A Slice of Selfishness Before “I Do”

Selflessness is what we all preach; it's the way to go. Sticking up for others, being there for them, and sacrificing our time, money, and present for the good of others is what we're encouraged to do as humans because, after all, we are all we've got, and it's best we stick up for one another. However, despite how great and noble selflessness is, we can't help but recognize that not everyone is selfless; there are people who think only about themselves and don't give a shit about how the other person fares. Aside from these people, there are also people who just for a while take the role of being selfish so they can treat themselves to something good, and to be honest, it isn't a bad thing to do; we also deserve some special treatment, and if no one is giving us that, then we owe it to ourselves to do just that.

You see, saying it's worth knowing that me saying it's okay to be selfish once in a while doesn't mean I'm entirely a selfish person, while I know my word alone can't justify who I am, still I'd love to say that I see myself as an overly selfless human who's ever there for my friends, family, loved ones, and even strangers, and I'm sure many of those around me can attest to that. So with that being settled, I'd like to reaffirm the fact that being selfish once in a while isn't a sin. Like I said earlier, we owe it to ourselves to treat ourselves to the best of whatever we need, especially when you're being all selfless all the time and yet don't get anyone to look out for you as well.

Talking about when last I was selfish or being selfish, I'd say it was a couple of months ago; I guess August or September, to be precise. Around that time, I was preparing for my wedding ceremony that was to be held in December of the year 2025. At that time I was so overwhelmed by all the preparation, the financial obligation, and much more that was expected of me for the wedding to go well as planned, and it got to a point where I was overthinking how I'll get every bill ahead of me sorted. Then I just flipped, and I'm like, you know what? For now I'm craving pizza, and I'm going to get it, savor every moment as I devour it, and put everything about the preparation off my mind for the time being.

So even though around that time I'm yet to completely purchase all that was in the bride prize list, none pay for all that will make the event a success, and still I went ahead and purchased the pizza. I hid it in my bag because I got it on my way to work, went to my office, and started devouring it, and then I realized, "I can't eat all this pizza by myself," so I called my two best friends at the office over to come join me so we could all enjoy the pizza together. That very day was the last time I got to be selfish and not take a step without a consciousness of how it'll not only favor me but also my partner, parents, siblings, and friends. As you can see, even in that selfishness, I still acted selflessly by calling my friends over to join me.

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