That Time I Lost My Cool and How I Fixed It

Greetings to everyone! It's my first time of posting in this community because I just joined this wonderful platform few days ago, and sincerely I've beginning to see the reason why my cousin keep telling me to join, and to tell you the truth I'm having fun so far, yeasterday when I got this prompt from hiveghana, I was like Wow this is really an interesting topics to discuss on and to be honest with you, I decided to treat the one that first talk to me personally and this brought out this my recent story at work

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One thing we can’t avoid in life is dealing with people, and trust me, sometimes they will annoy you until you can’t even hold it in anymore. I’m usually a calm person, but there was this one time I just exploded in anger, and honestly, I’m not proud of it. Let me tell you what happened

It was at work. There’s this colleague of mine, let’s call her Rose, who always had a habit of taking credit for other people’s work. At first, I ignored it because I didn’t want drama. But one day, we had a big team meeting, and our manager was praising "Rose" for an idea that was actually mine. I had spent nights working on it, and here she was, smiling like she did everything

Something in me just snapped. Before I could stop myself, I blurted out, "That was MY idea, Rose! You didn’t even contribute anything!" The whole room went quiet. Rose's face turned red, and my manager looked shocked. I didn’t even plan to say it like that, but the words just rushed out

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At that moment, I felt a mix of relief and instant regret. Relief because I finally said it, but regret because I did it in the worst way possible loud, angry, and unprofessional. After the meeting, nobody really talked to me. Even my manager avoided eye contact. I knew I had messed up

How I Fixed It

First, I took some time to cool down. I went outside, took deep breaths, and asked myself why I reacted that way. Yes, Rose was wrong, but screaming in front of everyone didn’t solve anything, it just made me look bad

The next day, I pulled Rose aside and apologized for my outburst. I told her, "I shouldn’t have shouted. But you taking credit for my work isn’t right either." Surprisingly, she admitted it and said she didn’t realize how much it bothered me. We agreed that moving forward, she’d give credit where it was due

Then, I went to my manager and explained the situation calmly. I showed him my drafts and notes to prove the idea was mine. He appreciated my honesty and said I should’ve spoken up earlier just in a better way

What I Learned

1. Anger doesn’t fix things : Shouting might feel good for a second, but it usually makes things worse

2. Speak up early : If something bothers you, address it calmly before it turns into a big issue

3. Apologies matter : Even if the other person was wrong, losing your cool isn’t an excuse. Swallowing your pride to say sorry helps mend things

Now, I try to handle things with patience, but hey, nobody’s perfect. We all have moments we’re not proud of what matters is how we fix them

Have you ever lost your temper like this? How did you handle it? Let’s share and learn from each other

Thanks for reading through

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