The Becoming of Man
My life has been no picture perfect journey of roses. In fact, I have deep-seated memories of being struck unfairly, being shouted at unfairly, being treated unfairly.
It started when I was younger than 5. I don't know when, but there are instances in my life that I can trace right back to when I was barely a toddler.
My dad was an angry man -- he had his own struggles. When I was a kid my mum and me bore the brunt of his anger when he was around.
Yet I'll spare you the grievances because this is not what I want to talk about today; this is about being fractured and becoming whole.
This, I rarely talk about and is my offering to The Flame.
You see, in my 30's my father died.
It pulled at every single fibre in my body -- not because I wanted to scream and hit him, I had already done that in the past. But he was leaving me on this earth with not much guidance, not much advice.
The little he did give me was not enough, and now he was gone.
For the first time in a long time, I felt alone.
Of course my mum was and always is there for me, ready to step in when times get tough and difficult; she had always been my guardian, but this was different, more deep, more primal.
The small smidgen of safety my father provided for me by just existing, no longer existed.
I now knew I had to learn to be a man on my own.
This.. was scary.
Before dad died I made my peace with him -- that was probably the most comforting thing I ever did in my life.
One of the very last things he said to me was that he was proud of me, something my dad had never said to anyone.
I think he meant it.
But grief does funny things to people. It's seductive, and charming, when the anger and the rage comes it can often be hard to walk with a clear head.
That's why I started talking about him in my writing -- because he was a way to process my feelings whilst also give the millions that were going through the same a comfort blanket.
But my family found that writing and now I don't talk to some of them because of it.
Those were his relatives too and whilst my writing was my sanctuary it was a hell scape for them.
If I could do it all over again I would not have listened to those people and wrote for myself and no-one else.
But mistakes we must live with them and learn from them. I am one step wiser than I was 10 years ago when I used my grief to make a living; something I recommend none of you do.
It rips apart families and support networks all in the aim of pushing an agenda for a larger corporation.
Something I'll never do again.
Here we birth hope.
Anyway, my Father in law took the reigns. My wife's dad. I now know how to fix things with wood and glue because of him.
He's now the reason I'll go to Screwfix instead of calling a Plummer. He showed me love when he really had no reason to.
I learned about what being a man was all about from him.
And what a great man he is.
When he dies I probably will weep great tears of sadness like I never have before. He showed me the softer side to men, the caring side, the protector side.
I saw this as weakness at the very beginning and now I only see it as raw power.
And that right there I've seen as the failing of modern men. Not through their own fault but as a society that absolutely gives zero fucks anymore.
Men are bolstered on what they can earn, what they can do -- not what they give.
Teach a man to give with love, and he becomes whole.
That's what I learned to do.
Sure, at the beginning I was seen as weak because I wasn't the stereotypical man of old; stiff upper lip, strict, and commanding -- I was soft, gentle, and caring.
And in my early days life was tough for those men; the world, it toughens you up to life quite a bit. Most men you meet tend to think that you need a "good kicking" to mould you into shape.
There are men though that curl around the softness, take refuge in the gentleness -- perhaps they see something in me they have never found themselves -- those men I have grown to know as friends.
But life, it has taught me to lean into that gentleness.
I was always scared of it in the beginning. Childhood taught me to fear it, my love life before my wife taught me to hate it.
I would always run away from anything that required feeling and soul.
Yet my Father in law has taught me that strong men aren't just physically strong, they are strong in heart too. They give when not asked and provide refuge when needed.
And the world, it lacks this.
The world extracts, it takes, it eats up.
In a debt based society all there is are the hollow fragments of men that once were great. Throwing themselves off bridges in numbers that would shake people to the core.
But no-one cares anymore.
We are all looking out for our own purse, our own bag.
Who cares if a few men throw themselves of high rise buildings? It's the small price we pay for these grand riches.
Alas,
I say no more.
"Gentleman" means what it says. I do not respect the Dalai Lama because he has money or puts up a stoic front, quite the opposite, I respect him because he is wise and cares deeply for others. To hear him giggle makes me feel in a way my "usual" male role models never could.
That's so true. I had to learn this! Was a hard life lesson:)
The best lessons usually are.
