"Love Your Neighbor As Yourself," Not More Than Yourself.

7 hours ago

While growing up, one of the things we are being taught is selflessness, I can very well remember my mum teaching us how not to be a selfish individual both in words and in action. My mum happens to be a giver and one that always shows up even when it's not convenient for her. She taught me how to think about others first, to always give and sacrifice if the need be.

And I won't deny that I took to her teachings and all, but then I've grown too, and there are some things I've learned and unlearned, one of which is this topic of discuss. And I've come to realize that all of these things require some level of balance and at times, being selfish is not and cannot/should not be tagged "bad".

Even till now, if you know me well, you will know that I'm raised by the best mum, especially for the kind of soft and selfless heart that I have, I'm naturally selfless, I help, assist and do a whole lot of things both for kids, adults and all. Even if it's not so convenient I still try my best to, and it just so happens to be that that's the kind of person I am, but then while doing and pouring into others, there's the need for us to check-in on ourselves too, else we run out and run dry at the same time, and life will go in for everyone else, including those you've been inconveniencing yourself for.

So, what I'm saying in essence is that, there are moments when you really need to be selfish. Even the Bible says, "Love your neighbor as yourself." Not more than yourself, not at your own detriment, go same extent you could for yourself for someone else, not beyond. So, when the need arise, I advice that you be selfish, saying no when you're being taking for granted is not a crime, saying no when the keep delaying you or wasting your time isn't bad, backing out of something because it's not aligning with your views or values is not bad, don't because of a certain person say you want to stay, it doesn't mean you're a bad person, it's just your respecting yourself.

Personally, I'm very very selfish about my health, and I can tell you it gas applied to a lot of things, including the work I do and people I relate with. I don't joke with my health, so if anything comes near it, I step back immediately. If I'm feeling some discomfort within me and you come to me to help you with certain physical task, I won't even think twice before telling you No. That's just me, my health is something I hold so dear to myself, so don't even think I will feel bad for turning you down, not at all. My health has shown me things and I've had my own fair share of experience that I wouldn't ever want to witness again.

So, there are times we really need to be selfish and set very good boundaries, just so to protect either ourselves, our health, our life, our family.....and such.

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