THE JOURNEY, NOT THE DESTINATION

“Life isn’t a bed of roses”, I have heard a lot of persons saying this and even though I can’t remember ever saying it, I do agree with them. Sometimes when things are all good good and no bad for us, we tend to think that life is a bed of roses, I mean, we even preach that to people too but then, the moment we get struck by the challenges of life, it is only at that moment we get to realize that it isn’t really as we thought it was.

Life is like a battlefield, you either become a victor or a loser, but that is not what defines you as most times, you get different opportunities to rewrite your story. Most times, we all want to be in the first category. I mean, no one really enjoys losing, it is tiring and frustrating. Well, even in the presence of failures and successes, being happy with one’s life, for me, it is a choice and not something that just happens on it’s own.

Being happy with one’s life, depending on the individual, it can be having a lot of power to do and undo things, it can be someone having the best grades in school, it can be getting married and having a beautiful family, graduating with a first class, getting a good paying job, going on vacations, participating in volunteering activities and so on.

To a lot of us, we are either happy with our lives or unsatisfied about our lives and this unsatisfactory feeling is what brings about us not being happy with our lives. Personally, I see my life as one of the best that most people wish for, why? Because my growth has been so consistent. I get some drawbacks every now and then but those drawbacks like a catapult, only happens just to propel me even further in life. About some months ago when I faced a major setback, I thought that I would be the saddest but somehow, my life only became better after it.

I do have ups and downs just like everyone but then, I have more than a million reason to be happy with my life. The only times I get to feel a little sad about my life is when I see myself not doing better than I was previously, when I make the same mistakes over and over and when I find it hard to distinguish between what is best for me and what is not. But overall, I’m happy with the kind of life I’m leading and of course, there are so many aspects of this happy life of mine that needs fixing and lucky me, I have been able to recognize most of them, thanks to those amazing people around me.

My life is not where I want it to be yet and if there is one interesting thing I know a little about life, it is the fact that life is a like a school, you are both a learner and a teacher. At one point or another, you are faced with different tests and examinations or you either give others test and also examine them. So, there is always room for improvement because sometimes mistakes are inevitable.

Sometimes, we become too conscious of not making mistakes only to realize that we’ve made so much mistakes that we now try to avoid learning or even teaching. For me, I believe I can choose what makes me happy, and one of the paths I have chosen to give me happiness is to become the better version of myself as much as I can. When I fail at making this happen, I feel sad and I think that is fine because it only helps remind me that I have to step up my game.

Thank you for reading through. ❤️