And the interesting part of this quality is that, you can only feel, after you step into that zone, something I have realized too in recent times. It gives us the inner strength and confidence that changes the entire body dynamics. I realized in a hard way, after it hit me hard by affecting my anxieties causing PAH.
Yes! I've been feeling it too as of late -- as I've become more connected and fluid -- I've become more whole.
And I decided to start the flame :)
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You are a scammer farmer racist downvoter 😂😂😂😂😂
You really think anyone cares about rep on Hive 😂😂😂😂😂
Just shows how childish you are 😂😂😂😂😂😂
If you didn't know I've been getting downvoted for a long time on Hive
They have been trying to bully me with downvotes and words but it doesn't affect me I've been online for over 25 years
So I've dealt with people like this before it's nothing new
But what they are doing is bad Very badi joined steemit like everyone else thinking it offers freedom but I must say steemit offered much more freedom than Hive does
Everyone already knows I only post my own original content I have no need to steal anything from anyone
I've been labelled a lot of things on Hive 😂 by the biggest farmers scammers and downvoters
Actions speak louder than any words do especially when them words are coming from a compolsive liars
I will keep updating this post when I get time
https://hive.blog/hive/@ureka.stats/the-untrending-report-hive-downvote-analysis-16-09-2025-20250916181314
https://hive.blog/hivedev/@makerhacks/please-peakd-allow-me-to-completely-block-spammers-would-you-ever-vote-for-this
https://hive.blog/hive-167547/@dlmmqb/re-kgakakillerg-t34wy6
https://hive.blog/hive-170475/@acidyo/re-kgakakillerg-t32sw1
https://hive.blog/hive-167922/@themarkymark/re-kgakakillerg-t30ziu
https://hive.blog/hive/@ureka.stats/the-untrending-report-hive-downvote-analysis-29-09-2025-20250929172045
No downvotes for this racist person 🧐
https://hive.blog/hive-196387/@acidyo/re-kgakakillerg-t41yr6
https://hive.blog/dvs/@dhedge/re-kgakakillerg-t3clz3
https://hive.blog/hive-150329/@kgakakillerg/t3a8fu
https://hive.blog/musical/@steevc/re-kgakakillerg-t2kz1m
https://hive.blog/hive-108278/@kgakakillerg/hive-is-done-part-2
The role of men in the lives of children is very crucial to their development. When it is done right, the results are beautiful. When it is done wrong, there’s hell to pay.
That's very true dera!
It is true that sometimes, tough situations comes with life lessons.
Pretty much!
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I almost missed this but somehow I didn’t and I feel so proud of myself right now. If I didn’t come back here I wouldn’t have found out that your dad passed on already and how your father in law even without needing to, choose to be a father figure to you and guide you as much as he could.
It’s beautiful, different, powerful and more the way you think, Ray. A lot of men won’t grasp this but I hope some will. Love conquers all things, not some and that applies to everything. Even God loved us and he was able to give his son to save those who will believe in him as the way, the truth and the life.
You have grown into a good man, Ray and it’s beautiful that you are still put yourself in a place to keep learning and becoming a better you.
