SHARING SPACE, LOSING CONTROL
When it comes to living the life that I have chosen for myself, it all seems perfect when Iām the only one in the picture but with others in it, even though I know itās more of an excuse, it is harder. Iām a student as some of you know and fortunately and unfortunately for me, I have roommates and thatās because Iām trying to cut my cost so going through school wonāt be even more difficult than it already is. Well, when I signed up to have a roommate, I knew it was part of the sacrifices I will have to make as a minimalist even though I thought there will be a way out.
Living with two different people is not easy for me. I can no longer just wake up one morning and choose to arrange the house just the way I want it. I mean I can but their attitude is not encouraging at all. They are cool when it comes to every other thing but not necessarily their space and thatās beginning to take a toll on me. These days I can go out of the house without even caring how arranged everything is. I have learnt how to care less because I donāt want to have any misunderstandings with them. Bedsides, itās only just less than a year that I have to put up with this and Iām out.
I really canāt remember the last time I did a thorough decluttering. For now, we just do the minor cleanups and thatās it. Well, I have plans to do that soon but for now, my room is not in the shape that I really want it to be and thatās because Iām not the only one that decides what goes on in it. Sharing a space with someone is hard not to talk of sharing it with more than one person. But thatās not an excuse to say Iām not giving in, Iām obviously giving in but I hope that I find time to do a good decluttering because I know how beautiful the room can be when everything is in the right place.
So what about you? Have you ever had to make compromises as a minimalist because of the people you live with? If no, please share with me the tips on how you could balance things up.
Thank you for reading through. ā¤ļø
It's my pleasure!
Have a beautiful day! š¹
Not everyone's thinking is the same.
Yeah. We all think differently.
Eyy. I remembered when I was in school. I had a roommate which I wasnāt comfortable with. Along the line, she brought in her sister who just got admitted to 100 level. Oh my! I couldnāt tolerate their attitudes to how the room was. Sometimes, I would just walk in and my legs would be stepping on water poured on the floor due to the carelessness of the sister. Who drinks pure water and keep the remaining beside a bed? Where is cup? And before you know, the water would mistakenly pour on the floor making everywhere messy.
I couldnāt endure and was wishing they find their own space and when they did, I felt a big relief. I donāt like roommates oo especially ones that donāt care and are dirty. We canāt last long š but now, I have learnt to tolerate peopleās excesses but not to the extreme. I love my space to be arranged and neat every time.
You even tryā¦ having two other roommates can be overwhelming when they arenāt the minimalist type but Iām glad you will be done soon.
You have said it all. I have experienced worse but I was able to manage it when it was just two of us but now, I just want to wait it out.
Thanks for your contribution, mama. š„°
Everyone is different, gald your almost done.
Yeah. Iām glad too. š„°
I remember when I shared space with people I was working with in Abuja. In the end ehn, I just had to learn to not expect anything. Even my stuff would be missing sometimes.
My dear, youāll soon be done and leave them. Thatās what matters now.
Thank God they donāt steal from me o. Omo, it wonāt have even been funny.
Yes o. Just less than a year sef.
Thank you for your comment, Rara. š„°
Iāve had to live with eight different roommates, every session, for the past three years and what I can tell you is to let them know whenever youāre not pleased with something they did. That way, theyād mask their dirtiness whenever youāre around. Even though, the entire room wonāt be to your taste, you can tailor your side to fit you.
Itās good that you have just about a year leftā. You get away from people whose behaviors donāt align with yours.
Whenever I do that, it makes me feel like Iām bossing over them. They are paying just as much as Iām paying. Itās also their space too. They clean too but sometimes itās just a mess.
Iāll just keep managing and trying to keep everywhere to my taste as much as I can.
Thank you for your input. ā¤ļø
Exactly dear. You just said it all. Everyone with different way of living especially with people like that you just have to let them know @hopestylist. You don't have to keep quiet all the time because some of them might just need one word from you to change.
I donāt know why my eyes went directly into the kitchen. Omoh students kitchen are always with similar pattern š. And itās the table and chair for me. As a student the best way to minimalist is to share with someone. You will actually get through with it just a matter of time.
See you! šš
Thank you, Abdul. š„°
š hello sorry to buzz in but i just have to.š
This is my first time coming across THE MINIMALIST and even an interesting post under it. Well i disagree with you when you said. "As a student the best way to minimalist is to share with someone". Well a minimalist focuses on less though but at least something better.
@hopestylist actually have good roommates if the only thing they do is preventing you from giving your room the deco. You want. then it's still okay to cope with them for the main time.
But have your roommates ganged up against you before?
I'm a student, I live in the campus with 6 other girls in my room well it's spacious enough so it's nothing to worry about. But it's always dramatic. As a student i don't think the best way to minimalist is to share with someone sincerely because in my own story, it is not easy.
Gang up keh thatās terrible ooo me i dare not stay in an hostel i hate abiding by rules of hostel welcome to the minimalist
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