SHARING SPACE, LOSING CONTROL
When it comes to living the life that I have chosen for myself, it all seems perfect when I’m the only one in the picture but with others in it, even though I know it’s more of an excuse, it is harder. I’m a student as some of you know and fortunately and unfortunately for me, I have roommates and that’s because I’m trying to cut my cost so going through school won’t be even more difficult than it already is. Well, when I signed up to have a roommate, I knew it was part of the sacrifices I will have to make as a minimalist even though I thought there will be a way out.
Living with two different people is not easy for me. I can no longer just wake up one morning and choose to arrange the house just the way I want it. I mean I can but their attitude is not encouraging at all. They are cool when it comes to every other thing but not necessarily their space and that’s beginning to take a toll on me. These days I can go out of the house without even caring how arranged everything is. I have learnt how to care less because I don’t want to have any misunderstandings with them. Bedsides, it’s only just less than a year that I have to put up with this and I’m out.
I really can’t remember the last time I did a thorough decluttering. For now, we just do the minor cleanups and that’s it. Well, I have plans to do that soon but for now, my room is not in the shape that I really want it to be and that’s because I’m not the only one that decides what goes on in it. Sharing a space with someone is hard not to talk of sharing it with more than one person. But that’s not an excuse to say I’m not giving in, I’m obviously giving in but I hope that I find time to do a good decluttering because I know how beautiful the room can be when everything is in the right place.
So what about you? Have you ever had to make compromises as a minimalist because of the people you live with? If no, please share with me the tips on how you could balance things up.
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Not everyone's thinking is the same.
Yeah. We all think differently.
Eyy. I remembered when I was in school. I had a roommate which I wasn’t comfortable with. Along the line, she brought in her sister who just got admitted to 100 level. Oh my! I couldn’t tolerate their attitudes to how the room was. Sometimes, I would just walk in and my legs would be stepping on water poured on the floor due to the carelessness of the sister. Who drinks pure water and keep the remaining beside a bed? Where is cup? And before you know, the water would mistakenly pour on the floor making everywhere messy.
I couldn’t endure and was wishing they find their own space and when they did, I felt a big relief. I don’t like roommates oo especially ones that don’t care and are dirty. We can’t last long 😄 but now, I have learnt to tolerate people’s excesses but not to the extreme. I love my space to be arranged and neat every time.
You even try… having two other roommates can be overwhelming when they aren’t the minimalist type but I’m glad you will be done soon.
You have said it all. I have experienced worse but I was able to manage it when it was just two of us but now, I just want to wait it out.
Thanks for your contribution, mama. 🥰
Everyone is different, gald your almost done.
Yeah. I’m glad too. 🥰
I remember when I shared space with people I was working with in Abuja. In the end ehn, I just had to learn to not expect anything. Even my stuff would be missing sometimes.
My dear, you’ll soon be done and leave them. That’s what matters now.
I’ve had to live with eight different roommates, every session, for the past three years and what I can tell you is to let them know whenever you’re not pleased with something they did. That way, they’d mask their dirtiness whenever you’re around. Even though, the entire room won’t be to your taste, you can tailor your side to fit you.
It’s good that you have just about a year left“. You get away from people whose behaviors don’t align with yours.