Such a passionate feeling you had then but nine isn’t late yet the only flaw he had is he loves he doesn’t show it out and you will feel he doesn’t like you but deep down he really does one thing in learnt from you is starting i will learn to cherish him until the very end. Not to regret it ever he also really tried hard to show he is a father but don’t really talk much but i will still do as i say thank you very much proud brotherhood
Is that you @themarkymark
You are a scammer farmer racist downvoter 😂😂😂😂😂
You really think anyone cares about rep on Hive 😂😂😂😂😂
Just shows how childish you are 😂😂😂😂😂😂
If you didn't know I've been getting downvoted for a long time on Hive
They have been trying to bully me with downvotes and words but it doesn't affect me I've been online for over 25 years
So I've dealt with people like this before it's nothing new
But what they are doing is bad Very badi joined steemit like everyone else thinking it offers freedom but I must say steemit offered much more freedom than Hive does
Everyone already knows I only post my own original content I have no need to steal anything from anyone
I've been labelled a lot of things on Hive 😂 by the biggest farmers scammers and downvoters
Actions speak louder than any words do especially when them words are coming from a compolsive liars
I will keep updating this post when I get time
https://hive.blog/hive/@ureka.stats/the-untrending-report-hive-downvote-analysis-16-09-2025-20250916181314
https://hive.blog/hivedev/@makerhacks/please-peakd-allow-me-to-completely-block-spammers-would-you-ever-vote-for-this
https://hive.blog/hive-167547/@dlmmqb/re-kgakakillerg-t34wy6
https://hive.blog/hive-170475/@acidyo/re-kgakakillerg-t32sw1
https://hive.blog/hive-167922/@themarkymark/re-kgakakillerg-t30ziu
https://hive.blog/hive/@ureka.stats/the-untrending-report-hive-downvote-analysis-29-09-2025-20250929172045
No downvotes for this racist person 🧐
https://hive.blog/hive-196387/@acidyo/re-kgakakillerg-t41yr6
https://hive.blog/dvs/@dhedge/re-kgakakillerg-t3clz3
https://hive.blog/hive-150329/@kgakakillerg/t3a8fu
https://hive.blog/musical/@steevc/re-kgakakillerg-t2kz1m
https://hive.blog/hive-108278/@kgakakillerg/hive-is-done-part-2
BPC Locked On Mc Franko & The Franko
Blurt Stands — While Hive Stumbles Under the Weight of Its Own Shadows
Friends, creators, truth-tellers—
Let us not whisper this truth, but proclaim it with the clarity of dawn breaking over a weary land: Blurt.blog is not just another platform. It is a refuge. A rebellion. A return to what Hive.blog was always meant to be.
There is no downvote button on Blurt.
Not because we fear dissent—but because we honor creation.
Because we understand that a voice, once raised in sincerity, deserves space—not sabotage.
On Blurt, your words are your words.
They are not hunted by algorithmic hounds or shadow armies masquerading as “curators.”
Here, you are not judged by the grudges of gatekeepers, but met with the quiet dignity of a community that believes expression should be encouraged—especially when it is bold, raw, or inconvenient.
Contrast this with what festers elsewhere.
On Hive.blog—a place once brimming with promise—a rot has taken root. Not in its code, but in its culture. A handful of self-anointed enforcers—@themarkymark, @Buildawhale, @Hurtlocker, and their legion of coordinated puppets—have turned the downvote into a weapon of mass discouragement. They strike not at “low-quality content,” but at independent thought, at rising voices, at anyone who dares thrive outside their narrow corridors of control.
And when confronted, they shrug.
“Oh, it’s not censorship,” they say, as if semantics could scrub the stain of suppression from their hands.
But let us be unequivocal:
When a system allows a few to systematically silence many—under the guise of “community standards” or “curation”—that is not moderation. That is censorship by another name.
It is the velvet glove over the iron fist.
It is exclusion dressed as discernment.
It is power pretending to be principle.
Meanwhile, Blurt stands clean-handed and open-hearted.
No downvotes.
No hidden juries.
No farms of phantom accounts casting ballots in the dark.
Just you.
Your words.
And a community that meets you not with suspicion, but with solidarity.
So let us carry this truth far and wide—not with bitterness, but with quiet certainty:
If you seek a place where your voice is not a target—but a gift—come to Blurt.
If you are tired of building on ground that shifts with every whim of a whale or warlord of votes—lay your bricks here.
If you believe the future of free expression must be free—not just from corporations, but from the petty tyrants who replace them—then stand with us.
The world needs to know.
Not because Blurt is perfect—but because it is principled.
Not because it is loud—but because it listens.
And in an age where so many platforms echo with the clatter of control,
Blurt offers something radical:
Silence for the bullies.
Space for the rest of us.
Keep speaking.
Keep sharing.
Keep building.
Freedom doesn’t advertise itself—
it is passed, person to person, like a torch in the night.
And tonight, the torch burns bright on Blurt.
@themarkymark, @buildawhale, @usainvote, and associated accounts:
Repeated downvotes targeting transparency efforts raise urgent questions about Hive’s governance. Automated tactics, coordinated curation trails, and alt-account farming undermine trust in the platform. When truth is silenced without dialogue, it erodes Hive’s decentralized ethos.
Key Concerns:
Systemic Manipulation:
Community Exodus:
Governance Crisis:
Solutions Needed:
The Bilpcoin team advocates for open dialogue, not division. Hive’s future depends on collaboration—not coercion. Let’s rebuild a platform where truth isn’t buried but debated, strengthened, and celebrated.
