that life happens to us all.
Escaping was the only way out and I'm glad we got the opportunity to 🙂.
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Drop her picture and location, I want to tell her something. How can she do that to my lovely hope🥹🥹 ehnnn
But I always say something, what doesn’t kill you will make you stronger. Maybe you’re still in the village now, you wouldn’t have a phone to login on hive 😜😜
Exactly 😂, glad everything turned out the way it did 🥰
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Wow. There is no place like living with your parents because, yes, they are your parents and you have some right to things and in fact, they would reason with you than any other person could. People that likes to say they will act like parents to us especially when things happen, they don't fulfill their promises, just their way of running their tongue like politicians do. Thank God you had the opportunity to move out. Who dare maltreat a child whose parents are doing very okay?
You know right, like you rightly said she only dared to do that because she see us as helpless but my God had greater plans for us.
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That is it, my dear. God always have greater plans for His children.
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I can relate expecially the part you packed your stuff, for me I just took only my school bag fill with cloths and that was it 😂😂
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It was a good decision that you guys left your grandma's house, I know for sure that if you guys didn't leave your grandma's place that's how she would have been maltreating you guys every time. And about the inter-house sport of a thing, she should have allowed you guys to go, after all, you've done the tasks given to you and your grandma knows about it and permitted you guys to go.
I'm glad we left, I've Never for one day wished we didn't, hehe. She was just so mean and I guess that's why she didn't feel any remorse and she just ended up saying we shouldn't go.
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That was too unfair of your aunt. Someone may think I just being judgemental but I speak because I had a similar experience when I was young. Because of that, I vowed that my children will never go to live in any relative's house no matter what I face in life.
I am happy you guys left the village to go back and stay with your father. And I am glad that things took a positive turn for you.
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I know right, I also thought of making that vow but then I realized that I've also lived with people that took me in like their own family so I didn't.
But it's a good thing you are going to be there for your kids 🥰. Thank you so much for your beautiful contribution 🥰
First, hugs.
I cannot imagine how I would have reacted if stuff like this had happened to me. My hats off to you for your strength both then, and now. I thank you for the courage in right about your vulnerable moments. It gives us an insight on how diverse lives are, and how we can never really imagine what people might have gone trough to finally be where they are. I wish you the best of luck in everything you do in your life.
Cheers from a #dreemerforlife
I'm accepting that hug with all the love in me and I'm giving you one right back 🤗🥰.
It was an experience that I won't wish for anyone and I'm so happy I was saved from it in the end. Thank you so much for appreciating my work ❤️