It was about seven thirty in the morning when I arrived at the office, and I always arrived before the rest of the employees. That was a habit I learned from one of my uncles, who is one of the most sought-after managers by large companies in the country. To the point where, after his retirement, some companies still call him to serve as a financial advisor.
With him, I learned several things about the working world that were very useful to me, and helped me to move up quickly in the companies where I worked. In fact, by applying his work method, I rose to supervisor in less than a year, which made the managers of the area where I worked take notice of me.
—Hello, Rodrigo, how are you? — my boss asked.
—Very well, Mr. Hernandez, and you, how are you? — I answered.
—Really, I'm very well. Rodrigo, I wanted to ask you a question. You know, when you were an area worker, you always arrived early, and whenever you could, you put in overtime. And now that you're an area supervisor, you arrive earlier than the workers and work overtime whenever you can, it seems to me that nothing has changed, with the promotion then. — Mr. Hernandez told me.
—Actually, a lot of things have changed. Let me tell you, I learned with my uncle that one should arrive at work early and also, one should enjoy what one does, and when one no longer enjoys one's job, the best thing is to quit. And in my case, I love my job at the plant.
On the other hand, with the arriving early. I have been able to see that the other supervisors arrive a little later than the workers, however, I say to myself, How can I require a worker or a person who is in charge of me to arrive early, if I do not do it? That is, we must lead by example.
As for overtime, in my group, it's where there are more rookie people, so when an extra day comes out I take it with them, and that way, I can support the rookies and the team in general. That gives us a lot of cohesion at work, and as you well know, out of the three months I've been a supervisor in my area, my team has earned the production bonus for two months. —
After that conversation, my boss did not ask me again about the schedule, or about the work meetings I did with the staff. If there was one thing that I was clear about, it was that I wanted to be the head of the area and I knew that for that, I had to work hard, and also, I had to publicize my way of managing and make it visible, especially to managers, and that would achieve it at the level of results.
Now, to achieve that goal, I knew that I had to sacrifice several things, since achieving that goal meant dedicating time, it meant studying, staying updated, in order to be able to measure up as a representative of the company, but I also had to dedicate time to the workers and support them, in order to be a good leader.
So I had to devote a lot of time and effort to work, I also wanted to do a postgraduate degree, and besides that I wanted to maintain the relationship with my partner. However, one cannot do all the things one wants, and even less if what one wants to do involves people, because people, and especially couples, one must dedicate time to them and give them quality of life.
However, many times one gets carried away by ambition and the goals one sets, ceasing to value other situations that are as or more important than personal achievements, and the visions one has of success. And when one loses those life prospects, one really moves away from a harmonious path in life.
—Rodrigo, this can't go on like this, you've become a workaholic. Now we spend almost no time together, and when you are with me, your workers call you to ask their problems. I want to live with you, not with your company. — My girlfriend Karla told me, very upset.
—You're right, dear. I have neglected you a lot, and I have also neglected our relationship a lot, I ask you to apologize. I will try to change the situation as soon as possible. — I answered him.
—I hope that's the case. I don't want to waste my life in an empty relationship like this. I love you very much, but I can't go on like this, you have to decide what you want to do, whether to have a family, or have your job success. — She said, as she stormed off, closing the door on her way out.
But while that was happening to me in my personal life, it was something else in the company. I remember that in July, the Area Manager requested a transfer to a company headquarters in the interior of the country. That week, I had an appointment with Karla, to go to the theatre and to dinner on Friday. But just that day, it was the farewell meeting of the Area Chief, and we did it at the end of the work schedule.
Since I had an engagement with Karla, I decided to say goodbye and leave, but when I was leaving to look for Karla, the General Manager arrived, with the Production Manager, and they asked me to stay a few minutes.
At that moment, Mr. Hernández told us how good he felt to have worked with us and to have been our boss, and after the dismissal, which was quite emotional for him, he gave the floor to the General Manager. And he announced to all the workers at the meeting, that I would be, as of Monday, the new Area Chief.
From that moment, the toasts began again, and I realized that the meeting was going to be extended. For that reason I called Karla, and very happy I told her the news, I also invited her to come to the company meeting and told her that on Saturday, we would go as promised.
