Entitlement makes them blind
Hello everyone, yesterday was very hectic. As I write this post, I am still exhausted. I will not be going to the gym today; I will use today as my rest day because I am still going out to do my daily activities. Even though I am sleepy, I must wake up early and put this together so that I can be on time for my schedule.
While trying to think about what to write today, I would like to share what happened to me a few days ago because I was misjudged about so many things by one of my family members that I like so much.
I received a call from one of my close relatives that I didn't give him money like I used to and the last time I gave him money, it was 4000 naira. If he had known that it was 4000 naira, he would have sent my money back, he said he knew I had more than enough and that I shouldn't be sending him 4000 Naira.
I was so disappointed because he is one of those people I admire so much, and that coming from him makes me feel disappointed because the last time he called, he needed some help and I was so broke, and I didn't have any money with me, and the 4000 Naira he was complaining about was all that was left with me at that time and this is what I'm getting for doing that.
It is nothing
Sometimes, people don't fully understand the effort behind the help they receive, and may not appreciate it if they perceive it to be small or insignificant. However, it's important to remember that those offering assistance may be sacrificing more than what is immediately apparent. It's easy to underestimate the impact of small acts of kindness, but they can leave a big hole in the lives of the person rendering the help.
This is a hard time for most people who are fully dependent on Crypto, I had to do extra jobs just to support myself in this crazy time, and the situation of the country doesn’t even make sense. I know when he called, I could have just said I don't have any money, but I sent him all the money left with me, feeling he would understand but I was wrong and sometimes just because you are not complaining, people think you have it all.
It makes them blind
It is funny how people make you feel when you can provide what they need for them and this set of people have done little or nothing for you, and when you are even trying to explain to them your current situation, they will never believe it. They always feel you should have done better and forget you are also human too.
It can be beneficial to empathize and imagine ourselves in other people's situations. Unfortunately, some entitled individuals tend to be selfish and inconsiderate, even when they understand the challenges we face. They prioritize their own needs and desires, disregarding our struggles.
Sometime just say no
I believe one of the reasons why this close family relative was feeling like this was because I've always tried in the past to give him some of the needs he imposed on me, and even then, it's not as if I have a lot, but because I like him a lot, I just want him to feel that he has a family somewhere that can truly help but he got it all wrong and the learns I learned from this is that sometimes it is better to just say no.
I believe when you help people, especially those who are very close to you, you help them based on your love and likeness for them and it reinforces their sense of entitlement because we know they are asking for too much but we do it anyway. It is better to just say no sometimes, especially when you feel they are asking for too much, putting yourself in a difficult situation to help them is not always right because it justifies their entitlement and we should say no sometimes, this way, it eradicates those beliefs and mentality.
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because you are not complaining, people think you have it all.This part is so true, they failed to realize some of us just don't like disturbing others with our problems especially those who look up to us for money, i can relate with your story and I also learnt to say No already in the past years, cos if we die today those people acting like they cant get things done without us will live fine after our demise.
I don't used to complain to people because I realized many years ago that we are all alone, and you can only help yourself by doing good for yourself and Not by complaining.
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I think it's always best to say no when we find the favor too ambiguous for our purse. Omo for this recession 4k no be small money nah. Everybody just dey guide dey hope for better days ahead. But smh there's still going to be people who will always think you've got it all without knowing that it's not that greener on the other side.
I don't know why it's always like that. People think you have it all, but you are also struggling and building things for yourself.
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On my side, I will say what you did is nice, at least you gave him what you had, instead of offering him nothing. There is this saying that "half bread is better than non". Why I said you did well by giving him the amount you had is because, if you had turned him down, that would have been the worst part, because he will say when he needed cash and he came to you, but you offered him nothing. I feel better he said you offered him a little. So even if he meets you tomorrow and says when he needed help you only rendered a little assistance. Then you will be bold to say you gave him what you had at that particular point in time.
It's just funny how some people make you feel after you've tried your best for them. I know it is better that I gave him all I have. It is just painful that this is coming from a family member.
You should be delighted that he mentioned not for being happy with you over the 4k. I think it felt below expectations from you. To me, if he is, someone should cherish. You should just laugh it off and response, I did that out my last kobo. I know for the fact that you cherish him he or she will be someone that is dear to you. However, you should know how to say no at times. It is just individual differences. Some people will appreciate the little you give while some won't appreciate.
I understand, I believe people should always appreciate the little you are doing for them, especially in a situation like this in our country.
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I can identify with your words, I have lost friendships by saying no. The truth is that nothing you do will change them, so the sooner they get away, the better.
The important thing is that you are clear that there is no error in you. 😊
I know it is always better to cut them away but as a family member. It is not always easy because something always brings you back together.
Yes, family is difficult to avoid. But you can avoid being affected by what he/she says because you know you do the right thing. 😉
It sucks to hear that he was complaining. Having someone willing to send you anything when you need it is already nice. I don't think it's right to complain when people are willing to do that. So I guess it might be better to say no the next time he asks. Money is a tough issue when it comes to dealing with others.
The situation in our country is very, very hard, and if you have somebody who can help you now, it's a blessing. But you complaining that they are not giving you exactly what you requested? It is wild.
This is painful to read because we always see these ones in our family than any where else. I know that the entitlement mentality is as a result of taking things for granted. And frankly, I don't give anyone that yard stick which is why I am very much disliked.
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I believe this is because most families believe they own you and what you have. That is why there is always this state of entitlement in some family members, especially in Nigeria.
And that is why I don't smile with a lot of people...give them an inch and they go a mile.
That feeling of entitlement is really killing a lot of people which should not be so.
It just crazy
It is funny how some people think it's your obligation to give them whatever they ask of. You did the right thing by giving him your support even though things might not be well with you. He on the other hand was wrong not to appreciate you, maybe he was thinking it's your right to give him whatever he asked for. To some point, I think if you would have said no to Him, he wouldn't have gotten the guts say a word to you.
Yeah, that is why it is always good to say no sometimes so that you won't be fueling a sense of entitlement judgment, but as family members too I just have to pity them.
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