Can Love Survive Without Family’s Blessing?
First and foremost, i would say I’ve grown up with this mindset that parents’ words carry
weight. They’ve been through life longer than we have, and most times, when they speak, they speak from experience and a place of genuine concern. So, I believe it’s important not to disregard their opinions—especially on serious matters like relationships. But at the same time, love isn’t something that just switches off because someone else doesn’t approve. That’s where things can get really complicated.
Let’s say I meet someone, and over time, I fall deeply in love with her. We’ve built a strong bond, spent years getting to know each other, and I’m convinced that she’s someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. Now imagine getting to that point only to hear my family say they don’t want her around me. That would break me. I won’t lie—it would feel like standing between two worlds, each pulling me in opposite directions.
But even at that, I wouldn’t be quick to give up. Before making any decisions, I’d want to know why. What did they see? Is it something she said or did? Or is it just assumptions based on where she’s from or how she looks? I’d sit with my parents and try to understand their reasons. I’d also do my best to help them understand who she really is and what I’ve come to know about her after spending years with her. After all, I’d know her better than they do. The truth is, i wouldn’t take someone to meet my parents unless I was sure of her character, unless I had spent time with her through different seasons of life and seen how she handles things like stress, anger, pressure, or disappointment.
So definitely, I would do everything within my power and try my best to make my family see her the way I see her. I’d ask them to keep an open mind, to give her a chance, and at least spend more time around her before passing judgment. Because I know that first impressions can be misleading. And sometimes, all someone needs is a little time to show who they really are.
But if after all the conversations, all the efforts, and all the explanations, my family still refuses to accept her, I honestly don’t know what I’d do. That’s a decision I hope I never have to face—choosing between my family and someone I truly love. Both matter deeply to me, and it would hurt to lose either one.
At the end of the day, all I can do is just to pray that when I do find the right person, it’s someone my family will also see the goodness in. Someone who brings peace, not division. Because love is already hard enough, adding family rejection to it makes it even more painful. I just hope I never have to choose between the two most important parts of my life.
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