Fear of being mocked because of their problem
"Why Do People Find It Difficult To Ask For Help?"
Image Source
Indeed there is a wise saying that goes, "A problem shared is a problem solved" but in our today world, it is scary, people are scared of sharing their problems, not because they do not believe that they will get help but because they are afraid of who will get hold of their information and use it to make a mockery of their situation.
In a world where people now come online to bash their friends directly or indirectly, in a world where people come online to see their secrets they once told who they felt were their trusted their closed pals or relatives in the internet being dissected by strangers, in the world where family and friends take to the Internet to spread or write about their life situations in the way to feel better than the other person, who won't be afraid of it.
Few months ago, I friend reached out to me, and while we were talking, she broke down sharing her ordeals to me, so I asked her if she had nobody she could reach out to, and she told me a shocking thing that left me broken, she said she had reached to someone who she felt could help and unbeknownst to her, this person told another person about her reaching out, and so she ended up seeing her life situations on the internet mocking her for reaching out to people just because she had a problem.
Now, she wouldn't have known the person she reached out to has sat down with someone else to discuss her, not to help her but to mock her, while she sat in her room reading the mocking writeup about her on this person's WhatsApp wall, she couldn't help but cry her eyes out because she told the other person in confident, her problem but she saw it on another person's WhatsApp wall mocking her for reaching out to someone for help.
Image Source
When she told me about the whole situation, I couldn't help but feel pity for her and the fact that I wish I could help her, I wish I had the capacity to help her, since she reached out to me, but I knew I was not in a good place to help her, I do not even have the help, all i had to do was comfort her because I didn't have solution to her problem.
Now, we all know that it will be hard for this particular lady to reach out to anyone for help again, because she got mocked for reaching out once, many people who have refused and find it hard to reach out to people for help, it is not because they do not want to, it is because they are afraid of being mocked with their problem by the same people she reached out for help.
Now, society does not care about anyone except their family, and if they know that whoever they are helping is or would be of benefit to them, everyone is looking out for just themselves. The "Mind your business" theory has eaten into everyone that they no longer have compassion and have lost all sense of humanity towards others most times even their family members and people they call their friends.
Most people who seek for help, most times do not seek it because they are sure of getting help most times, they just want someone else to know about their problem and maybe reach out to someone if they do, most times they do not seek it because they are entitled but because they feel this particular person could be, or have someone who could be of help to them. The reason you would see a job seeker tell everyone around is that they feel that if you can not help, you could have a family member or friend who can help them.
I feel it is better to tell someone "Oh, I am sorry I can not help you, " instead of making a mockery of their situation because they came to you for help or because you are in the position to help them. We have people committing suicide because they were blackmailed or were in one problem or the other and they couldn't reach out because they are afraid of being mocked.
This is my entry to Hive-Reachout Weekly Prompt 102>>"Why Do People Find It Difficult To Ask For Help?"