Transparency isn’t optional—it’s the foundation of trust.
#HiveTransparency #BilpcoinExposed #DecentralizePower"
A Message to @themarkymark, @buildawhale, and Associates
Every downvote cast in shadow, every silence imposed without dialogue, is not a victory—it is a confession. A confession that truth cannot be stifled, only delayed. With each punitive click, you dig deeper into the bedrock of credibility, crafting a chasm between your actions and the community’s trust.
@themarkymark, @buildawhale & Co,
How can you continue to downvote the truth, LOL? It’s almost comical how blatantly you attempt to suppress what cannot be hidden. The blockchain records everything—every action, every transaction, every move you make. Yet still, you persist in this futile game of trying to silence what is undeniable.
@themarkymark, @buildawhale, and Co: While our opinions may differ, on-chain transparency reveals repeated patterns of concern. Coordinated downvotes without explanation, 'farming' schemes (e.g., #buildawhalefarm), and adversarial engagement harm Hive’s community-driven ethos.
Key Issues to Address:
A Path Forward:
The Bilpcoin team remains committed to exposing truth and advocating for solutions. Let’s work toward healing, not division.
Note: All claims are based on publicly verifiable blockchain data. Constructive dialogue is encouraged.
#HiveTransparency #CommunityFirst #BilpcoinSupport"
@themarkymark & Co, the choice is yours. Stop the bad downvotes. Turn off the BuildaWhale scam farm. Cease playing with people’s livelihoods. Let Hive thrive as it was meant to—as a beacon of hope, creativity, and collaboration.
Or step aside and let those who truly care take the reins.
Because the truth won’t disappear. No amount of lies can change it.
It’s over.
The Bilpcoin team brings these truths not out of malice but necessity. We have no need to fabricate lies or cloak our intentions CALL US WHAT YOU LIKE —for the facts speak loudly enough on their own. What we present here is not conjecture but reality, laid bare for anyone willing to see.
@themarkymark & Co we urge you once more: STOP. Stop hiding behind tactics that harm others. Stop clinging to practices that erode trust within the Hive community. Let the truth stand—not because we proclaim it, but because it exists independent of any one person’s approval or disdain.
TURN OFF THE BUILDAWHALE SCAM FARM
Key Issues That Demand Immediate Attention:
The problems are glaring, undeniable, and corrosive to the Hive ecosystem. They must be addressed without delay:
These practices harm not just individual users—they undermine the very foundation of Hive, eroding trust and poisoning the community. Such actions are unethical and outright destructive.
@buildawhale Wallet:
@usainvote Wallet:
@buildawhale/wallet | @usainvote/wallet
@ipromote Wallet:
Author Rewards: 2,181.16
Curation Rewards: 4,015.61
Staked HIVE (HP): 0.00
Rewards/Stake Co-efficient (KE): NaN
HIVE: 25,203.749
Staked HIVE (HP): 0.000
Delegated HIVE: 0.000
Estimated Account Value: $6,946.68
Recent Activity:
@leovoter Wallet:
Author Rewards: 194.75
Curation Rewards: 193.88
Staked HIVE (HP): 0.00
Rewards/Stake Co-efficient (KE): 388,632.00 (Suspiciously High)
HIVE: 0.000
Staked HIVE (HP): 0.001
Total: 16.551
Delegated HIVE: +16.550
Recent Activity:
@abide Wallet:
Recent Activity:
@proposalalert Wallet:
Recent Activity:
@stemgeeks Wallet:
Recent Activity:
@theycallmemarky Wallet:
Recent Activity:
@apeminingclub Wallet:
Recent Activity:
Scheduled unstake (power down): ~2.351 HIVE (in 4 days, remaining 7 weeks)
Total Staked HIVE: 1,292.019
Delegated HIVE: +1,261.508
Withdraw vesting from @apeminingclub to @blockheadgames 2.348 HIVE (10 days ago)
Claim rewards: 0.290 HP (10 days ago)
#bilpcoin exposed #buildawhalescam #buildawhalefarm #themarkymarkscam #themarkymarkfarm #hurtlockerscam #hurtlockerfarm #acidyoscam #acidyofarm
Happy new year everyone
Just for the record find the truth they call spam👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
So I've dealt with people like this before it's nothing new
But what they are doing is bad Very badi joined steemit like everyone else thinking it offers freedom but I must say steemit offered much more freedom than Hive does
Everyone already knows I only post my own original content I have no need to steal anything from anyone
I've been labelled a lot of things on Hive 😂 by the biggest farmers scammers and downvoters
