Silent But Loud Statements

On 14th January, my closest friend and I wanted to have a girls time so we planned a whole program for it. Everything started with a sleepover. I had just a pair of pajamas but Gladys on the hand, had about 4 pairs. She said I was killing the mood by bringing just a pair of pajamas and then proceeded to ask me which pajamas she should wear.

The following day, we went to the salon to make our hair and I finished way earlier because I knew exactly what I wanted. My friend on the other hand finished about three hours later because she had about three wigs and didn’t even know which one to fix. On our way out, we overheard one of the hairstylists comparing us and talking about how stressed they were after attending to Gladys.

We had a dinner date that night and I was the first to finish dressing up as usual. She asked me to pick a dress for her which took about another hour because we had to comb through about 11 dresses and she had something to say about each of them.She later asked when I was going to do my makeup and I told her I was only going to use lipgloss for the night. She then looked at me and got offended.

According to all that she said, I looked too simple and that implied she was doing too much and she wasn’t happy with it. “On top of everything, your simple choice at the salon made the hairstylists insult me. Stop acting like you’re better”, She added. The drive to the restaurant was very awkward because she was pissed. At the restaurant, I apologized for however my actions made her feel and then she voiced out that, she does too much to look elegant to fit a certain class. But I assured her she didn’t have to.

That night, I got to realize that minimalist lifestyle comes with a certain level of security where nothing or nobody can pressure you to do too much or what you don’t want for any form of validation. And I was happy I had gotten to that level where I didn’t have to do too much and also didn’t care what people thought.

I also got to see myself in a different light that night . Minimalism had made me very considerate and as I sat there talking to my friend, I was very mindful of the words that came out of my mouth. Although my simplicity was very silent, it spoke loud volumes which made my friend feel judged so my words had to instill calmness. And let her understand that the fact that I am a minimalist doesn’t make me better than her in anyway.

The following day, she came out dressed in a very simple dress for our hangout and asked how she looked. I was really excited that we moved from a misunderstanding to she picking a thing or two from my minimalistic dressing. Which I believe was a start to something intriguing.