Karla, she said goodbye, and told me that we would see each other on Saturday, and in fact, when I went to see my girlfriend, I brought her some chocolate candies, which we ate together, while she told me that she was done with me, and she told me, that I was the one to blame for our relationship going down.
So, when I finished talking to her, I left, and I realized that, if it's true that I had achieved a job success, it was also true that I had lost my partner. That is, I had obtained an achievement in life, but that achievement, in turn, had brought me a loss. And is that achievements in life, are always achieved with a sacrifice, that's why in our life, as the popular saying goes, we must take into account that: "There are no roses without thorns".
Thanks for reading me.
Eran cerca de las siete y treinta de la mañana cuando llegué a la oficina, y yo siempre llegaba ante que el resto de los empleados. Esa era una costumbre que aprendí de uno de mis tíos, que es uno de los gerentes más solicitados por las grandes empresas del país. Hasta el punto en que, después de su retiro, todavía lo llaman algunas empresas para que les sirva como asesor financiero.
Con él aprendí varias cosas del mundo laboral que me fueron muy útiles, y me ayudaron a ascender con rapidez en las empresas en las que trabajaba. De hecho, al aplicar su método de trabajo, subí a supervisor en menos de un año, lo que hizo que los gerentes del área donde trabajaba se fijaran en mí.
—Hola, Rodrigo, ¿cómo estás? —preguntó mi jefe.
—Muy bien, señor Hernández, ¿Y usted, cómo está? —contesté.
—Realmente, estoy muy bien. Rodrigo, quería hacerte una pregunta. Sabes, cuando eras trabajador del área, siempre llegabas temprano, y cada vez que podías metías horas extras. Y ahora que eres un supervisor del área, llegas más temprano que loa trabajadores y trabajas horas extras cada vez que puedes, me parece que nada ha cambiado, con el ascenso entonces. — me comentó el señor Hernández.
—En realidad, muchas cosas han cambiado. Le comento, yo aprendí con mi tío que uno debe llegar temprano al trabajo y además, debe disfrutar de lo que hace, y cuando uno ya no disfruta de su trabajo, lo mejor es dejarlo. Y en mi caso, me encanta mi trabajo en la planta.
Por otro lado, con lo de llegar temprano. Yo he podido ver, que los demás supervisores llegan un poco más tarde que los trabajadores, sin embargo, yo me digo a mí mismo, ¿Cómo le puedo exigir a un trabajador o a una persona que esté a mi cargo que llegue temprano, si yo no lo hago? Es decir, debemos predicar con el ejemplo.
En cuanto a las horas extras, en mi grupo, es donde hay más personas novatas, así que cuando sale una jornada extra la tomo con ellos, y así, puedo apoyar a los novatos y al equipo en general. Eso nos da mucha cohesión en lo laboral, y como usted bien lo sabe, de los tres meses que llevo como supervisor en mi área, mi equipo se ha ganado durante dos meses el bono de producción. —
Después de esa conversación, mi jefe no volvió a preguntarme por el horario, o por las reuniones de trabajo que hacía con el personal. Si había algo que yo tenía claro, es que yo quería ser el jefe del área y sabía que para eso, debía trabajar mucho, y además, debía dar a conocer mi forma de gerenciar y hacer que la misma fuera visible, sobre todo para los gerentes, y eso lo lograría a nivel de resultados.
Ahora bien, para lograr esa meta, sabía que debía sacrificar varias cosas, ya que lograr esa meta significaba dedicar tiempo, significaba estudiar, mantenerse actualizado, para poder dar la talla como representante de la empresa, pero también debía dedicar tiempo a los trabajadores y apoyarlos, para poder ser un buen líder.
Así que debía dedicar mucho tiempo y esfuerzo, al trabajo, además quería hacer un postgrado, y además de eso quería mantener la relación con mi pareja. Sin embargo, uno no puede hacer todas las cosas que quiere, y menos si eso que uno quiere hacer, implica a personas, debido a que las personas, y más a las parejas, uno debe dedicarles tiempo y darles calidad de vida.
