On The Matter Of Double Dating

Wow! Such was the reaction from me when I saw this week's prompt bearing the two words, "double dating". This is something I believe isn't entirely oblivious to us. The subject of dating is a common one that even a little child might have a glimpse of—at least from the general perspective of a "boyfriend and girlfriend". As well, the subtopic of double dating in that sense isn't one far from the knowledge of many, if not all. Well, I guess this will be an interesting ride, even as I hope to see the perspective of others on this subject.

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One of the norms one would consider and count in our world today is the subject of double dating. Amongst people and within the society, it has been grossly heightened and encouraged that it comes easy and acceptable as the act of breathing itself. One would wonder, how did it come to receive so much "acceptance". And in that same wonder, one could question, can it be thrashed? In the same vein also, why do people involve in double dating?

In basic contextual understanding, double dating involves being involved in an affectionate relationship with more than one individual at the same time. Herein, the person is "in love" with another while seemingly professing "love" to another. I don't really understand how the heart can be so intertwined in emotional affection for two different persons at same time. There might be some unknown chemistry about that, maybe.

I believe the idea about double dating is false, and a idea pioneered by the desires of people to satisfy their unsatisfaction. You see, there's that tendency to always want to take another, especially when you have a kind of liking for the person. Without the necessary power of restraint, such a person will find comfort in the bossoms of the justification of double dating.

Many will give reasons about protecting the heart from heartbreak, such that you have one to fall back to just in case. Well, I guess that's a fallacy. Another reason would be the thought of making things even with the other person. It's widely believed that nobody remains in a single relationship with another, so this is considered as a way to even things out against the other.

Notwithstanding is the destructive nature of double dating. The foundations and bedrocks of double dating is built on lies, deceits and dishonesty. It's hardly possible, or even impossible to say to one you're supposedly dating that there's another one you're in love with as well. I think we all know it's a breakup for such relationship. In order to be able to hold on to the two relationships, there has to be a defence system to keep both parties far from each other. And hey, welcome to lies and deceptions. At such, it seems hard to believe or even agree that there can be honesty, transparency and truth in double dating.

An irreparable consequence of double dating is it's long dwelling effect on a person. I was in a barber shop some time ago and heard a grown up married man, who I presume to be in his fifty's talk about how he never engaged in a single relationship while young. By his utterances, I sure as well could deduce that he was not holding on to his wife alone even at that marital stage. The effect is a long lasting one, such that getting out of its grips is very hard, not even when one is married. Not to forget the lack of trust it will inadvertently create in one, even while married.

The subject of double dating comes from the angles of both genders. I guess it's someone known. It isn't exclusive to a gender alone as being the perpetrators, no. Both genders are much involved in the issue of double dating.

Someone outrightly mentioned that if one is not ready to commit and hold on to one person, he or she shouldn't go ahead into any of such relationship. Until he or she learns to subdue that greed and unsatisfaction, they should keep to themselves.

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Thank you for reading through!