SILENT KILLER.

Hello everyone and welcome to my blog.

Life is indeed not balances.Yes life is not balance. If life is balances, tell me why some women will conceive immediately they get married, some will even become pregnant out of wedlock and some will not be able to convince after several years in marriage, after seeking every possible medical help and even visiting different prayer houses.

If they eventually have a child and the woman had to go under the knife during the course of birthing her child, then the judgement will start again that she was lazy and can not use the Hebrew women style instead of showing support, they talk down on such women.

Tell me how do you expect a woman to push out a child weight four points eight or five points through natural birth and not loss her life? How, just how do you expect a woman who passed out during labour or too weak to push a child? or is it a woman with a tight pelvic you are expecting to push a child?.

They forget that the pain that comes with cersean goes beyond the day you put to bed as it extend to months. What about the post pertum depression, what about women who died of small things as high blood pressure during pregnancy?, you will hear them saying the woman is not smart or that she complains or nags too much.

They may say their ancestors had twenty hundred children and they single handedly raised them or that they have two dozen of children through the natural way. Forgetting that we have different body systems.

If they eventually have other children and all happens to be girls then the community will move from blaming the woman to giving unsolicited advice like "try and give birth to a boy in other to secure your status among your husband's kins men".

And if she has all boys, they will still advice her to "give birth to her own gender so she will have a gist partner" or "so she will be able to travel to take care of her when she grow up, get married and give birth".

The list is endless. I wish African particularly Nigerian will outgrown all this unwanted attitude and unsolicited attention with the bad energy they carry all around. I wish we will all be happy for a family when a child is being born irrespective of the means if birth or the gender of the child

I will be so happy if this kind of attitude can go into extinction in our environment. Let the stigma stop! Let the name calling stop! Let's celebrate and be happy.

Thank you for reading till the end.

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