Sin embargo, muchas veces uno se deja llevar por la ambición y por las metas que se coloca, dejando de valorar, otras situaciones que son tan o más importantes que los logros personales, y las visiones que uno tenga del éxito. Y cuando uno pierde esas perspectivas de vida, realmente se aleja de un camino armónico en la vida.
—Rodrigo, ya esto no puede seguir así, te convertiste en un adicto al trabajo. Ahora no pasamos casi tiempo juntos, y cuando estás conmigo, te llaman tus trabajadores para plantearte sus problemas. Yo quiero vivir contigo, no con tu empresa. — Me dijo mi novia Karla, muy molesta.
—Tienes razón querida. Te he descuidado mucho, y también he descuidado mucho nuestra relación, te pido que me disculpes. Intentaré cambiar la situación lo antes posible. — Le contesté.
—Espero que sea así. No quiero desperdiciar mi vida en una relación vacía como esta. Te quiero mucho, pero no puedo seguir así, debes decidir lo que quieres hacer, si tener una familia, o tener tu éxito laboral. — Dijo, mientras se fue furiosa cerrando la puerta al salir.
Pero mientras eso me pasaba en la vida personal, en la empresa era otra cosa. Recuerdo que en julio, el Jefe de Área, solicitó traslado a una sede de la empresa en el interior del país. Esa semana, había quedado con Karla, ir al teatro y a cenar el día viernes. Pero justo ese día, fue la reunión de despedida del Jefe de Área, y la hicimos al final del horario del trabajo.
Yo, como tenía un compromiso con Karla, decidí despedirme e irme, pero cuando me estaba yendo a buscar a Karla, llegó el Gerente General, con el Gerente de Producción, y me pidieron que me quedara unos minutos.
En ese momento, el señor Hernández, nos comunicó, lo bien que se sentía de haber trabajado con nosotros y de haber sido nuestro jefe, y después de la despida, que fue bastante emotiva para él, le dio la palabra al Gerente General. Y este le anunció a todos los trabajadores en la reunión, que yo sería, a partir del lunes, el nuevo Jefe de Área.
A partir de ese momento, comenzaron de nuevo los brindis y me di cuenta de que la reunión se iba a extender. Por ese motivo llamé a Karla, y muy contento le comuniqué la noticia, además la invité a venir a la reunión de la empresa y le dije que el sábado, saldríamos según lo prometido.
Karla, se despido, y me dijo que nos veríamos el sábado, y de hecho, cuando fui a ver a mi novia, le llevé unos dulces de chocolate, los cuales nos comimos juntos, mientras ella me decía que terminaba conmigo, y me dijo, que yo era el culpable de que nuestra relación se fuera a pique.
Así, que al terminar de hablar con ella, me fui, y me di cuenta de que, si es cierto, que había logrado un éxito laboral, también era cierto que había perdido a mi pareja. Es decir, había obtenido un logro en la vida, pero ese logro, a su vez, me había traído una pérdida. Y es que los logros en la vida, siempre se logran con un sacrificio, por eso en nuestra vida, como dice el refrán popular, debemos tomar en cuenta que: "No hay rosas sin espinas".
Gracias por leerme.
https://x.com/ronaldjmarrero/status/1849631736340091365
You can't really serve two masters at the same time. You are really dedicated in your work, and it's really an admirable trait, yet of 'course you're still a human with limited time. You're really bound to lose her the moment you commit to your work. You indeed can't gain if you don't lose something. Thanks for sharing, @osomar357! It was a very insightful read.
You can't eat your cake and have it.
Being ambitious and aiming the peak of one's professional ladder is good however, one should try to maintain a good balance in both.
@osomar357
A great example of how some things come at a cost that is often hidden from us. Too bad his girlfriend left him, and I wonder if he learned the lesson or not. He seemed very committed to his job.
I like how you took time to describe the man's daily life demonstrating his commitment to his career as the expense of other aspect of his life. I think I was expecting to read more at the end about whether he changed or not. Did he learn his lesson or continued the same? I enjoyed reading his conundrum.