True Steadiness Starts Before You Pick Your Outfit

I can't believe how long I lived without very little effort in intentionality, since I started to experience the difference. From my mind to how I look, I didn't really care much and just went with the flow and honestly, that has cost me steadiness for the longest time as I think back.

Steadiness from the inside is one that many wish for but very few get to have, we chase the wrong things thinking we'd feel the peace inside when we do but somehow, we grow even more weary or anxious the more we go after those things. I've learned the simple things are the most steady.

Since I started to be more intentional about what goes into my mind, what I wear, what I say and what I do, it's been a different life for me than I even prepared for. But for this prompt, I'll focus on my dressing as it is indeed one aspect that has helped in reflecting how I feel on the inside.

I took the opportunity I found some months back, to explore how to appreciate my body and my life more. It was more random than how I'm saying it now but that opened my mind eyes to see how I've been dressing to please people than dressing to feel good and confident about myself before.

I remember how I'd always be cautious of how people see me in almost every wear I put on, there was nothing steady inside me when I step out. I can still remember the stories I tell myself on the inside when I am walking past a group of people even though I know they don't know me, I'll say in this, "I might fall down from their looks".

Yes, that's how unsteady I've been in my wears long before I started to see it as a problem to be solved and I started to admire steadiness, confidence and loving the body I've been created with. After learning more about my body, being intentional about my wears and styles (It's not even that I changed how I dress), things changed.

I'm going about wearing the same kind of clothes I wore before, I got new ones but the most important change has happened. I started to see more of myself than what I think people are seeing or talking about me. There is this peace I have when I dress up, the confidence that comes from accepting how I look by being intentional.

Dressing, no matter how simple or grand it might look, only reflects one's inner steadiness when one choose to accept their look before the extra looks or addition comes to play. I believe people who do too much on their dressing are mostly people who don't appreciate themselves or are seeking steadiness in the wrong style of clothes.