The real value or worth of people is in their intentions and not their money or financial capacity and this is one money psychology that is steadily ignored. For example, when we perceive people to be rich, it doesn't automatically translate to them giving you some of this money and means.
Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that when wealth overflows, it's a no-brainer that it'll inevitably spill from those who have excessive of it to those who don't, but money works anticlockwisely and no rationale or logic suits it.
This shows that you can be surrounded by rich people and still be poor
Here's a case scenario
When I was younger, I had uncles who were millionaires, but I made the mistake of thinking that since they were wealthy, automatically some of their affluence was bound to change my life too. But I remained in lack, despite my accessibility to plenty via familial ties. It took me years to understand that I wasn't deserving of these people's goodwill.
The moment I let go of that mentality that I was entitled to their help because we were family, that was when I began to find peace of fulfillment in my hustles, even if they weren't as life-changing as I would have wanted. Before people can find the strength to be independent, it means, they've gotten rid of the mindset of dependence.
One of the reasons why we wake up every day to work, earn and still be happy in the meager returns is because we find fulfillment in whatever returns we can muster
Irrespective of this, It's very difficult to start life with no connections, no capital, no goodwill, and no financial standpoint. It's so scary and what this fear builds in us is that it makes us cultivate a dependence mentality. The Dependence mentality is holding on to the idea that we're entitled to the goodwill of others to survive because we feel we do not have what it takes to make it on our own.
The real reason why we fear we cannot make it on our own is that our mind is still holding on to the idea that without the right connections, we might just toil in vain.
Everyone wants to succeed, it gets to a stage in life, we begin to question the effort because the result might be uncertain and not what we expected
A lot of people face this in life because we see a lot of competition outside there, it creates this belief that we need an already established person to help us cut corners, but the problem here is that believing in already established people, takes away the potential business moguls we might become, it takes away the potential victories we might attain after so many failures.
The fear of hustling comes from laziness and doubt in oneself.
We fail to understand that 50 to 70% of these established people who we are banking on, to have a breakthrough are interested in building themselves to attain more milestones of financial independence.
People who have achieved every financial milestone, might seem satisfied on the surface, but most of them have this baseless fear of hitting ground zero even if they cannot be poor again, they still keep chasing the million, because to them it's an endless journey.
In reality, I wouldn't even judge them, I would never judge a wealthy person who's fighting to own more wealth because it takes genuinety and true love for a wealthy man to halt their wealth-building process to build you as they build themselves. Building people can be difficult, sometimes, we have to look from the perspective of the builder; the challenges they're encountering..... (To be contd)
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Great write up, looking up to rich relatives is never the answer to getting wealthy. Finding a hustle you love and working on it , building slowly is the way to go. That is how they got to be wealthy. Of course they could help you with capital or connection to a job but you got to work and make it grow. The funny thing is that money is never enough, everyone will always want more of it no matter their net worth.
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Well a lot of people do not know this and that's why I took the opportunity to educate them. It's difficult to probably build without connections, but depending on already established people for connections can go wrongly. This is why we firstly need to believe in our ability to do it. Thank you for coming through.
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I remember growing up with the same mentality, thinking that my since my aunt is rich, she would give me some money and also like you I realise nothing like that was ever going to happen. Honestly, starting out in life with nothing and no connections is not easy but it gets better with time. Someone once told me that a rich man will never show you his source, he would rather prefer to keep on giving you crumbles, and I think this is true for many of them.
Well, I think sometimes rich people just do this because a lot of them do this not because they're 100% stingy and fearful but because they fear if people can do the things they've done for money..
As for your Aunt, my uncle's were millionaires, but I suffered the worst form of hardship
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Could be the reason though, however I think not in all cases.
Wow, but this strengthened you to hustle for yourself.
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The fear does sometimes get you paralyzed. Mine was sort of a paranoia when I realized that I had to start from ground zero and build my way up. The journey is long and the obstacles are oftentimes seen as bigger than a mountain. There are little to no reference points or blueprint to follow, everything is figured out along the way.
There are no footprint to follow like you've said. I don't know if your parents were wealthy, but a lot of people do wish they could have had wealthy parents, so they wouldn't have started from ground zero.
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Yes, indeed. My dad was wealthy at some point but he lost it all during the 2008 Financial crisis. I was still young by then but it was in my mid teens that I realized that I personally had nothing and had to start from ground zero. Like you, I also had wealthy relatives but they were 'just relatives', they made it their job to not help anyone out.
For sure being wealthy brings a sense of accomplishment, but it is important during that journey to keep our values and earn in a fair way. This way we'll feel fulfilled for our work and also our contribution to something we believe in.
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This is true. Building connections is hard, especially when we think already established people are going to help us..
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This blog is filled with some facts.
Honestly the thoughts of trying to succeed alone, struggle and fail is quite difficult to deal with.
I have been fighting it but it still lingers to this day, to me it's more of a continuous process (I will keep fighting)
The thoughts of failure has killed so many great ideas and has always lead to poverty and regrets.
This is something we all should learn about, and try hard to overcome.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts š¬
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At one point in time, people will have to strive on their own and this is because, the idea that wealth is translational from one person who is, to another person who isn't, hardly works..
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You are right šÆ
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I think it's a fool's game to compare yourself with others financially. There are different conditions to everything and the best thing to do is to just focus on building yourself up. Relying on others might be nice but people learn more from overcoming things themselves.
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This is a great read. Growing up in a country where the culture of helping each other is too strong, your blog is a good 'explanation' of why others are entitled to their own money and why we should not be entitled to the result of their hard work.
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The case of having a rich uncle is far from having a father who can bring your dreams to reality in one snap.
I had this mentality until 2010, I knew depending on someone because of his financial prowess would mean my life rotting away slowly. We have a life to live and sometimes I tell myself that if the person I was looking up to was as well looking up to someone when he was like me, he might not have attained so much such success today.
Nice. I'll have to wait for the continuation, though, because the title seems like you are about to give an analysis about whether people's worth is embedded in their financial capacity. In this post you mostly talked about making it without connections, entitlement and stuff. I'm waiting on that analysis, bro šš