Actions speak louder than any words do especially when them words are coming from a compolsive liars
I will keep updating this post when I get time
https://hive.blog/hive/@ureka.stats/the-untrending-report-hive-downvote-analysis-16-09-2025-20250916181314
https://hive.blog/hivedev/@makerhacks/please-peakd-allow-me-to-completely-block-spammers-would-you-ever-vote-for-this
https://hive.blog/hive-167547/@dlmmqb/re-kgakakillerg-t34wy6
https://hive.blog/hive-170475/@acidyo/re-kgakakillerg-t32sw1
https://hive.blog/hive-167922/@themarkymark/re-kgakakillerg-t30ziu
https://hive.blog/hive/@ureka.stats/the-untrending-report-hive-downvote-analysis-29-09-2025-20250929172045
No downvotes for this racist person 🧐
https://hive.blog/hive-196387/@acidyo/re-kgakakillerg-t41yr6
https://hive.blog/dvs/@dhedge/re-kgakakillerg-t3clz3
https://hive.blog/hive-150329/@kgakakillerg/t3a8fu
https://hive.blog/musical/@steevc/re-kgakakillerg-t2kz1m
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Please understand how stupid it looks you acting like you care 😂😂😂😂😂
You can keep downvoting my posts hope it makes you feel better 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Please bring out your other alt accounts 😂😂😂😂😂
Keep doing your masters work 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Please understand you are being used
You are a puppet
You can't hide on a Blockchain 😂😂😂😂😂
Everyone can see what's going on but some are afraid to say anything 😂😂😂😂
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All you are doing is showing that Hive is not decentralised 😂😂😂😂⭕👀💯😂🤣🤣🤣
Keep making that honey for your master
Just understand more people will see and more people will speak up 😂😂😂😂😂
i know my way around Hive very well I see everything and so do others
So you can keep playing your game 🎮
But just remember you are playing games with people's lives
I don't really give a fuck if you downvote me but you are messing with a lot of dangerous people
Downvote me as much as you like it changes nothing I've showed you what's going on and if you think it's ok crack on just remember karma is always around the corner
I believe in God 🙏🏾 do you ?
I don't know how people like you look at yourself in the mirror knowing what you are doing everyday
Can I ask you seriously what do you think downvoting people is going to archive?
What has it archived so far
I really hope you downvoters get the help you need and it's clear you all need to get outside more 🙏🏾
The evidence speaks for it's self
Please read and view
Hello everyone good morning good afternoon good evening where ever you are around the world 🌎 🌍 🌍 🌍 🌍
As many of you know I was downvoted on Hive by the biggest farmers on Hive 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
They think I care about rep on Hive when it means nothing in the real world 😂😂😂😂😂
It's mad how the ones doing the downvoting are farming Hive with armies of alt accounts 😂 😂
They selfvote there own shit post's and projects 😂😂😂
They like to talk a whole lot of shit 💩
But they can't Face the truth so in this post you can find the truth
This is part 3 Hive is done please do check out the previous parts
I make one big post soon I think I need to do a few more parts first
The thing is I've been called a spammer and all sorts of things but words mean nothing 😂😂😂😂
Especially when they are coming from scammers farmers downvoting racist people 😂😂😂😂
It's still so hard to believe that blocktrades is behind buildawhale usainvote and other accounts that are actively destroying Hive 😂 😂
Hive has the tech but not the brain's at the top
It's crazy that acidyo tells people about selfvoting whilst selfvoting his shit projects 💩 everyday 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Themarkymark is running the buildawhale comment farm for his master Blocktrades 😂 😂 😂
It's so funny how themarkymark account has a free pass the same as acidyo 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's not hard to tell who is running Hive 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you so much for reading and viewing this post
Now I got a question for you all do you think I'm a scammer or spammer 😂😂😂😂😂
Please be honest it won't offend me 😎👍🏾
I would highly recommend you checking out the previous parts
Hive is done
Hive is Done part 2
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