Hive Reachout Weekly Prompt 55>>My Temperament (Melancholic - phlegmatic)

A person's natural way of thinking behaving or doing things is what is often referred to as temperament. Everyone has a unique temperament, a personality and way they respond to the world around them. For my temperament, I will say I am a semi-introvert or what many people call an ambivert person in nature. This means that I am not fully introverted and not fully extroverted. I am somewhere in between.

Sometimes I can be very outgoing and lively, especially when I am in the good mood, but there are also times I love to just keep to myself and enjoy my own quiet space.

When I find myself in a new place or among people I don’t know, I usually like to observe and keep calm. I don’t like jumping into conversations or drawing attention to myself in such moments.

Mostly I wait for someone to approach me first before I open up. Once I feel comfortable, I start relating well. But until then, I prefer to stay quiet and remain calm. I think this is because I love my privacy a lot. I enjoy being alone. I find peace in my own company, where there’s no noise. I can spend hours just being by myself, even if I'm not doing anything.

Though I enjoy my alone time, I also like socializing. I can talk and interact with people when I want to. The only thing is that too much of it can be draining for me. If I talk or mix with people for too long, I begin to feel tired or bored. It’s not because I don’t like mingling among people, but it’s just how I am wired.

One thing I know about myself is that I am very observant. I like to look around, study people and situations before I act. I don’t just jump into things. I'm quiet when I need to be, especially around people I don’t know well. But when I’m with close friends or family, I can talk a lot and even joke around. People who know me well understand that I am not shy, I just take time to open up. But once I do, they get to see the lively part of me.

I’m a very good listener. I like to listen more than I talk, especially in conservations and serious situations. I choose my friends carefully. Not everyone is my company. I don’t just make friends with everybody. I take my time to understand people before allowing them close. And I always think before I speak. I don’t like talking carelessly or saying something I might regret later.

When it comes to work, I enjoy working alone. I find it easier and more comfortable that way. I can focus better and give my best when I’m alone. But that doesn’t mean I can’t work with others. If I find myself in a group or team, I can still cooperate and do my part. It’s just that I find joy in doing things on my own. I feel free and less distracted that way.
There are times I find it hard to make simple decisions, especially when invited to an event. I could spend time trying to decide whether to go or not. Sometimes I say yes and still change my mind later. It’s not because I don’t want to go, it’s just that I get caught between the two options and struggle to choose quickly.

Most people see me as a very quiet and calm person, and I think they are right. I don’t like trouble and I try my best to avoid conflict. Even if someone is trying to annoy me or provoke me, I’d rather walk away than say anything. I believe in walking away than standing and exchanging words. If I stay and talk when I’m angry, I may end up saying something bad and I don’t like that. That’s why I choose walk away.

I don’t get angry easily. It takes a lot to make me upset. I try to understand people and give them the benefit of the doubt. But on the rare occasions that I do get angry, I remove myself from the situation quickly to avoid doing or saying the wrong thing. I know how dangerous words can be, especially when said in anger.

Another part of my personality is my sacrificial nature. I always want to help others, even when I don’t have much. I can go beyond my limit just to help someone. But I’ve come to learn that this can sometimes be a problem. This personality of mine has landed me in serious issue. This year alone, I’ve helped people, and in doing so, I borrowed just to assist them, with the intention that they’ll pay me back so I can return it to where I it from. So bad, they didn’t, and now I am the one carrying the burden. I needed to set boundaries and protect myself. I can’t keep suffering because of other people’s responsibilities. That's by the way.

I love order and cleanliness. I like keeping my things in the right place, and I get upset when someone touches my things and doesn’t return them to where they were. I like knowing where everything is. That way, I don’t waste time searching for anything when things are in order.
Procrastination is something I battle with. Sometimes I delay tasks or push things till later. But I’m working on it. One of the ways I try to overcome it is by creating a daily timetable. The timetable helps me stay organized, to manage my time and responsibilities properly.

I'm a problem solving type and tries to see that I solve within my abilities. I do much of a thinking than talking. I know when to talk and when to be silent. I know when to step forward and when to step back. I value peace, order, and respect. I love to do things at my own pace, in my own way.