Friendship rules: Focus on Quality not Quantity
I have always been selective when it comes to having friends, it is not pride but being careful as some friendships can build you while some can destroy you...
My younger self was not any different from who I am now but the only difference is that I mingle with a lot of people when I was younger since many things bond us together, like football, games, school, and other activities but still I know my real friends and those I just walk with.
There are some friends I made when I was younger that I will never forget, those people were a gem, the memories we shared are forever fresh in my brain and I am glad I crossed paths with them.
It is not a coincidence that my best friends and people I shared great bonds with were born in April and their zodiac sign is Aries, more reasons that got me to believe in Zodiac Sign... Aquarius and Aries make the best friendship, my friends and I are the evidence.
I learned from other people's bad experiences, their stories made me so careful in dealing with people because I do not want to experience what happened to them.
There was a particular man who thought he had many friends, he would buy drinks for them and they would joke and laugh together, he was heartbroken when the time came for a chairman to be elected in their community, all those he called friends didn't vote for him, they voted for someone who does not mingle with them, it was only one person that voted him and that one told him how the others were bad-mouthing him when he was not around, he learned his lesson and I also learned from his lesson and I see no advantage in having many friends.
Some people are just there to use you, when the time comes for them to support you, they disappear and some do not want their friends to be greater than them so they would rather support a stranger.
I have no advice for my younger self because I still have the same mentality I have but I would love to advise the younger ones.
There is no achievement in having too many friends, you will be shocked to discover those people you call friends do not see you the same way, you may not know until you find yourself in a difficult position and none of them turn up for you.
One genuine friend is better than 10 fake friends who will abandon you when you are in trouble.
You have this friend who is always there for you in time of your needs, such kind of a person is rare, learn to cherish them and also let them know they are loved, the most caring people might not have people who cared for them, they know how it feels, so do not just be the on the receiving end, learn to appreciate their support and be loyal to them, be there for them in their time of needs too.
You can be friendly with everyone but you can't be friends with everyone, there is a difference between the two, being friendly means you are being polite and nice to others but when it comes to friendship, it has to do with loyalty, support and so many other things and not everyone deserves that from you, so choose your friends wisely but be the best for the few you selected.
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You made me remember by friends which i made in time past also. Friends like you said can be a source of great power while some can be a downfall for us. You are very right my friends that's why we have to choose right.
some people define friendship while some ruin it, those who ruined it were never friends, they just pretended to be.
Yeah, actually, probably they needed to gain something from you, and then when they got it, they left.
there are also different seasons with different friends over a lifetime. they change as we mature.
good read!
you are so right about this, we meet new people in certain stages in our life that turned out to be great..
yeah
i left so many old friends behind simply because that is how my life turned out. i am not meant to be with them forever. there are just a few that are still around, going on to ten years. but the ones from before that are gone. and is is good, i met new friends in their place.
blessings
I’m sorry to say, my best friend isn’t that beautiful and people mock me a lot for choosing her as my friend but trust me, she’s a amazing soul
We don’t have to choose friends because of the way they look or anything. We gotta see through their hearts to know if they are good people
well you chose her based on her good heart, we are still on the same page😇
My dear, my eyes got opened as I grew up. All my friends before when I was growing are the type that will help you waste your life if you wish to. Now I know better.
Thanks for sharing
good you didnt let them influence to the point of no return
This are some mind-blowing advice boss and to be sincere this is well needed as a young man, I remember how I pressured myself into acquiring loads of friends due to boredom, I learned the hardway.
I know young ones sees this.
experience is the best teacher, and you will be able to advice your younger ones what you faced, others will benefit and learn from your experience
Hehe! There are some people who doesn't have friend at all and you won't blame them because people are just following you for their own selfish reasons.
Friends will show you shege.. it is better to have one friend who is faithful and can stand for you any time any day than to pack a bunch of useless people along as friends. I rest my case here....
yea that is just it, one genuine friend is enough
My friends back then were the ones that pressurized me to have my first boyfriend. all of them talk about their relationship and am just the only single one in their midst.
Thank God for the kind of mother I have, the relationship lasted for just a week after she flogged the hell out of me. I had to cut tiers with them. Since then I lost interest in having friends but currently I have two friends and it took me a while before validating them.
lol, lucky you that your mum didnt sleep, many girls have been influenced by friends in this aspect and at the end, when the unexpected happen, she is left alone to carry her cross
100% true boss.
In all things friendship, choose your own friends than to let everyone become you friend. It saves you from a lot of drama and negativity. You get to keep the ones who would impact your life positively.
Yes
You can't be friend with everyone, you have to be selective In your friend zone
Quality over quantity